Your Children need your time and Presense, Don't they?

I don't think you need a lot of things to be a good parent to a child. You don't need to be financial stable or have a plan in order to have a child or want a child. All parents want there kids to a good education. When it comes to spending time with your child at some point in that child's life they will want you as parent to be there to support them. You don't have to spend all day every day with your child to love they are loved and supported and give them time alone with you. You work around your scheduals and make time for your child. Weather you stay home with them all of the time or not or weather your over seas or not. The child will show you how much time they need some children want more time with you then others. It all depends on there personality.

Love is also spelled T-I-M-E. If we care for someone, we like to be with them as many times as possible. And working hard and giving everything the children need are not enough for children long for the presence of the parents. Less and less time spent with the people we care about means less and less information we can learn about them. Balanced lifestyle is what we need.

Some people are lucky that they have kids around them , but yes they cannot provide that necessary things .Few people earn a lot and provide all needed but they cannot be with them.I prefer the first one is better.Spend time with your kids, donot make assets for them , instead make them an asset!,what they need is your time and love.

This discussion really pulls at my heartstrings. It reminds me of my present and my past. Let me tell you my sob story. It's a lot to take in, and I feel like Im going to start crying half-way through: I can tell you from personal experience that working hard to provide for your family isn't nearly as meaningful as spending time with them. All my life, my mother and father have spent hours upon hours away from me, earning a better living for us and my siblings as a unit. I feel as if they can not begin to comprehend my feelings for such a well-intentioned yet soul-crushingly depressing act. I know that can not see what they do to me when they go out and work excessively. They obviously believe that they are strengthening my future when in reality, they are quickly breaking my bonds with them at the same time. Only a child encountering the same situation will really be able to understand what I feel like. It's like giving a toddler a toy or another materialistic thing to get him to stop crying, to get him distracted with money and want instead of what he really needs; love and attention; affection. He grows up to be a snob, a brat or a greedy person. The situation has become so bad that I hardly talk to them, for my entire existence they have been missing, working away, now they don't know anything about me, because they never had the time to talk to me, about anything. Today still, we only converse with one or two dialouges whenever they need me to do some chore or run an errand, but thats all, we don't talk to each other about how our day went, they save that for my other siblings, the ones whom they have taken time to spend loving and talking so long that they are more comfortable conversing with them than me. I talk to them for 2 minutes every day, somedays not at all. This kind of interaction gradually turned me into stone, and I developed harsh feelings for them and my siblings as well, who were lucky enough to recieve love and care from them as they are older and my parents did not work as much at the time (when they were kids), and then I came into the picture and they had to start working to maintain and provide for a family of three kids. I was not able to see the hard work my parents put in, I could only see that I was being neglected, and over time I managed to convince myself that that was what really was happening. My message to all parents: If you have children then for the love of all that is shiny and that glitters, give them more attention than your job. A time will come when they will grow up and not love you unconditionally anymore (teenage-hood), then, your relationship with them will depend upon fragile memories, such as; you being there for them, spending time with them. And if God forbid, any parent has treated their kids the same way I was, then that time will come and pass and the children will turn their own souls to dust. They will never feel loved, and will end up being extremely independent, will never trust anyone, even with the most trivial and silliest of things and will ultimately become stone-hearted. Now that I am all grown up and can take care of myself (Im 16). My parents started talking to me, but I wont give them a chance to talk anymore. When I was growing up and needed them the most, when I was alone and sad and hurt and needed someone to take care of me, they were not there. Well, it's no use to me to be here now...

Our children need us when they are younger to nurture and lead them. It does not martter how old your child gets. they will still be your child. Your child will always need your time [. You may not always be able to be as close by as you want, but your maternal spirit is always with your child.

most of parent working hard to have maximum income and living their family, prepare the education for kids and others. they have good aims even can't deny it must sacrifice time to family.I believe that spend more time with kids will start a good education, and parent should consider about this too.bit of complicated but in housewife need coorperation. for example, father must have a weekend full with the family and kids or prepare a holiday to spent together. I do believe that kids who less attention to their father will tend to be rebel and stubborn, because I feel it in me

Yea. Children need care in all the manner.They need money, freedom, care, support, and lots of other thing in their life.But everything should be controlled by the parents.Parent should have a clear knowledge about the child's life. But don't interfere in their personal life.

Supposedly, the time for work, and time for children to be balanced. But, in reality, it is difficult to divide time between work, and time to spend with the kids. It's a dilemma, for working parents. But, how busy parents, must spare time for his son. Not often shared, but the quality of togetherness.

We are all children to our parents and as a child myself, I never experienced having my parents away from me because they have to work in another country or place. I was raised well because they were always there to see me and take care of me. other kids whose parents weren't around most the time really have a tendency to look for a parent figure or the love of parents that is why some would rebel as they think their parents will go home because of the bad behavior, some remain good and obedient for they see their parents hardships. For me,it always depends upon the kid and how the parents communicate with their kids no matter how far they are. If the parents always calls and ask how their kids were doing or if they continue to be a parent to their kids, I believe the child will still grow well and won't rebel. As long as the child feels the love despite the distance, I believe it will already be worth.

Hello chiyosan! Children have different attitudes and they tend to think of things with the help of other people around them. I do believe that if someone will talk to them regarding why their parents have to work and less seeing them is that they have to work for their children to have food in the table and for their needs for school and stuffs. If people should help children know this facts, they will learn to understand why their parents have to be away sometimes. But of course, parents should have their time scheadule for them to be able to catch up with their kids as well. And not just be there when it's dayoff and they just hurt their children because they have bad acts... sometimes children do acts so that they will be seen by their parents and talk to them.

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I think to answer your questions compliment with a simple answer. Balance everything.. I don't know how to answer them but this is all I have right now. :)

no your are not a bad kid,actually every parents having their problems,cause they need to run their home to,that's why sometimes they forgeting they other responsiblity,or 99.99 percent people love their kids so you dont worried about that your parents love you,thanks

I am totally agree. Every parents has to strike for a balance on it. Spent time or effort in either side is not good sign.

Yes I understand you, it is hard for a parent who wants to earn money for their children specially if they choose to go and leave the children for giving them a nice future. Specially for those single mom who happened to choose to go abroad and leave their children to a relative. I have many chance when I'm still young and I have my two kids with me but I choose to be with them. There are a lot of opportunities that passed by for I don't want to be away with my kids I still believe that I can give them proper attention when I'm the one who can handle when while their growing. My eldest is already 21 and she have her own family my youngest is still studying but also graduating in high school. It is worth that even I did not gave them so much things I guide them in right path. Lucky those parents who are still together for their kids while one is away they can trust each other for their children.

It is useless to give your kids a good education if they get no personal attention. It's like feeding a baby with plastic gloves on without touching or hugging it. A child will only grow up into an adult with self esteem, a strong, healthy person if he/she is able also to develop him/herself emotional and social. For that you need way more as a finacial plan, good education (what is good education? most (high)schools/universities are not good at all) and material needed (the material is not needed you can find everything on the internet or borrow it or write in the sand if needed). It depends on the kid, it's character, the way it's raised, the intelligence, the social needs, social care and much much more if a child will rebel or not. If it is rebeling "more" depends on what you or the society calls normal.