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There are two points to discuss from your topic: First, the matter of trust between a couple is something so important to build a strong relationship; so, once this latter is taken by any kind of tools (by cheating in your case), things become so difficult to deal with and relationship starts falling down in general. Second, the fact of arguing in front of kids refer to an immature spirit of these two, and to their lack of responsability toward those children. Simply because it affects their mental stability and may cause several effects on their behavior in the future.

Cheating is something people do for many reasons. I think if one cheats often; it is because the relationship is going nowhere or the other person is an addict. Nothing else really makes sense as far as an explanation. I think a relationship can survive cheating; I just don't think it will survive long if the problems behind the cheating are not solved. Personally, I think cheating is a sign of a problem. It is not always done to hurt someone, but often it does.

People can be the same in a lot of ways but they are also different. this is what makes us individuals and gives us the personalities that we share with others. I think that some people are afraid to be alone and whould rather reside in a cheating relationship than to be left with no on.e self confidence plays a big part of remaining in a relationship where you are cheated on.

That is a crazy relationship. I would hate wondering all the time if my husband was going to cheat on me that day. That sounds like a LOT of heart ache to me. I think a relationship can get through cheating if it is one time and a huge mistake and it does not happen again. We all make mistakes. If it is an all the time thing then no there is no recovery from that and the trust would be gone. If they are always arguing that is not good either. That sounds like an unhealthy relationship...

I think that once you have cheated, then the only way to get over it, is that you truly have to wipe the slate clean. I say this because I actually cheated in my relationship. I cant justify why i did it, but it jus felt right at the time. i saw the confusion it caused at home, so i vowed to never do it again. Which i havent, but its like anytime an issue comes up, that the first thing she brings up. I ask her all the time, if you said you for give me, why do you keep bringing it up. I would understand if i was still doing it. But at the time i was glued to her behind! so how could i cheat again. But as said, if the other party doesnt agree to let it go, then it will forever be there. And its truly not good for the kids.

It is an interesting subject to discuss. Now a days it is a common problem in so many couples. Most probably it happens in love marriages. It is fact, they love each other. They them selves also may not know this. Love is the reason to continue the relationship. Love is different than trust. Trust connects with the mind and love connects with the heart. This is competition between mind and heart. It is a confused subject.

I remember a friend who quoted to me "Trust is like a new piece of paper, once you crumple it it can still be straighten but will never be as straight again.", which to my opinion really makes sense. It is something that cannot be easily gained or fixed once it is gone or broken. In relationships, this is one of the most important foundation. Should there be any issues, the relationship will be very shaky and unstable. Any provocation can cause it to fall. I do hope that this person you know get to fix this problem somehow. It is not healthy for them to keep fighting, especially when they have a child. It is most especially not right to do the fighting in front of their child as it can cause serious effects on him/her.

I have heard of relationships like this in the past. Some couples think if they don't cheat they won't stay together! I don't know why this couple do it but it sounds like they are not able to trust each other! So both wonder when the other will cheat! That is a messed up relationship! If I had relationship where the partner cheated,the relationship would be over! I would never forgive him or trust him ever again!

I think it is quite odd to be in this sort of relationship but may be some people do it because of their children or the fact that they still retain some feelings for each other despite having cheated on their partner.Most people would want to continue the relationship for the sake of their children.But I would not stay in such a relationship.I think there is no basis to a relationship that does not have the trust factor in it.Once that is gone,everything is over in my opinion.

The survival of their relationship depends on the degree to which they can forgive each other's faults. Even if cheating is going on, there is still a remaining feeling for one another its just that the fact they have cheated may be a reason to separate.

I don't get it either.. why people commit if they still want to see other people.. they end up hurting each other and the person they cheat with too. But if they really love one another then they should not cheat anymore and try to fix the relationship.. especially if they are married.

Hi Nikki. I think a marriage can survive both people cheating. both people need to forgive themselves and each other. Leave it in the past and don't use it as a weapon against each other. It takes some growing up and growing together. If you can't wipe the slate clean and start fresh, you might as well throw in the towel and forget trying to work it out. You both have to be willing to put the past behind you.

Sometimes when two people have been together for a really long time, the love they feel for one another helps them look past incidents of cheating. It's more common in really long relationships.

Yeah actually, the whole thing about arguing in front of the children is really unhealthy for the kids of course but also for the dynamics of their relationship with the kids and also with each other. Although I wouldn't say that cheating by either or both of the partners is necessarily the end of their relationship but it actually depends on the personalities of the people involved and also on what exactly happened , the nature of the events that transpired and the relationship of the the other people involved besides the cheater and the one he/she cheated on. I might be able to give out a more specific and solid comment if you'd provide more details on what exactly happened when they cheated on each other and what age are the kids that they have?