Have you ever looked at yourself in a mirror and thought

yes, i have felt like that a lot lately, jugsjugs, as i have gained 23 pounds in the last two years and am starting to get gray hair and all of my former physical assets seem like floppy liabilities...i hate to see myself in the mirror, but i don't want to stop looking because i am afraid it will get worse if i stop monitoring myself...i try to avoid being naked around my husband because i am worried that he will be grossed out by me...i know this probably sounds depressing to you, but i guess i was trying to tell you that you are not alone in hating the mirror! on the other hand, there is more to who we are than our reflection...think about the things you like about yourself and things you like to do...family and friends that love you and who you love...i am trying to come to terms with the fact that i can never reverse the aging process and that i want to be an exceptional woman for who i am and not how i look...but i know it is hard...i can't stand up right either, i have really awful arthritis and my hip is deteriorating and sometimes i just fall over for no reason...i have no idea how long i will be able to walk without a cane or in a wheel chair and it is really scary...and sometimes i feel that now that i am old and losing my looks i am not really seen as a woman anymore...i hope i haven't made you feel worse, jugsjugs...it is just that i can kind of relate to what you are saying...i hope you feel better soon...take care!

well the beauty comes from inside and not from the outside. Look at your eyes next time and say how beautiful your eyes are and how beautiful your mind is and say I love you to yourself and also say that lots of people depend you, look for your love and care, and needs your support. Say to yourself that life is beautiful and you will feel better and happy. I would suggest you the magic words from the cartoon Heman with little modification and you will find it true after saying 10 times a day. "By the mercy of Grace God, I have the power." These are magical words that can do miracles in our lives.

sometimes i do.. and well i always think or talk to myself how i should be able to change myself, make myself better, and so on.. i wish to be really improving on myself and i sometimes do not like what i see because i feel i have been on the same place as i was years ago.. and it saddens me, it hurts me.. =(

I know that we have eyes for judgement, but could we try to look at the other side of the coin once in a while? I don't like looking at myself before. I only saw the negative side of things. But now, even if nothing major has changed (I still weigh or look the same generally) but now I could see the good sides of me. Before, I could only see the dry hair and thinning hair. Now, I can see that though my hair is thinning, it still grows. Before, I could only see my belly, now I could say that even with a belly, I still have a shape. Before I could only see my fat face, now I could notice that my eyes are nice, my nose is cute, my cheeks are red when it's hot, and I have good set of teeth. Remember you cannot rely on someone else to be happy. Happiness comes from within. Why don't you try looking at what is good about you instead of the bad things. Instead of looking at your illness, your skin, and swellings, look at what you've done to be proud of. How much you've endured. You conquer small achievements every day and never fail to congratulate yourself by being lesser sad and a little more happy each day. I have read in your previous topic that something's causing your relationship to be rocky, I have told you in the other post that you are a great person for being able to suck it in and just withhold your emotions instead of screaming like a lunatic - that shows deep maturity for you, you should be proud. I bet if you start looking at the good things, you'd find that there are a lot more good than bad in your. Just be strong, remember someone else got worst. Learn to count your blessings every day! Have a great MyLot experience ahead!

So Sorry that you feel this way about yourself jugs. Yes, I have felt like you at times and I just try not to let it get to me. My legs are so so scarred up from being burned and also from veins being broken due to being on my feet too much while pregnant. I'm not overweight but my body isn't what it used to be...I'm 56 so it is what it is. If I dwell on it, I'll just get sad and I'll bring other people down too. I just focus on having fun and enjoying the people around me. I just can't dwell on those things that I can't change. That being said, some of my favorite and most beautiful people in the world are NOT what would classically be considered phyisically beautiful but their personalities outshine that. It makes me sad to hear you feeling so down on yourself. I have 4 very beautiful daughters and I listen to them all the time putting themselves down for zits, their teeth aren't perfectly straight or one is larger than size freaking 0....it's ridiculous. They are beautiful and wonderful people and people like them. STOP....JUGS!! You are a great person. No one is going to love you just because you look good. I know some very good looking people that I really can't stand to be around. Likewise, no one is going to dislike you if you don't look so great. Your personality is what counts with anyone worth caring about. I do know it's hard. it sucks getting old but you have to focus on your personality and who you are more than what you look like. That is what people will remember you by.

Sorry to hear about what you are going through. Hope things will sort out for you soon. I am not that disturbed when I look at myself in the mirror though I could lose a pound or two. In fact I look at myself in the mirror so that I can put right whatever that needs repair, specially my teeth!. I have a few cavities that need attention.

Looking at a mirror...brooding over your self image dor moments together- you will definitely experience some kind of uneasiness and n out of the world feeling which would often be scary and unwelcome.

As I grow older I find the reflection in the mirror more and more unkind, so I have trained myself to only look at what I wish to see in the mirror. For instance if I am brushing my hair all I look at is my hair. This saves me from constant exposure to that which I no longer wish to see.

Yeah..Sometimes i ever felt that way i used to have a young face. .Baby face but now as i grow older there are some pimples which make my face look worst the sign of age also ris in my face

Im sorry to hear that, I have felt simular in the past, but fortunetly im quite happy with myself pysically at the moment. Most of my disappointment when I look into a mirror is usually from the mental point of veiw, I tend not to like myself in the mirror when Im not living to my full potential. Most of the time when I look into a mirror though, I tend to get into a different world where anything I want happens and everthing is all mystical.

I don't think that the beauty of a person stands in what they look like. The real beauty comes from within and from a positive attitude. If you have confidence in yourself, people will see you a a beautiful person, no matter how you look from the outside. I had a friend, which was not a beautiful woman. But all the men would turn around and look at her, no matter who she was with. It was because of her confidence. Try that too. Encourage yourself each time you look in the mirror!

Before I gained lots of weight, when I looked myself in a mirror I got little bit disappointed because I saw a woman whose fat and very sad. After looking to that mirror I started to make a list about things that I need to do. I started to go to gym to do some exercise and eat proper diet. After a few months I got the best result ever and I become happy again. When I looked to mirror I saw a beautiful woman, which is slimmer, healthy and have a perfect smile in her lips and eyes, the mirror reflects the real me.

Just be yourself, don't think too much. With modern technology developing fast, there are too many methods for losing weitht. Don't lose heart, best wishes.

A lot of us don't like ourselves, especially when it comes to how we look physically. We will always have that perfect girl or handsome guy in our head that we compare ourselves too every single day. Its hard not to! But always know that theres only one you in this whole entire world, and no one will even come close to being exactly like you. I used to compare myself with the frenemy I have, ( actually I still do) , she looks like me, acts like me, talks like, you would think we could become best friends/twins. But having someone to be so much like you would mean they would like the same thing as you. And that's what happened. We both liked the same guy. We went through so much! But in the end, I realize that I'm special in my own way and that no one can ever be like me. God make each and everyone of us to be different so that everyone has an equal chance to stand out. But judging by what you stated, you must be very ill. I hope that you get well soon. Always remember, no one is perfect, but we can try to be, just don't get obsess with it. :) Cheers

Sorry to hear.. you go through this too at times...I feel that way a lot especially on days my fibromyalgia is acting up I went from doing things physically at am Olympian level to barely making it through the average day, and just hate my life and self cause I can not function do all I love and miss doing.. Life is boring to me... its lost its purpose and it seems everyone treats me like nothing more than a good story... and I am tired of that I want to do something with my life..... But We all have those highly self critical down on ourselves. longing for better health or different body types of days.. this is just part of being human I think. The trick is to retrain ourselves to say okay, now that i have looked at the negative traits about me, what are the positive ones? and force yourself to try to find three positives for each negative you found.. it can be a fun challenge at times ,and even cheer you up to make you laugh. :)

You are going through alot right now and are overly stressed. No one looks good with bags under their eyes, crows feet and forehead wrinkles. You need to give yourself a make over. A good facial and moisturizer would do your face good. Then maybe dye your hair a shade lighter to look alittle younger. Or atleast a trim. Bottom line is YOU DON"T FEEL GOOD GIRL! A little pampering can go a long way to help you feel better. I wouldn't worry about the weight right now.

That's just your opinion about yourself, and I can understand. Some years ago, when I was sick and poor, I thought about myself as nothing but just a loser, unwanted, castout, forgotten. But when I come to know of the love of God unto me who is nothing but a poor sinner, my life has been changed. I come to know of more people in history who had worst circumstances, but they appreciate what God has done for them. Not physically, but internally. They have peace with God, knowing that when they leave this cruel world, they will spend eternity in heaven with God. No more crying, no more pain, no more problems. I know that God's love is for all. If God loved a crippled man like Lazarus; loved a criminal like Paul; loved an adulterous woman; then I am sure, God loves you and me. We need to accept that love and recognize what Christ has done for us in Calvary.

hi, i cant remember when this situation happen to me,because usually my friends are in my back when i looked in the mirror but if i will experience what was yours,i think i could shout or been paranoid if i will see that,because i am really feel fidgety.

I have never felt this way, but if you feel this way and you can do something to change it, then work hard to make the change. The think with your feet doesn't have anything to do wuth diabetes does it. I can't imagine going through that. The worst thing for me is using my knees for anything, because I feel evey ounce of my 300lbs on them.

not all people think like you,and certainly all there obatanya disease ..