I'm having second thought on getting married
By mzgorgeous
@mzgorgeous (85)
Philippines
July 6, 2012 11:33pm CST
My boyfriend and I were together for almost 6 years in our 3rd year together I got pregnant and plan to get married before I gave birth, but the sudden twist of event in our life we postpone it.My father died and It upset me because I don't have the chance anymore to walk in the aisle with my father.:( I am 1 year older than my boyfriend we live together and discover things about him and vise versa as time goes by I notice that he still immature in many things and not yet ready in having a family.he is still addicted in online games and he spent more time with his friends rather than taking care of our daughter. I am working and he is still studying. I take charge for all the expenses. I still love him despite of that. Now my mom ask me what is my plan in my life. I want to get married to have God's blessing but I'm confused If he can provide us a better future ahead.
4 responses
@visavis (5934)
• Philippines
7 Jul 12
I think you must think thoroughly the situation. Since you know the real skin of your BF now - I think you have a point to think a second thought. Even your mother has doubt about the situation when she asked you, your plan... because may she knows what happening... before too late do something or talk to him (BF) the situation..
@mzgorgeous (85)
• Philippines
8 Jul 12
thank you for the advice I really appreciate it.Ive already talk to him and he said he will change for the better :) but he is still on probation because words are not enough.I need actions!
Welcome and hope that you can have a wisdom to make a right decision not from your heart but from your situation and observation... Good luck and God bless you
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
8 Jul 12
Hi friend, sad to hear that your bf is still irresponsible. Hope he will get the responsibility soon, your decision is right, it is really hard to continue a family with this kind of irresponsible person, as you mentioned he is interested in playing games and spending a lot of time with it, first of all try your maximum to diver his concentration from this kind of unwanted activities and make him to think about you and your daughter, it is your duty to prepare him to get responsibility. Wish you to make him soon, after that marry him. All the best
@mzgorgeous (85)
• Philippines
9 Jul 12
Thanks for the kind words I am doing my best to divert his attention and to make him realize he should be responsible not just for our daughter but for us.We should be preparing for the future so that we can give our daughter a good life.
@kenshin2143 (1880)
• Philippines
7 Jul 12
At first I can really conclude that your BF is immature considering the fact that he made you pregnant. But I also consider the length of your relationship which is pretty rare for most relationships. But then again, we cannot really determine the motivations of your BF in prolonging your relationship. With all respect, maybe he is just stuck with you because of compliance and sympathy and not true love for you and your child. But at the end of the day, your still the one that must decide for yourself and your child.
@mzgorgeous (85)
• Philippines
7 Jul 12
That made me more confuse :( now I'm thinking if he really love me or not. Thanks for the sympathy I guess I have to reflect on this before deciding what to do with my life.
