second chances..
By kamaeca
@kamaeca (161)
Philippines
July 3, 2012 10:03pm CST
would you give a second chance after someone got your heart broken and asked you for another chance at love? uhhhmm for me, i think yes, especially when that person or that love deserves it or shall i say is worth it. as what people say, "everybody deserves a second chance". i believe in that. but i guess that second chance shouldn't be put to waste, because chances at love are precious and special. if the person blows that second chance away, would you still give a third one? oh geeez, i guess that's too much. lol.
13 responses
@surveychick4 (380)
• United States
4 Jul 12
I don't know about a third one. I think everyone in life deserves a second chance. I had a boyfriend that I loved when I was a teenager. He did cheat on me with my best friend, and it hurt. I have been hurting still since I lost him, and he is a preacher now. He told me let's start church together because he did not know why he did that to me. I would not give him the time of day, and now I still miss him.
@kamaeca (161)
• Philippines
4 Jul 12
Oh no, that must have hurt you so much. I've been cheated too. But i got over him fast. i even entertained two suitors after. but he asked for a second chance, i gave him that, but he blew it. sucks right? oh well, im already over it..again. hahah. why don't you give him a chance? maybe he has changed already. goodluck and take care. thank you :))
@kamaeca (161)
• Philippines
4 Jul 12
Oh that must have hurt you so much. i've been cheated too. gave him a second chance and he blew it. sucks right? lol. got over him anyway, and now im waiting for the right guy. lol. why don't you give him a chance? he might have changed already. ;) take care and good luck. thanks ;)
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
6 Jul 12
I don't know....because it depends on my love at that time. Normally i won't keep contacts with ex- and removes all ex-things out of my life...so that even he wants to go back, he has no way to contact with me also..
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
6 Jul 12
Second chance is not bad always.
Sometimes a second chance is sweeter as they say.
But there are second chances that more bitter than the first impact.
In my opinion, it depends on the person and how the person hurts me before I can give a second chance.
@shello (964)
• United Arab Emirates
4 Jul 12
After that second chance blown away, then that means it would be so over. Afterall, if that man truly loves you then he wouldn't dare to hurt you. That second chance is enough or else there would be possibilities that he will do it again an again. And I don't think it is fair.
@kamaeca (161)
• Philippines
8 Jul 12
ahuh. that's right. another chance would mean a chance for that person to possibly hurt you again. i think there's nothing wrong in giving chances. just be prepared for whatever outcome you decision might bring you. :)) thanks for the response though. take care. :)
@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
6 Jul 12
When I was young and in love I think I gave my ex-boyfriend first, second and third chances to make our relationship works and both of us back into tracks bad thing he never learned his lesson and never change. After giving 3 chances I gave up and start a new life in other place. Until one day he realized that he loves me more and even begged to me to come back to him but I refuse him because I am tired and sick about him and I dont want to waste any single time with him again. Good thing after those break up I found a great man who loves me more that I do.
@kamaeca (161)
• Philippines
8 Jul 12
wow. good for you. my mo always tells me that the guy should be more in love than the girl in a relationship. and that's what i always remember when i think about love and all those stuff. good for you you already found the one. best wishes and take care :) thanks for the response. ^^,
@joevanosa (303)
• Philippines
4 Jul 12
it depends. if you are still hopia for the love then you can have the second chance. kidding. definitely, you can give the second chance if the person is worthy for that chance but i know it is not an easy process. how about the aches you have been in the past? i know it would be hard because you could reminisce the pains you've been through when you'll be with him. but it depends. it is up to you to decide things.
Third chance?! no way! martyr lang ang peg?
@kamaeca (161)
• Philippines
4 Jul 12
it depends man pod, third chance? pwede pa. third, fourth, fifth, goooo! y not coconut, if you're that stupid. hahahah. but if the reason is just a petty one, you can give a lot of chances. but in my case, oh no sagooow! i'm that stupid njud! lol. as what you've said, tanga2 lang ang peg? lol.
@vinay049 (1878)
• India
4 Jul 12
It does depend why he or she have left one person according to me...If a person has cheated me,i can forgive her after explanation but never forget that and for any other reason,i would give here second chance definitely...small fights are meant to be happened in love but they bring 2 persons closer than before--i think in such manner....
@GemmaR (8517)
•
4 Jul 12
I always said that there is no way that I would want to give people a second chance if they hurt me, but then I was in the situation where I had to make up my mind about it and everything is so different when you're put in that situation. I chose to forgive and try to move on, but then I am now realising that he is hurting me in the same way again and I need to get out of my relationship as soon as I possibly can. I think that you should stop and think about whether you're really going to be able to move on, because if the answer is no then you owe it to yourself to stay strong and stay away from the man.
@kamaeca (161)
• Philippines
4 Jul 12
Yes. it is one's choice to move on with his or her life. we couldn't let ourselves suffer by holding on to someone who already let us go. we must learn to let go and let love come to us eventually, again at the right time. :) thanks for the response. :) God bless and take care.
@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
4 Jul 12
I gave my bf many chances. That is because the reason for the pain is just so minor and I was just too emotional to think of it as something really big. Maybe if he tries to flirt or if I found out his trying to court another girl, maybe that is the time I will not be giving him any third chances. And a slight chance for the second chance maybe.
@kamaeca (161)
• Philippines
4 Jul 12
Sometimes, because we love the person too much that we are blinded by their faults, we give them a lot of chances. that's because we are happy being with them and sometimes, we do everything we can to not let them go. But we should know our limitations. We should know when to give and not to give chances. Love yourself. Good luck. thanks for the response. :))
@jobfindonline (1744)
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4 Jul 12
No one is perfect so everyone can commit mistakes sometimes. It depends on how deep is my love for the person.. but in case of cheating, I honestly cannot accept the person again otherwise I would only break my heart into a million pieces again and again.. both of us must be faithful if there is real love between us. if a person cheats then there is no real love to keep on holding on. I'd rather move on and find another better person for me. But of course I will forgive but it doesn't mean we will be in a relationship again.
both of us must be faithful if there is real love between us. if a person cheats then there is no real love to keep on holding on. I'd rather move on and find another better person for me. But of course I will forgive but it doesn't mean we will be in a relationship again.@kamaeca (161)
• Philippines
4 Jul 12
Yes, it depends if you think that love is worth the second chance or if the person deserves to have it. when someone breaks your heart and destroys your trust, it is difficult to bring that trust back again and love the same person again. Hold on to your principles. Love yourself more. hehe. thanks for the response. :) Good luck.
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
4 Jul 12
Hi friend, i will give second chance to my lover, if she realize her fault and changed her self, there is nothing wrong in giving second chance for a person whoever realized their mistake, some persons may take it as an advantage and continue their mistakes again and again. I am not interested in giving third chance, if they failed in the second choice, i will keep distance from them
@kamaeca (161)
• Philippines
4 Jul 12
hi! thanks for your thoughts. i feel the same way. giving third chances or more means you let them abuse your goodness/kindness to them. It isn't wrong to give chances, what's wrong is when a person asks for them and not using that chance to correct their mistakes. Be happy. :) good luck. ;)
@Gautam1002 (730)
• India
15 Jul 12
Kamaeca!! I agree with you. If someone hurts me for once and is really guilt for his act, I will not step back in giving him or her a second chance. In love you get to know that person really well and it should be carefully decided whether he/she is to be given second chance or not. Infact I ask every person who does not believe in second chance, Do you prefer to believe a completely new person rather than trusting and giving a second chance to one you have known for years. And it is not only a blessing for him but for you too as you are again gelling up with a person with whom you have been for so long. I hope I am able to help some of you who are in dilemma of giving someone a second chance. THANK YOU
@barood4money (376)
• India
8 Oct 12
You are right. we can give a second chance only if the person feels sorry by heart. But not always.. There are some moments where one mistake can be a last mistake.
