A touching letter
By RitterSport
@RitterSport (2451)
Lippstadt, Germany
July 7, 2012 2:06pm CST
Just wanted to share something remarkable that happened to me recently.
Some of you may know that my most trusted friend Anne also known as my Heart Mom passed away a year ago. She and her husband have been like adopted parents for me.
It was a real blow for me as she had done more for me in 25 years of friendship than my bio mother.
I went through the memorial service in a blur of tears and as she was laid to rest with only family around I could not even be part of that final moment of honoring her here on earth.
Anyways, her widowed husband Friedrich and me were writing to each other like crazy in that past year to be able to cope and I sent him a bouquet of flowers and a card for this special day to let him know how much I care about him.
He wrote back instantly saying he upgrades me to be his Heart Friend for caring about him so much.
I really was near to shedding tears reading his letter.
Has anything as precious happened to you as well?
Please share.
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15 responses
@Kashidanga1971 (1354)
• Bangladesh
7 Jul 12
Adopted parents even sometimes plays a life changing and heart touching role in our life. Stay well
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@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
7 Jul 12
I truly believe that, for sure.
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@RitterSport (2451)
• Lippstadt, Germany
8 Jul 12
hi dear kashidanga thanks for your response. I sort of adpoted them because I wasnt too locky with my own bio parents.........
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
7 Jul 12
no, it hasn't happened to me but am very glad it happened to u.He is lucky ui care that much about him & i know he appreciated u like he should.Sometimes people don't show their appreciation like they should. Good for Friedrich for being the kind of man that can express himself like that.
@RitterSport (2451)
• Lippstadt, Germany
7 Jul 12
Hi dearest Jo thanks so much for stepping by and commenting. Anne was more the down to earth person who didnt show too much emotion thats why I was a bit hesitant to let them know how precious they are to me when they moved to a Senior Citizens home in 2007. I love and admire them as if they were my bio parents.
Friedrich has always been the emotional one and sometimes started crying when preaching etc.
Annes memorial Service was held 5 hours drive away from us and of course we made it there. When he saw us entering the church he started crying so hard he was shaking. Love him so much as if he was my dad.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
8 Jul 12
Y'all are lucky to have each other.
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@RitterSport (2451)
• Lippstadt, Germany
8 Jul 12
yes dearest Jo, true, cauae he also was the first man who showed me what a real dad does for his children. I saw him give his tender loving care to one of his daughters on a trip to the Holy Land we made but she reacted cranky to it and I thought, that cant be true, she doesnt know how lucky she is as my bio dad still would have to do something like this for me........
Now I am honored to extend loving care to him in his old age as if he was my dad. He has four kids of his own and now lives with his eldest daughter and her family since our beloved Anne is gone.
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@RitterSport (2451)
• Lippstadt, Germany
8 Jul 12
Dear Ambie, he has four kids of his own..... so I hope they give enough attention and care to him, but it means the world to me to be able to care for him as if he was my bio dad.
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@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
7 Jul 12
I'm so happy that you got such a beautiful letter from your dearest friend, RitterSport. It means everything to me. You and one other person are my sister friends.. that's when you are family. You can have lots of friends, but it is your friends of the heart that understand you and love you unconditionally. There are only a blessed few of them in this world, I think.
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@RitterSport (2451)
• Lippstadt, Germany
8 Jul 12
hi dear PQ thanks bunches for stepping by and posting. I know what you mean, there are friends who understand and support you much more than family ever does. And these dear old saints are such encouragers.
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@verolop29 (1096)
• United States
7 Jul 12
yes something like that happened to me too but it didn't have a happy ending. i never met my father and one day i got a letter from a man claiming to be my father. he told me to sign some papers so my mom wont get him for back child support...i never signed the papers and sent them back to him-shredded. i told him to never contact me again.
i havent heard from him since and now my aunts are telling me the real jose wants to meet me and make ammends. im scared to be hurt again but i will do what must be done.
it hurt me soo bad that for years i locked myself out of everyones' life because of him. that was years ago before i became a mother and married..seems like centuries ago..
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@RitterSport (2451)
• Lippstadt, Germany
8 Jul 12
Dear verolop thanks so much for stepping by and sharing your story. I am so sad things went for you as they did.
Have walked in similar shoes to you. Okay I knew my father cause when my parents divorced I was forced via court order to visit him every first Sunday of the month and I hated these visits as he lied about my maternal family, mainly my mother who had custody of me.
One day he wanted me to go to court and testify against my own mother, saying she had worked more than the divorce contract said she wouls so he could sneak out of paying support for her. I didnt do that and stood up for what I thought was right.
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@PageTurner (2825)
• United States
7 Jul 12
Hello RitterSport
I am so sorry to learn of the recent loss of your most trusted friend and Heart Mom, Anne. Having just lost my beloved father within this past year, and having a biological mother who practically doesn't exist, I know how devastating such a thing is and I grieve along with you.
I am glad to hear that her husband, Freidrich, thinks so well of you and has offered his friendship as he has. This is wonderful for you and for him.
I have recently made contact with a woman who I knew many years ago, when I was a boy and she was a sweet loving person in my life. She seems to be thrilled with our renewed contact, as well as that of Mrs. Turner, and I have been thinking that I would do well to think of her as a Heart Mom. However it may turn out, I am glad to have the renewed friendship of someone who is kind and caring in my life.
I hope that all goes well for you.
Peace
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@RitterSport (2451)
• Lippstadt, Germany
7 Jul 12
hi dear PageTurner thanks for sharing this touching situation as an answer to my discussion. I feel honored that you do this. Anne is gone for a year now but I havent even taken her mobile no out of my mobile phone directory. I cant do that. Its my way to always remember her, besides other means.
My bio dad was not interested in me too much and my bio mom wrecked our relationship with constant pressure on me cause she was a perfectionist. I dont miss my bio parents at all but I still do miss Anne a lot. I even dreamed I ran towards her as fast as I could. I couldnt see her face in my dream but I knew it was her.......
Hope this renewed friendship brings as much joy and happiness to you as the friendship to my "heart parents" brings to me.
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@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
8 Jul 12
That is so sweet and I remember when Anne passed away and how you were hurting. I can't believe it's been a year already.
I haven't had anyone older than I, but one of my daughter's friend's calls me "mom", but that was before she got married and moved away. Now I rarely hear from her and I hope she is doing well.
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
8 Jul 12
You know, my sister has been gone since 1999 and I still have her number in my address book. I guess until I make a new address book, it will always be there, a way for us to hang on to those we miss I guess...
I am glad Friedrich has someone like you in his life, because it is hard losing a loved one, especially if they have been together for over 50 years..
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@RitterSport (2451)
• Lippstadt, Germany
8 Jul 12
Dear carmelanirel its touching to know I am not alone with the inability to delete that phone no in my mobile.
And you bet I am glad to be able to do something good for Friedrich in his old age. Frankly I dont care whether his grown kids all approve or not. I am glad about everything I can do to help him through. He is a gem and I am honored to call myself his friend
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@RitterSport (2451)
• Lippstadt, Germany
8 Jul 12
hi dear carmelanirel, I am still grieving as Anne is gone. I kept her mobile no on my mobile phone I couldnt delete it. I have stopped crying but I miss her sooooo much. It kind of angers me that she was not healed and given more years on earth as I know Friedrich and their kids miss her much more then I do.
Friedrich tries his best to be strong but I wont ever get to know how many tears he sheds cause he feels like amputated, thats what he said when we were there for the Memorial Service. They had been married for 54 years.
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@p1kef1sh (45681)
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8 Jul 12
That was a lovely thing that you both did. I am sure that he is grieving equally with you and at this time found your gesture hugely supportive. I don't think that anything like that has happened to me although a lovely woman in Germany sent me some literature that she thought would interest me and some sweet things at Christmas. That was a beautiful thing to do.
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@RitterSport (2451)
• Lippstadt, Germany
8 Jul 12
hi dear P1kef1sh, thanks for stepping by and posting. He grieves much more as they were married for 54 years, thats an awesome length of time for a marriage. He goes to a self help group for grieving people and it seems to help him. And I am glad that he lives together with his daughter and her family so he isnt alone.
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@RitterSport (2451)
• Lippstadt, Germany
15 Jul 12
hi dear Hatley thats what dear Friedrich went through too, knowing for a year that maybe every day spent with his Anne would be the last. He also fell apart when the time came to say goodbye but now as he lives with his lovely daughter and her family he is really well cared for and loves his new church and also goes to a self help group for grieving people. that seems to help him too.
@anex08 (868)
• Philippines
11 Jul 12
not yet, although I have friends that I missed badly. During the time that we often see each other and almost regularly we go out for a walk, a chitchat, travel and most petty things we share are our own little secret. But now that my old friend reside in canada I thought I am not going to miss her because I have a lot of people around, sadly I realize that I missed her, and now I know that friendship that resides in the heart will stay their forever as long as we live. I'm happy for you that you have such a friend like them.
@RitterSport (2451)
• Lippstadt, Germany
14 Jul 12
hi anex thanks for commenting and I hope you have a wonderful weekend. Yes my Anne will stay in my heart as long as I live so she will be remembered for quite a number of more years.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
8 Jul 12
That is so sweet. I think that there are just certain people in the world that we are meant to meet and it sounds like this couple was certainly the ones for you. You were the one for them too. You are just as special to them as they are to you and it is so nice to hear a story like yours. I am sad for that loss that you felt when she passed, but I am so happy for you that you met and knew her. I felt like that about my grandmother after being estranged from her for so long. We all need a heart friend.
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@RitterSport (2451)
• Lippstadt, Germany
8 Jul 12
hi dear Jen thanks for your lovely answer to my discussion. Yes I think so too, God sends special paeople our way and as much as I still grieve cause Anne is no more with us, I also am glad that I am able to do something for Friedrich in his senior years now helping him cope.
@Pegasus72 (1898)
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10 Jul 12
That is just wonderful. The birth of Grand daughter last year is still the most precious thing to me right now. She loves to snuggle with me, which she will want to do any minute now. I also love to snuggle with my youngest who is 4, she loves to hug and read stories with me yet. The older ones just give hugs and kisses, they don't like to snuggle anymore.
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@RitterSport (2451)
• Lippstadt, Germany
10 Jul 12
hi dear Pegasus72 you are an amazing person. Its such a blessing to be friends with you. Thanks for stepping by and commenting. I know how much you love to be with Lilly. You and Dennis raised great kids..........hugs to you
@RitterSport (2451)
• Lippstadt, Germany
14 Jul 12
Am so glad your are on mylot as well...... hope you have fun here too.
@Pegasus72 (1898)
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11 Jul 12
well aren't you sweet, and thank you too for the kind words. We have made our share of mistakes along the way but things are working out so someone up above has their hands on us.
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@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
8 Jul 12
Hi friend, sad to hear that your adopted mother passed away, hope her soul will RIP. Really you are a great child and show your real affection by sending this bouquet. Your father accepted your gift and gave his reply to you, it shows that he is having a lot of affection and care about you
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@RitterSport (2451)
• Lippstadt, Germany
8 Jul 12
hi vidhya I still miss her so much. She has been so good to me and encouraged me and has listened to me when I was in trouble and has strengthened me so I could go on and walk the street of life. Yes we know she saw a glimpse of Heaven just before she was called Home to God, one of her sons was there when she passed away and he knows what happened just minutes before and told us after that Memorial Service.
@sbucu57 (55)
• Philippines
8 Jul 12
One touching letter I will never forget until this day was a letter from my dad's friend five months after he passed away on October of 2007. His friend, Crispin, sent him a birthday card with a message on it. And the message goes like this.
Dear Dadong,
You had always been a treasured friend whom we fondly call the prodigal son of Boac. Wishing that after all these years, you are in the best of health.
Your friend,
Crispin
We all cried but the loudest came from my mom as dad's passing was all still fresh. He succumbed to lung cancer after a long battle. His friend thought he was still alive. My mom tore the card, and my eldest brothersaid he will reply to dad's friend about what happened.
True friendship indeed goes beyond one's lifetime.
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@RitterSport (2451)
• Lippstadt, Germany
8 Jul 12
thats really touching too dear sbucu, I think I would have saved that card from getting ripped up and treasured it for the rest of my life seeing he meant so much to his friend who didnt know that your dad had passed away.
Love will never die.......
@RitterSport (2451)
• Lippstadt, Germany
8 Jul 12
hi riyauro, thanks for stepping by and commenting. Welcome to mylot......hope you enjoy spending time here.
@hosam51 (1)
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8 Jul 12
You cant Interfere your mom's life like that but it was a nice move that you send her a bouquet of flowers
