Why Have I Always Has Such Back Stabbing Friends?

Don't worry, I too suffered from them. I found myself completely harmless person even thoughtful and caring. Probably people are back stabbing us because they are quite jealous or envious.

I doubt that its you personally. There are backstabbers every where and in everyones life. People just arent accountable for the hurtful things that they just let come out. And the actions they dont understand how they can really effect others.

I'm sorry to hear that you have friends who have stabbed you in the back. It can be hard at times to find sincere friends. Perhaps you are just looking in the wrong places. I wouldn't think it's because of your personality. I hope that you will soon be able to have a nice friend.

We can never truly control the attitudes and personalities of people around, nowadays many people have this thing called "crab mentality" where they enjoy when they see someone fall or have problems in their lives. You should be grateful that you have that kind of friends because it means that you have a better life that them. Don't forced yourself in looking for a "real friend" because you can never really find a true one, it will just come to you if you really need it.

I am sorry surveychick4 for the typo error. Friends who backstab at you are not there for real !

If these people who you call friends are backstabbers, then they are the real ones. Never mind if you have very few friends as long as they are real, somebody who you can count no matter what. At times it takes a lot of learning to know who are our true friends, and a lot of hurting for some. As you along life, you gain the wisdom to see who they really are. And with this wisdom comes the realization that you are what you attract. If you rae one person who had build that character after years of hurting and learning along the way, then I cannot see any reason for you to find those true friends. Do not give up. I believe that one day you will find these treasured people enough to be called real friends.

Well I have been a victim of back stabbing friends. They surely are around no matter where you are. I have learned my lessons well, and for now, I do not trust anyone right away. It seems some are very good in front but when you are not around, they try to bring you down. What is worst on my case is that they were even the people whom I have supported and provided help. Anyway, I do not have any regrets.. What is important is that I have survived no matter what they have done and now I am happy to have known what kind of people they are.

There are people who are good friends. I have a few people that I know have my back, and I have theirs. I think you may be too free in your use of the word "friend." Just because you go out shopping or to the bars with someone, that doesn't make the person a real friend. Take a hard look at your circle and your lifestyle. Consider certain points. What do you have in common with these people? Where did you meet them? Are you headed in similar directions in life? Are you involved in things where you meet people who are heading in positive directions? I think that most of us have had people in our lives who didn't turn out to be what we'd hoped. However, when we look back and take a critical look at the relationship and our lifestyles at that point, we can see how very wrong things were--and how we ignored things that we should have been paying attention to.

Maybe you did not find the right persons. I have had many disappointments in friends, but finally I have learnt how to make the difference between true friends and the untrue ones. You will make the difference, too, in time. Of course, they make you suffer, but maybe you should be very careful who you trust. I am the lucky person who could say that there are a few friends I can entrust my life with.

We have no control of how other people would behave in any situations. The world around us is changing and so are the traits of people. That could be the reason why you always get a back stabber friend. It is so sad that real friend is very hard to find and trusting someone now is always not an easy thing to do even with your best friend. That is why when it comes to private matters I keep it within me. If I know that there is possibility that it will not be kept confidentially, I'd rather not tell it even to my close friends. Well, true friends can be measured at times of need just like what you said, a friend through thick and thin. Hope you can find real friends one day.

Maybe it's time for you to really 'filter' your friends. If you know you have such unfortunate friends, just try your best to avoid them, or keep a distance instead. We don't need to spend our time for these people. Real friend will stay with you.