After a first date......then what

Tough question. Usually the second date just comes naturally, if you feel too awkward asking for a second date, or if the person doesn't sound receptive its probably just a good idea to move on to someone new. One thing I do when I'm dating is keep my options open it makes things easier that way. On a side note, I hate planners, if someone needs to make time to fit me into their schedule then I'd rather pursue one else. Dating is supposed to be about finding love and romance, and shouldn't be treated as just another part of the agenda.

It depends on the situation and person to be honest. Im more of a laid back person, and the same I like to have everything planned in advance. To be honest most guys that Ive dated, and many have said they expect a girl to drop everything for them including work whcih Im not willing to do which is probably why Im still single. I, big in texting too, as about a year ago I was working midnights and days then sleep in the afternoon so peopple would text me and Ill get back to them when I did usually when I woke up. Now it depends on the guy as well, if the guy none stop texts me Ill just ignore them. I just find it irritating and I like my alone time (which well may be another reason my still single). My exs all have said Im just too stubborn, and I work too much. I have about 3 guys chasing me right now and honestly I wouldnt date them. One guy from college would show up at my front door, and basically help himself in the house while I hide somewhere and my roomates lied for me. Ive had guys hint and seriously I dont get hints like beating around the bush, even after a date. I mean if they sent me a text saying Im interested and I was wondering for a second date. Now a situation about a year ago a guy use to come into my work, I threw off a few signals to him, and he didnt get it or he was too shy (I dont know anyways). My coworker somehow found this guy on facebook and sent him a few messages (over months) and well I didnt know. To me this makes me look desperate to the max (and I didnt even know about it LOL). The situation is all confusing as we havent gone on a date and this guy is dating another girl. Except he trying to flirt, and get my attention (to me he a big coward). He is a shy and quiet guy also had some of his coworkers come up to me, but the fact he cant look at his true feelings, and even act on it. I think even a text a couple hours later works for me just a I had fun maybe we can do it again or something. But it also depends if you know the person before as well. I mean if its a complete stranger it may be different say if you met the person a handful of times.

This is why I'm so glad I'm out of "dating scene", lol... I used to hate the dating game... For me, I never really used to wait till we are apart... Somewhere in the middle of the date, if I felt it was going great & if I got the feeling that she felt he same way, I used to set up the 2nd date right then & there... That's how I got together with my current girl friend... "Hey...! I'm having a great time... Can't wait to do this again!". She turned to me & said, "Yeah, me too...! Hey, I got an idea... I know this great restaurant... Being that we have already did dinner & the movie thing tonight, you wanna try that place on Friday?". Well, that's how we got our 2nd date...

I don't think you should worry about that. I had my share of dates and I called whenever I wanted, I always heard later while actually dating they thought I was spontaneous and self confident. Now if a girl calls afraid to them, if they can hear that in her voice then yes it will seem desperate, only that. We women have all the right to do whatever they do, and if a guy call you that he's just a looser. Other thing: it's a great thing to make moves cause if because you showed you liked him and showed him interest and THEN he looses interest it just means he is insecure himself and he doesn't value a woman that likes him. The sooner we be apart from problem-guys the better dear.

First off never jump right in both feet first. Very seldomly does that ever work out. As well if the guy starts sending multiple texts especially every 5 or 10 minutes then that's a guy you want to stay away from. As well you said that you plan everything a week in advance. Well one suggestion is to wait till the day you plan your week then either ask them out or see if they ask you out. Now you between the time of the first date and the day you plan your week you can talk to the guy and discuss it, just don't plan it until the day you plan your week. One more thing as well, do not tell your whole life story all at once. Take the time to learn about each other.

well, i would say send a couple texts just to talk, don't bring up a date yet, then ask if he had fun and then maybe sneak in a we should do it again or something like that then wait to be asked. Or if you like the phone calls better call and do the same sort of thing.

I don't know, its been so long since I've been on a date with someone I'm really interested in...

It still depends on how the first date went. If it wasn't that interesting, then chances are you will never hear from that person again. But if it was, then there will be a lot more. By experience, it usually ends pleasantly and when I'm not interested with the guy, and he calls or something after the date, then I would say that I only see friendship. I know it's tough but at least he wouldn't be wasting his time. Another guy was very outright about how he feels and told me that he doesn't want to beat around the bush and he'd want to know my answer right-then-and-there and he wanted to see me for dinner. I don't usually go for dinner dates because I am a believer that you only go out at night with the one you like not for 'testing' it's just too romantic for someone who you just met. Anyhow, he freaked me out and I said no. My partner was different. We met as friends, talked about anything under the sun and then since I was going to another city that night he constantly sent me messages asking if I had arrived to my destination. He constantly called and checked on me during my stay in the area (which was not a good site for signals so I wasn't able to reply most of the time). Then when I told him I was coming back to his city after the trip in order to fly back to mine, he asked humbly if we could see each other again at least a few minutes before I went home. From that moment on, he never failed to send me messages or call. Remember that there is no right formula for love. What might work with other people might not work with yours, but the important part is just to act on how you feel. At least if she didn't see you as someone she liked, at least you made the effort. Have a great MyLot experience ahead!