being compared to other people

that is what i so try not to do. i have two daughters who have different skills and abilities and are totally different; yet, because they are both girls, sometimes it is hard not to compare them to each other for whatever reason.

I think it is so wrong for people, parents especially, to compare chldren and people. I grew up with 3 sisters and two brothers and we were always being compared for just about everything. It really doesn't make for one big happy family, either while you are growing up or later in life. I have two sons and I made it a point never, ever to compare them. Other people tried and I always tried to interven and put a stop to it. Both my boys played AAA hockey and people were always trying to compare them. I remember clearly one day when someone asked my older son how many goals he had gotten that year. He was an excellent player and proudly announced the number (I can't remember now how many it was, close to 100 I think). Then this person turned to my youngest son and asked "and how many goals do you have?" My youngest proudly replied ONE...but I'm the goalie! I remember thinking how happy I was that they were not able to be compared in this instance. Do you think it is human nature for people to compare people, even themselves to others?

yes but i had no siblings. my mom, being the beauty in the family, always compared my looks with my cousins her neices. and they were always so much prettier then I. she was always saying i was to fat and didnt look enough like her as i looked a lot like my dad who was quite plain looking and she had married him for money

No since we moved. Used to be I was always compared to my daughter. We look alike. Our hair is a similar color. We do the same things. If k takes out her smart phone I take mine out and check my emails. She gives me her clothes and she borrows mine. It irritates s. He says we copy each other but we actually dont. I have a genuine reason for being on my iPhone. I'm not playing games.

No, I am not compared to anyone else; whether in the family or elswhere. However, there are many occassions when people are compared to me! Interesting indeed, as I am often compared as the source of envy. The question is, what do I do when that happens, as often I become the winner? I downplay the significance of their activities, and I discourage the practice; if the basis for comparison serves -in my estimation- to 'demotivate' the other person.

Hi Winterose: Its sad when parents or others compare you with somebody else whether it be a family member or anyone else. Its like they are trying to mould you into that person instead of allowing you to be an individual with your own personality and traits. It would make you feel like a failure if you were not able to live up to those expectations set upon you and thats a lot especially for a child to bear... I was lucky in that i was allowed to grow up as an individual.... sometimes my parents didnt like my choices but i had to bear the good with the bad, and it has turned me into the person i am today... You are and always will be your own self and no body else.

I was the youngest with 2 older brothers and my parents use to always compare me to my brothers and it drove me nuts! First of all girls are different then boys. We are more social as teens most of the time and like spending tons of time with our friends! I was very outgoing and a social butterfly and my brothers were quiet and shy so I was and still am nothing like them lol

I was always compared to my sister and other people,including my oldest son by my mother.I don't blame them,it's not their fault.And she has never came out and said,"She/He is much smarter than you." She does things like call me or face to face ask me about something,like how do you copy and paste on the computer and I'd tell her how and then she'd say,ok,well I will ask Dale or Matt.

Been there!

I guess that is normal since our brain work to differ and make a group of anything we see my mom did that too maybe how we react when we are being compared is the real matter don't take it to heart or be a better person

That's sad. Well, I am glad I have 4 other sisters so people really can't compare us with the other. I also can say I am lucky because each of my other sisters are different in our own way so people really can compare us much.

I am and always being compared to people around me since i was small. I am compared to my sister because she is a successful physical therapist, my cousins because they are nurses and other people because the are more successful. I am a nurse too and I passed my board exam by just studying on my own and I passed it by taking it only once. It's probably because I am not making money yet because I do volunteer work for these girls with dark past and needs attention and love. I guess money is always what's making people around me happy LOL ........

Hi winterose. Like you,yes, I was always compared to my siblings since we were young. Since I am the youngest in the family all of the people in our province including my parents think that I am the ugliest, smallest and even the black sheep in the family since my siblings are always at home cleaning and studying their lesson while I am more on playing and going out with friends. They always be the most kind, intelligent and beautiful in the eyes on the others while I am always be the bad one. But times goes by they got married in their early age while I am still single during that time and reaching my star. Actually those comparisons made me a strong person to achieve what I want and to show to everyone that I might be always the black sheep, losser, ugliest, smallest and bad one but they cant denied that I am the luckiest and smartest among of them.

Hi friend, i am not interested in comparing me with other persons, always i compare me with my self to know about the progress, i.e i will compare about the previous years achievement and present year's work t0 know about the progress

Personally I hate people who are like this, and I think they are always trying to do this for my husband as well. It always seems like even though we now have a home we are buying, etc. we do not match up and compare with his brother and sister, and my Sister in Montana always is acting better than me. So what my BIL works for Boeing, and they have a nice home I think that is paid for and can afford to remodel, or my SIL owns a home and they just bought a 2nd place to rent out. We may not have extravagent jobs, or home, but we are buying our place which we are Happy with, and things are going Good. I often wonder why they have to compare us and are never Happy with what we are doing. We both have steady jobs, and have been there for quite a while. If it is because we are Christian, well we are Happy, and shouldn't that always be the main thing that should count?

They don't compare to anyone else, my friend. My family and the people I know respect me as I am and no one said I am not good and the other is better than me

I used to be compared with other but not anymore since I made my point that everyone unique and has their own talents, everyone have their own plus and minus and we cannot compare it to each other. My sister is good at cooking but I dont know how to cook except soup or fried rice, but my sister doesnt do design like I do so we have our own way to live our life and our own talent. My sister got fair skin, but I got the height, so its really useless to compare to each other. I believe there is no winner when we tried to compare one to another, not between me and my sister but im talking in general, because we are all have our own skill/talent.

I parents always used to compare me and my friends at all the time. At first I was an average boy who scores 75 percentage marks in each of the of the exams. At that time my parents especially my lovely mother compares me with my friends. I feel it as very ugly and I told her that not to do so. We people can never tell anything at them because they are the one who devote their life to us. Really they are living for us, they are the one who wishes to get more and more from us. How can good child can show the rudeness to such lovely parents.The only thing we can do is just give them what they wish. During my higher secondary examination I was the one who attained 90 percentage of marks. This is the only thing which can give them with lots of love.

My mother tongue is originated from Sanskrit and from other languages but not from English. English and it's words is entirely different from my language. Both of them own different words and different way of speaking. So there is no chance to found any similar words in both of the languages.

Before I was compared to somebody else...and it was really hurtful. It irritates me and saddens me if I'm compared. That will lead to a heated discussion especially with my parents. now they dont do that anymore. ahaha i guess they realize the pain of being compared.