One thing you hate about your partner?
By xio shi
@simonelee (2715)
China
June 2, 2012 11:38am CST
Relationship is not always perfect, our partner is not perfect either. There's always i hope, i wish. So, what is the most hated part about your girlfriend/boyfriend? It can be attitude, character, mannerism,etc.
I see may partner perfect, good-looking, smart, God fearing, and rich. When time passes by there's one thing i don't like most, being friendly. And they took advantage of that. So, what's your?![](/Content/images/emotes/happy.gif)
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15 responses
@simonelee (2715)
• China
4 Jun 12
Being rationale all the time. That's quite irritating. Glad you can still manage him? It takes a lot of patient and understanding be with a man like him. Is there any situation that you two meet and burst? It's not always you ignore him. What if you're not in the mood to hear him?
@simonelee (2715)
• China
6 Jun 12
Change the topic and come up with another debatable one.
Seems like everything to him has an explanation.
Is he a funny guy? Smart guys sometimes can be boring. Often serious and if they throw a joke you need to think several times to understand it.hahahaha
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@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
5 Jun 12
It takes a lot of patient and understanding be with a man like him..it is exactly, sometime i am tired with it..but i love him, then what should i do...i am crazy, sometime i think that. This time when he wanna do like that, i just say i am tired...then he understands and change to another topic...![](/Content/images/emotes/w00t.gif)
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@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
2 Jun 12
Really a nice topic. This is the reason why people like change and we always try to keep changing as times moves on. We live together and as and when we live together there may be mis-matches, difference of opinion and there may be clashes in ideas, thoughts, ideologies and the like. Quite natural and the best way out is we should evaluate or understand ourself and our partner better. Understand how and why she/he is and we need to prepare to live with our partner with their attitudes. To an extent by an open discussion can help a lot and a positive attitude. Also, by understanding the common feature of human nature, we have to move with a mutual understanding method to nullify the consequences.![](/Content/images/emotes/happy.gif)
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@simonelee (2715)
• China
4 Jun 12
Thank you.
They say you will only know the person whom you love after getting married or living together. Since you won't see and know everything until the person is in her/his comfort zone. I guess this is one of the reason why some people choose to stay in one roof before getting married.
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@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
6 Jun 12
To an extend it is ok, but after stying together for a period of time and found inappropriate, and parting away is somethign which I can't agree to it. If this is a best choise, people may go for the 'tirial & error' with a number of people and if at all like them, keep change to the next - not sounds good and of course, just have a discussion on what, how, etc. and go for a final decision may still advisable. ![](/Content/images/emotes/lol.gif)
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@simonelee (2715)
• China
6 Jun 12
Hahaha trial and error. I know some who actually doing it. She keeps on hoping.
And for me who's living in a conservative community/country it's unacceptable. Degradable. You'll earn less respect from men and few chance to fall in a serious relationship.
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@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
3 Jun 12
I am happy for today's generation. Today what is called as "living in relationship" was not known at our times. Not even love marriage was allowed. Mine was a simple arranged marriage and now I am 30 years with my hubby with two children. During these 30 years we did differ in many ways, but children were strong bound between us and we never thought of separation and today we are happy with each other. There is one thing now a days that irritates me and that is his rejection to every opinion of mine, every suggestion of mine. If I say yes, he has to say No....and if I say NO.....he has to say yes........I don't know if he is doing it just to annoy me
.........or is he going crazy as he is aging
Anyway, we are going to spend rest of the life together, so it is better to ignore little things and enjoy big joys...........this is life.
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@simonelee (2715)
• China
6 Jun 12
An arranged marriage? You are okay with the set up? How did your parents convince you to marry someone whom who's not your personal choice? Do you already have the feelings for him before the arrangement? It's difficult to live with a person whom you don't love.How did you survive with this set up? What is your religion if you don't mind?
"ignore little things and enjoy big joys". This is what i keep on praying. To appreciate what we have right now. We're on a rocky road right now...
@rosesthorns14 (803)
• Philippines
3 Jun 12
There's nothing I don't like about him. He may not be handsome but I love him for who he is and I am lucky to have him as a loving father to my baby daughter and a good companion to me.
@simonelee (2715)
• China
6 Jun 12
hahaha you're very honest. You are aware that your partner is not good looking but it's not one of the reasons you hate about him.
You are still lucky to have him cause its no help to have someone who's handsome but only cause you so much pain.
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@simonelee (2715)
• China
4 Jun 12
Surely everyone does. We are not perfect but those imperfection sometimes make us a happy couple and we learn from it. I guess you have several list on your mind.
Anyway, did you sometimes complain and talk to your partner about that?
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@mikyung (2232)
• Philippines
2 Jun 12
My wife is so emotional at times, to the extent of doing the unreasonable. For many years now, she is like that, when is angry, she really is. And we really fight for that reason. I believe that in order to have a harmonious relationship, I need to be assertive on the things I do, let things cool down before doing the first move.
@simonelee (2715)
• China
4 Jun 12
Emotional ladies only need attention,understanding, and cuddle.
Once she's calm down you can now talk and open to her. We ladies sometimes unpredictable and need a full attention from our partner. Men should be extra sweet too. Your wife is lucky to have you cause not all men find time to understand their wife. Keep it doing and your marriage will last.
Anyway, I'm sensitive and emotional too.![](/Content/images/emotes/lol.gif)
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@marty3888 (2355)
• Acme, Michigan
2 Jun 12
I'm not sure there's anything I actually HATE about her, but there are some things I dislike alot. I'm a romantic, she's not. not even enough to want a wedding, or have date night or anything. She was when we first met and that did last a few years. Last year was our ten year anniversary, may 11th, the day we decided we are a couple. She didn't even want to celebrate that. I remember a time in the beginning we laughrd about how the only argument we had was "you'd break up with me before I broke up with you. No, you'd reak up with me before I'd break up with you. I feel like I won the argument, but it's not an argument I wanted to win. Yes, we will always be together, we still get along. But that's it.
@simonelee (2715)
• China
4 Jun 12
Really? Maybe she's romantic in some ways, not as expressive as you are but deep inside she is. I thought most women are romantic than men. Well, destiny crossed your path to be a perfect couple, since opposite attracts.
imagine if she land to someone's hand who is boring, what would happen to her life? You make each others laugh and that spice up your relationship.
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@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
5 Jun 12
haha, yeah, there are always things we hate about our partners but at the same time, we love to hate them
I guess common hates are attitudes and action/words arising from jealousy.. haha :D Some words can be very hurting when our partners are jealous or they are not in the right mood. When such attitude appears, with a sensitive partner, fights are inevitable and it's all for nothing.. haha
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@shibham (16977)
• India
3 Jun 12
Not actually i dislike but hard to cope with it. It is that my fiance is over serious.
. Se always makes some points whatever she listens or hears or interacts. hahaha. I do enjoy it though.
Have a nice time.
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@simonelee (2715)
• China
4 Jun 12
Oh a man who is serious. So he's intelligent, you'll learn a lot of new things from him. But, aren't you bored sometimes? If he's talking about this and that and you're not in the mood to learn and hear his stories do you pretend that your interested?
Is he like Dexter of dexter's lab? Always has explanation and reasons?![](/Content/images/emotes/surrender.gif)
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@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
10 Jun 12
Like you, I also don't like my bf's being too friendly. He knows about it already, good thing he is willing to lessen that. I am not saying it's bad, but it's just that sometimes instead of giving time for us, he gives it to his friends. He is changing that already and somewhat he is achieving it. Although, there are still times when I will be the one to adjust for him. I know he needs friends for him not to feel too home sick. But still, I explain to him that quality time for us is more important that friends since we are in a long distance relationship.
@Sanitary (3968)
• Singapore
5 Jun 12
Yes, i agree. Nobody and no relationship is perfect. What looks good on the appearance might just be a disguise for what actually happen between a couple. I admit i'm not a perfect person, i have flaws, i love spending money, i love shopping, and that's what my bf dislike about me. I'm also friendly, but my bf says i'm being over friendly since i like to smile, practically smiling to whoever smiles at me. That makes him jealous but that's me, my character.
One thing i hate about my partner is, he's somehow a control freak at times. I know it's for my own good, but sometimes, his love is a little too much.
@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
2 Jun 12
I hated my husband for being so kind even though some of his friends, relatives and siblings are abusing him. When I get mad and not in the mood he still calm and smiling maybe because it's his nature to be kind. Also he is very friendly, in our school he got Mr. Friendship and his office that's why many women are likes him and showing some interest to him. But then I am very comfortable that he will never look for someone else because I trusted him so much.
@simonelee (2715)
• China
4 Jun 12
Oh! There are people who's born being kind and to some case they will give everything they can offer. They are actually aware that they are being abuse but they always think "what if the person is telling the truth and needs me?" For them helping is not bad. There's no way to stop your husband because it's already in his system. Your husband will only feel guilty. Anyway, those "ladies" who take him for granted will soon meet Mr.Karma.![](/Content/images/emotes/lol.gif)
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@mercvict (127)
• India
3 Jun 12
One thing I hate about my partner is that he always says " Girls should be under guys." I don't find any valuable reason to accept his judgement as both of us have equal rights. Moreover, I also work like him. Apart from that, I manage the house, do cooking and take care of my 2 year old son. I am doing more work but still, I should be under him.
@simonelee (2715)
• China
4 Jun 12
It must be their pride. Men wants to be superior and in control of everything. They see women are weak and when it comes to decision making women use often their emotions than men who use cognitive. We are capable of multitasking, we are super woman who can do everything. Men still can't accept that. Always pride. They think they are better than us.
We are living in a modern world now and a lot of women excel in fields of men.
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@adorablelucia82 (91)
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3 Jun 12
When every time he has a plan then he don't take action right away even it's already planned well.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
3 Jun 12
There is not something I hate about him, but there are time I feel annoyed about the fact he finds it normal I introduce everybody to him but if it comes to him he is not doing the same. The reason why not I don't know. So if we walk together he actually ignores me, which is rude in the eyes of the person we meet. Also annoying is his lack of real goals. He is changing his mind every day, so I can't take him seriously anymore if it comes to that. He seems to be (or prefers?) blind for the reality, only hears success stories. Might have to do with the world he is living in (no future perspective, never been raised or educated like that or learned to make plans for the future).
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