Strange lady just slapped my grandson!!
By celticeagle
@celticeagle (168721)
Boise, Idaho
July 5, 2012 9:59pm CST
I was upstairs innocently watching my 'Kathy' show on Bravo and my grandson and daughter came up to tell me what happened. I guess my grandson and neighbor boy were on their bikes.(neighbor boy is smaller and my grandson is huge) The neighbor boy was hitting my grandson's bike with his and so my grandson pushed him away. The mother of this child comes down to our apartment, walks right in without knocking or anything and slapped my grandson. My daughter was in another room and I was upstairs. My first thought was to call the police. I didn't. These are all foreigners around here. My grandson did apologize and all is well. I guess. But, if this lady or anyone else comes down here again I will step in. Not appropriate at all! I almost went down there and lit into her big time but then I thought about it. She wouldn't understand me, I could understand her side of it although unappropriate, and I don't want to start a fude/war with the Afganistans, Africans, Iraqees, etc. around here. Hear what I am saying? Our family are in the minority here now. There is maybe two other families that are caucasion. Really! So, what are your thoughts? I am still upset and it probably happened about twenty minutes ago.
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12 responses
@PhillyDreamer (3039)
• United States
6 Jul 12
I don't think you can let this go. You need to try and communicate to her that if she has problem with your child she should come to you. What she did was disrespectful in it's own right, and she could have done worse. Next time it could be worse. Its hard to take a stand when you feel like you're surrounded by enemies, but you have to hold your ground on this. You are the protector of your children, and no one should feel within their right to touch your children without coming to you first.
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@verolop29 (1096)
• United States
6 Jul 12
i agree with phillydreamer. if that would have happened to me i would have gone to that woman-no matter how old she is or who she is-and i would tell her, in her own tounge, what she did is wrong and i wont stand for it! coming into ur home unannounced is one thing. hitting ur child crosses the line. dont let this happen again or like he said things could be far worse. and u cant take chances with ur own flesh and blood. TAKE A STAND AND DO WHATS RIGHT!
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@celticeagle (168721)
• Boise, Idaho
6 Jul 12
I don't speak her language and I don't want to come off like I am looking for a fight. I am not. The two kids have made up. I am just trying to figure how to talk to someone that doesn't speak english.
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@PhillyDreamer (3039)
• United States
6 Jul 12
Look for a family member of hers that does and have them translate.
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@PoppaDave (438)
• United States
9 Jul 12
An unfortunate situation. By right you could have her arrested, but I understand that you do not want problems. Maybe you can make friends with her. Sometimes people feel to be in the need to defend thier children like this, because of unseen problems or stresses we do not understand. I think you handled it well as did your grandson for apologizing. A slap in the face is tough, but turning the other cheek (in this case, biting the tongue, was a very Godly act and may God Bless you for your resistance to strife.
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@celticeagle (168721)
• Boise, Idaho
9 Jul 12
I thank you for your input. I really did not feel a need to posture like a gorilla or something. Better to take it as her way and making sure such things don't happen again.
@Lauraleigh99 (4718)
• United States
6 Jul 12
OMG I would be upset. She had no right to do that and I probably would have called the cops. She could have walked him home to tell you what she saw happen versus hitting him herself. There is no reason to do that to another person's child. It is rude and VERY disrespectful
@celticeagle (168721)
• Boise, Idaho
6 Jul 12
I was very upset. She certainly didn't have any right to do it. But how can I communicate that to her. She should have talked to us and perhaps expected us to do something to him. It is rude and very disrespectful. But how do I communicate with the woman?
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@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
15 Jul 12
Personally it is starting to get annoying sometimes where I as a caucasion am a minority as well. It makes me wonder how people are ever going to be able to get along and communicate even. I know where I work a lot of times it is this way as well, and can be quite frustrating. But I feel many times they are just people too and trying to learn to get along, so we need to do it as well, and take time to learn the Truth before jumping to any conclusions.
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@celticeagle (168721)
• Boise, Idaho
15 Jul 12
This is where my social anxiety sets with me rather well. I don't like people much. Very few people do I want to spend any time with. I have always been one to live by the golden rule. I believe in it fully. But cross me or hurt my kids and a person will see the rath of me. I felt a need because of the situation we are in here to keep my emotions under tow. I am glad I did. But if that woman ever touchs my loved ones again she will be sorry. That's not a threat, it's a promise.
@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
6 Jul 12
Oh Man DOnt know if I could have not gone down and did some hollering English speaking or not probably understands more English than ya think JUst acts like they dont
IS it custom for them to slap kid!!!
REally she should have came to you and told ya about him pushing the kid and if your grandson aplogized that should have been it! TO since they are here and they think they can take advantage of you which isnt right at all grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
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@celticeagle (168721)
• Boise, Idaho
6 Jul 12
That's why I had to calm down. My first thought was just that. She should have come to me first. Or to my daughter. She has had her chance and if it happens again the police will be called. She can slap her own kids but she won't slap him again.
@celticeagle (168721)
• Boise, Idaho
7 Jul 12
Oh, so am I but I feel better knowing my daughter did tell the woman to leave. She better hope she doesn't come back.
@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
7 Jul 12
if you have housing, i understand you reluctance to get involved with them. you do need some back up, however. they just can't be going around doing that, though.
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@celticeagle (168721)
• Boise, Idaho
6 Jul 12
Came right in the apartment and slapped him! I heard my daughter tell her she needed to leave and that's when I asked what had happened. Only got a partial story at first because my grandson was upset. We are in the minority around here now. I don't want to get evicted by me going down there and it looking like I instigated something. We have housing vouchers and housing is like God. All kinds of rules. The foreigners get away with all kinds of stuff. But if this ever happens again the police will be called.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
7 Jul 12
I also understand the housing situation. It might be good to go ahead and file a police report. That way there is a record of the incident. If anything else does happen, you'll have a history of sorts. Moongypsy is right..you need something. I know it is tough living there and feeling alone.
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@GardenGerty (161080)
• United States
6 Jul 12
I think I would be very nervous about letting him play with the neighbors. However, I will also say that my son's step son used to get hit or spanked or whatever by the neighbor man if he did not like what the kiddo said. The child's mom thought nothing of it, but I would have had that man locked up. He was just a big ole white redneck American male. It has less to do with race and more with bullying and self righteousness.
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@celticeagle (168721)
• Boise, Idaho
7 Jul 12
I guess this woman hits her kids all the time. I better never see it. And she better not come back here. She has had her chance.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
6 Jul 12
you should have called the police, have her charged with trespassing and hitting your grandson. I am not prejudiced at all you know that my love is Iraqi, but when you live in a new country you have to follow the rules of that country no matter who you are.
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@celticeagle (168721)
• Boise, Idaho
7 Jul 12
I thought I should and then decided against it. I will if it happens again.
@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
7 Jul 12
that is really messed up. she had no right to hit your grandson. in fact, i am surprised that she didn't get in trouble for it. i wouldn't blame you one bit if you stepped in. i wouldn't want to get into a problem with anyone no matter who they are, though. you are right. perhaps you should get someone else involved. she can't go around hitting people's kids.
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@celticeagle (168721)
• Boise, Idaho
7 Jul 12
It is messed up. It has passed now. If it happens again the police will be called.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
6 Jul 12
hi celticeagle thats going too far, what nationality wou d slap
a little boy over something rather trivial.the boy was hitting your grandson's bike and like most kids your grandson pushed him away so if the boy did not like that why was he pushing your grandson's bike?One does not simply walk into a stranger's house and slap
your grandson, that is simply not done here., how dare she do
that?, it makes me mad too.If anything like this happens again just call the police as thats just overstepping herself. I do not care what nationality the wo man was a slap is an insult specia to a little boy like that. whatever are they thinking?It is not appropriate at all you are right.
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@celticeagle (168721)
• Boise, Idaho
6 Jul 12
My grandson was pretty upset about the whole thing. Can't blame him. That's why I didn't get the full rundown on what all happened. I heard my daughter tell the lady she needed to leave and that's when I asked her what happened. I have written elsewhere the full run down on the voucher we have here and all. Hope you will read all of that. Thanks.
@suzzy3 (8341)
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6 Jul 12
How awful for your grandson,I think you were right not to call the police,tell your grandson to be careful in future.perhaps you could approach this lady and say how things normally work in this country.My grandson is huge and my daughter has the same type of problem.He looks a lot older than his years and appears to be a bully at times.I hope your grandson is ok.
@celticeagle (168721)
• Boise, Idaho
6 Jul 12
If she understood English I would talk to her. My grandson is okay. Thanks for asking. The kids around here are mean and I think he does quite well handling his self. He's a big boy and the other was small. I think that is why his mom got upset. She really acted unappropriately and the police will be called next time. I think everyone deserves one chance.
@bearsfan (44)
• United States
7 Jul 12
Hi Celtic,
Wow! That is unbelievable! I am sorry that happened to your grandson. I don't think letting the situation go is a good idea. If I were you, I would step in now and address the situation with the lady that slapped your grandson. I think her behavior was totally unacceptable. As a role model for her son, what kind of example is she setting for him to follow?
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@celticeagle (168721)
• Boise, Idaho
8 Jul 12
It was totally unacceptable. But my daughter did have words with her and if something every happens again the police will be called. My daughter and I are my grandson's role models and we are handling it with respect. She made a mistake and she won't make another one.
