Do you give a bad date another chance?
By 911Ricki
@911Ricki (13588)
Canada
July 11, 2012 12:08pm CST
My friend asked me this, and I said I usually go with my gut. I had one guy take me for a drive, blaring music, then walk around Walmart for two hours. I tried giving him another chance but didn't seem to help. We all have oyr bad days, I remember one guy who tried smoking w++d in my car, then made me pay dinner I made him walk home.
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12 responses
@jricky1 (6800)
• China
12 Jul 12
I wouldn't give another chance coz i think it is really awkward when i see him again.lol,i see you are really cute that he try to smoke and then you make him walk home.Well,that's true,a gentleman that you really like would not disappoint you.
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
12 Jul 12
I don't see a point in giving a second chance, especially if it is an awkward date.
@kkaria309 (297)
• United States
11 Jul 12
Good for you. And yes, if I really like the person, I would give it another date or two. If he's still being blah, I'll have to leave it. Depends on the date too, if it was too horrible, maybe I will not have the courage to give it another go.
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@GardenGerty (160663)
• United States
11 Jul 12
I think it does depend on just how bad that bad date is.I think your two examples say it all. If it is just an off day, next time may be better, if it is too far out there, just get away.
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
11 Jul 12
Some people have different ideas of a date. The walk around walmart wouldn't phase me, provided we ate something and talked as well, or left to go bowl, play pool or something.
I would give a bad date one more chance, but it all depends on the vibe I got off of them. If it was just a bad place for a date, but they were great and talkative, fine... but I'd ask to maybe pick a location the next time. If it's like your second example, a big he:: no.
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@wilsongoddard (7291)
• United States
11 Jul 12
Single women need to remember that their time is valuable. While guys can have their bad days or be terribly nervous about a first date, there are some things that just aren't acceptable. Of course, different women have different limits as to acceptable behavior. Personally, I would have ditched both of those guys about five minutes into the dates--if I would have even accepted the invitation in the first place. Of course, that is not something I have to worry about these days; instead, I have all of the joys and pains that come with being in a long-term relationship.
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@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
11 Jul 12
It depends on the situation. If he seems too nervous, the date went wrong because of other circumstances or he apologized and I liked the guy, I would. But when we seem to be clashing so much, he doesn't have manners or did some things which really outrages me, I wouldn't (like if he was asking to go to bed with him after the first date or talked about scary or disgusting stuff throughout the whole date).
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@rebelmel (1386)
• United States
11 Jul 12
If you are not feeling it, what's the sense in pushing for it? If you actually like the person, you can just chalk it up to a bad date. But if you are uninterested in the person, why bother having another bad date? Even if the date is bad, if you like the person, you'll still be happy at the end of it :-)
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
13 Jul 12
the man I am with now for 13 years was a bad date and we talked it over and I gave him another chance and it worked for us.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
11 Jul 12
hi ricki I hated blind dates my friends set me up with. a lot of times I refused a second date. one time I looked through the windows of the cafe and saw my date was twenty years my senior and fat and bald. I did not want to even date him so I called the cafe from a pay pone, had them page the poor guy and tell him I wa s very ill and could not keep the date.l oddly the pereson who set me up went on three months later and married the little bald headed fat man.he might have been a wonderful person but I was only twenty and he was at least twenty odd years my senior.I am sure he would not have been thrilled with me either. I had to find my own love and I did and at work.
@sk66rc (4250)
• United States
11 Jul 12
I remember a date I went on on time that a friend of mine set me up... We talked on the phone for few days & finally agreed to meet at a local restaurant... When I showed up, she was sitting at the bar... I walked up & introduced myself & right off the bat, I could tell she was drunk... During the dinner, she had few more drinks & couldn't even talk straight... Towards the end, I asked her if she wanted to go & she just gets up, goes back over to the bar... Few minutes later cab showed up & she left... No bye, no nothing... I stayed behind & had few drinks myself & the bartender tells me she's been there good hour before I showed up... She called me up 3 days later & apologized like she killed my dog or something... I just couldn't stop laughing... I told her I thought it was me & if she didn't like me that much, she could've just told me so... She said she was really nervous & that's why she figured she'd have few drinks to relax... Ended up having too much & she thought I hated her for it... We've dated for about a year after that...
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
11 Jul 12
I don't know, I probably would give her another chance. But if the second chance seems impossible, I might as well just give up. Anyway, I think everyone deserve a second chance, to see whether we can continue to the future. If I were that person, I also hope that someone would give me a second chance. Otherwise, I might just trying to find my wrongdoings, and make improvement for the next available person.
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
12 Jul 12
I never really dated.. just hung out. Maybe if I had made a guy date me I could have decided whether it was worth it or not. My first husband used to pedal his bike up to my house when I was 16 years old... he rode that bike about 18 miles to see me. We just hung out... we didn't have money to go on dates. I kind of hung out with all the men in my life.