UNFRIEND is the trend?
By sharksfin
@sharksfin (1091)
Philippines
July 9, 2012 4:45am CST
In most social networking sites, you have the option to click the button that shows "remove" or "delete" a friend as you wish. Do you also do this?
I have this conviction not to delete anyone I myself added without compulsion. I mean, it's by will that I added them. Unless they screw up and post nasty comments on my page, though. I think that will be my ONLY reason for taking the REMOVE option. Otherwise, I will keep them linked.
In real life, we can't just unfriend anyone for no serious reason. Because often times, when we get angry at someone, it's all because of unmet expectation. Like, we're expecting them to attend our party and they didn't. Whether they gave a word or not, I think it's still their choice and they shouldn't attend only because they feel forced. I don't want anyone attending an event I organized only because they don't want me to be angry. I want them to attend out of sincere desire because they love me and they support me.
Your thoughts?
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4 responses
@gerald_lian (2188)
• Australia
9 Jul 12
For me, I don't normally unfriend people just as I like, as I feel it is a rather rude thing to do. Like yourself, I only unfriend people that post nasty comments about me; but also, I have unfriended people who tag me in ridiculous stuff for far too many times. I just cannot understand why someone would unfriend someone who has done nothing noticeably wrong or offensive. Your discussion managed to grab my attention because just recently, I noticed an ex-Facebook friend was not my friend anymore. So I added her again, thinking I might have been deleted by error (which many people claimed to have done when you're no longer in their friends list 
). I waited for a few days for her to accept the friend request, but no response after so many days and I even noticed her liking statuses and commenting on some of my other friend's statuses, so it can't be that she's not online. Either she's ignoring my friend request, or she doesn't want to add me. I'm just at a loss to explain why she would ignore me, as we used to be rather good friends and I don't recall doing anything mean or offensive to her lately. I just hope she hasn't been posting degrading messages about me on the wall, as I feel that by unfriending me she has something to hide........
Regarding your party, I think it would be ridiculous for someone to delete you from their friends list just because they don't want to attend your party. Even if they can't attend, so simple polite "No, I can't attend" would suffice. In fact, I'm sure you feel more upset and offended for someone to delete you off their friends list than for them to just say "No" to your invite, right? You're already kind enough to invite people to a special event you're holding, so for someone to do that is just plain shocking and disrespectful. I don't want to judge your friends as I don't know their situation and circumstance, but if they did it as a sign to turn down your invite, I think it's an action that is uncalled for. 
). I waited for a few days for her to accept the friend request, but no response after so many days and I even noticed her liking statuses and commenting on some of my other friend's statuses, so it can't be that she's not online. Either she's ignoring my friend request, or she doesn't want to add me. I'm just at a loss to explain why she would ignore me, as we used to be rather good friends and I don't recall doing anything mean or offensive to her lately. I just hope she hasn't been posting degrading messages about me on the wall, as I feel that by unfriending me she has something to hide........
Regarding your party, I think it would be ridiculous for someone to delete you from their friends list just because they don't want to attend your party. Even if they can't attend, so simple polite "No, I can't attend" would suffice. In fact, I'm sure you feel more upset and offended for someone to delete you off their friends list than for them to just say "No" to your invite, right? You're already kind enough to invite people to a special event you're holding, so for someone to do that is just plain shocking and disrespectful. I don't want to judge your friends as I don't know their situation and circumstance, but if they did it as a sign to turn down your invite, I think it's an action that is uncalled for. @sharksfin (1091)
• Philippines
9 Jul 12
Same here. I think the only time I unfriended people (or blocked them) was when I can't take anymore their posts. When they're into lewd stuffs and they're always posting something insulting or offensive to women.
Am sorry about that experience with your old friend. Sometimes, we can't really just understand them. I wonder why there are people in stead of resolving to conversations, they rather stay away and block you from their lives forever. So sad.
@gerald_lian (2188)
• Australia
10 Jul 12
Thanks for your concern. 
I'm OK; although it does takes a few days for me to get over the frustration and disappointment, it will eventually blow over and life goes on. Even though she doesn't want to be my friend on Facebook, I'm sure that when I meet her again we'll still be on talking terms.
I'm OK; although it does takes a few days for me to get over the frustration and disappointment, it will eventually blow over and life goes on. Even though she doesn't want to be my friend on Facebook, I'm sure that when I meet her again we'll still be on talking terms.
@Ixodoi (445)
• Israel
9 Jul 12
I don't just add people, so I don't just remove people as well.
I has two people removed from my Facebook account due to the fact that:
- one of them turn out to be a fake (not the person he claims he was). I was under the impression it is a good offline friend & then I discovered he just pretended to be that person.
- The second one, I didn't know, but she contact me & was very interested in my online work, so after a while I added her. A big mistake. Since that moment she didn't stopped spamming me all day long, I couldn't sign into my Facebook account without her starting to spam me with stupid messages. I asked her to stop a few times, and when that didn't helped I removed her from my friend list & blocked her.
Yet, those were the only cases I did it, and I will not do it again without a very good reason (like the reason I had here).
@sharksfin (1091)
• Philippines
9 Jul 12
That's wise. I don't just add anyone, too. At least before until I needed to welcome even stranger when I became part of a local TV program. For the ratings' sake, I had to add people I don't know. But, to make sure everything can be easily controlled in case something bad happens later on, I put them all under "fans" group so I can easily delete them later on.
@akp100 (13640)
• India
9 Jul 12
Hi
On Social networking sites, I am using FB mostly.. And most of the friends are my offline friends.. So I never such option so far. And I don't think there will be any time I use it.
Well, Staying absent in the party is surely not the big deal.. Yes no need to force them and also it is good if they come on their own will not by force.. But surely it is not big deal to break up friendship..
On Social networking sites, I am using FB mostly.. And most of the friends are my offline friends.. So I never such option so far. And I don't think there will be any time I use it.
Well, Staying absent in the party is surely not the big deal.. Yes no need to force them and also it is good if they come on their own will not by force.. But surely it is not big deal to break up friendship..
@davaome (1826)
• Philippines
9 Jul 12
I don't really unfriend someone with just no particular reason, but I have cut ties with social site friends just because they annoy me on how they post, the most petty reason I did was, I disliked her for posting to much quotes. As if she is looking attention, in my perspective she was just trying to get more likes and more attention everytime she posts that's why I unfriend her. Quotes is ok, but she posts excessively that she became too annoying. I wanted like a daily dose of quotes not every 1 hour you post a quote with little relevance to my daily living ;D
But yes, in real life, to unfriend a friend(that sounded weird) he/she must have really done something unforgivable to make you very angry at him/her, but I haven't really unfriend any one yet in real life. or maybe before when I was still very little, I don't know but as long as I remember I haven't
@sharksfin (1091)
• Philippines
9 Jul 12
Like how excessive is excessive? Like a few quotes per minute? I think that happened to me, too. But, I did not unfriend the person. In stead, I just "unsubscribed" from her posts.
