can you laugh eventhough you are sad deep inside?
@jobfindonline (1744)
July 16, 2012 12:34am CST
I can. Although I have problems of my own whenever I am out and with my friends I try to be happy without any pretensions that I am happy. I mean, I can laugh and share humors and make them laugh too.
do you find this true to yourself, you have problems but you seem to forget all of it for a while when you are busy and having fun with your friends? and any friend of mine wouldn't guess that I have problems because they see me as someone who always see the humor in anything.. laughter is contagious and it's fun to make my friends happy when they are with me.
what do you think? it comes out naturally from me, my being cheerful when I am out.. I don't pretend just don't want to think my problems coz for me no matter how many times I spend thinking about it, that won't help.
what's your view here? share it. happy mylotting everyone!
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22 responses
@sukumar794 (5040)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
16 Jul 12
Only a very few persons could behave in such a genre...outwardly happy and cheerful while it is burning inside. Laughter is of course the best medicine to cure most illnesses.But at the same time one has to be peaceful in order to express the feelings.
@jobfindonline (1744)
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16 Jul 12
and so, I think I'm gifted
for being able to laugh even with problems. laughter has good effect on our health and sometimes yes, it's a medicine too that keeps us away from doctor. If we have a happy hearts, most likely we don't develop any serious sickness associated with sadness. I do believe that it should be in a balance way and find some time to be at a peaceful level wherein you find sometime to think of something serious. But whenever, a situation is funny it's good that we wouldn't deprive ourselves to laugh just because we have problems.
for being able to laugh even with problems. laughter has good effect on our health and sometimes yes, it's a medicine too that keeps us away from doctor. If we have a happy hearts, most likely we don't develop any serious sickness associated with sadness. I do believe that it should be in a balance way and find some time to be at a peaceful level wherein you find sometime to think of something serious. But whenever, a situation is funny it's good that we wouldn't deprive ourselves to laugh just because we have problems.
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
16 Jul 12
Hi... I can't do this... If I've problems, anyone can know... It becomes difficult to hide the real emotions and put on a fake smile. Yes, if it absolutely necessary and if I'm sure no one cares about my state of mind, then I might put on that fake smile... It is annoying, but can't help it...
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
16 Jul 12
Yes, it is the most unique quality... You present yourself to the world as a Happy-go-lucky fellow. And everyone likes such people, coz all of 'em think, you're always happy. Not everyone's always happy! So they admire you so much. It is a real good thing... I'll to adapt to it.. Its gonna be hard, as my life is a real mess by now... :-(
@jobfindonline (1744)
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16 Jul 12
yes it's really hard to fake a smile. I don't do it, my happy mood just comes out naturally when II am out.
well I think you are just being honest with your feeling or let your emotions tell how you will present yourself in front of others. I guess many people are like you in fact I find myself as unique for being able to stay happy, find humor despite of problems.
@jobfindonline (1744)
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19 Jul 12
yes, maybe that is something they really appreciate about me, my being happy go lucky. people who are like this are fun to be with and make life more lighter. maybe you should be happy and appreciate all the things in life, little or small and forget about thinking how a real mess is your life now. think about the life of other people who are less fortunate than you are or having bigger problems than what you have. You'll realize that there is still a reason to be happy and laugh when needed. Life is too short to waste it for too much thinking about our problems. Besides, being lonely shorten our life and being happy can add more years to our life. I've read that from an article. have a good laugh!
@asdomencil (4265)
• Philippines
16 Jul 12
Soemtimes, it really depends on the situation. However, even you are laughing outide, there are still some person in front of you that can determine that you are sad deep inside. You are right, it is hard to pretend that you ar happy but sometimes, laughter can help you think a better way to stop your sadness.
Good day!
@jobfindonline (1744)
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16 Jul 12
I like the point you gave here. It depends on any situations. I don't try to pretend that I am happy it comes out naturally when I am out with my friends. Maybe I'm not the type of person who will tell my personal problems as easy as that.. it needs a serene place to blow my problems of course with a very trusted friend, even if my problems are I think not worthy of that attention we tend to get emotional sometimes.. the cure to sadness is the exact opposite of it, being happy. so I'm trying to help myself to change my mood and allow myself to laugh when I face with funny situations.@asdomencil (4265)
• Philippines
16 Jul 12
You are right, it is really hard to pretend you are happy.
I really salute some persons that can hide their sadness and laugh as normal as if they don't have any problem.
Sometimes, we have to move on and bring back our laugh and be happy at all.
@jobfindonline (1744)
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16 Jul 12
oh yes we really need to move on. life must continue as it is and problems should not stop us to enjoy life.
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
16 Jul 12
I can...when i am sad..no one knows that i am sad at all...I act as normal as if i have no problem at all, smiling with anyone, laugh when hearing a funny story, etc...
And i turn be sad when i stay alone only, i may cry and then fall asleep after that...
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
19 Jul 12
i am a teary woman, that's why...i do cry...however as this time, i just ended my relationship but i don't cry at all, i am happy to enjoy my single time..because before going to this decision, i thought of it a lots already...people say women will cry a lots when their love is broken, but it is not right in my case now...
@jobfindonline (1744)
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16 Jul 12
well I'm happy to know that you can laugh too even though you are not ok deep inside. why should we buried ourselves in loneliness if we can treat ourselves with a good laugh whenever there is a chance. All sadness we must face when we are alone. I don't usually cry it happens very rare or maybe my problems are not that big.
@jobfindonline (1744)
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28 Aug 12
glad to hear that you could still stand without tears even though you just recently broke up with your boyfriend. It's not wrong to show how painful it is by crying but if that's what you really feel, having no single shed of tear in it, maybe it's not that painful. Whatever we have in life now, we should cherish and make every single day happy.
@wittynet (4421)
• Philippines
16 Jul 12
Yes. I have been having serious problems for years now, but no one knows it. I always laugh because I'm a jolly person. I cry when I'm alone, but whenever I'm with my friends, family, officemates, boardmates, etc., I always smile and laugh whenever I want to.
@jobfindonline (1744)
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16 Jul 12
good to know you are keeping yourself happy despite of your personal problems but I think you should share your problem at least to one trusted person it could be your family or friend.
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@jobfindonline (1744)
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28 Aug 12
you should try to speak about your problem first to your family. They will surely help you. How would they know it if you keep it within yourself? How would you know if they will listen to you? Try it especially if your problem is serious.
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
16 Jul 12
For a couple times before, yes I was able to laugh despite the sadness deep inside. Its really a choice to make if you want to let go of your current downtime, or when you want to forget a bad day even just for a short while with friends or family. Somehow, it helps ease up the pain, but its not the ultimate solution to the problem. In fact, all the hurt and sadness comes back if the root cause of the problem is not addressed accordingly.
@jobfindonline (1744)
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17 Jul 12
yes laughing is not a solution itself we have to solve the root cause of the problems. laughter can only make us happy and forget for a while our problems. It's hard when we are having our downtime, so why should we make it more harder by allowing ourselves to drown in sadness? it's important that we help ourselves to be happy, to go up and face the world with a happy heart even though deep inside there are pains.
@jobfindonline (1744)
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28 Aug 12
I agree, when things get though, maybe we just need to let things cool down. Let tomorrow has its own loneliness and let time heals the wounds. We need to forgo the loneliness we have.
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
17 Jul 12
That's right. However, when things just can't be dealt with at the moment, time will heal. Some problems, especially interpersonal ones, need to cool down before its addressed.
@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
17 Jul 12
yes, i have done this many times and i know that i am able to do this.. because i can control my feelings. Sometimes it is really hard to pretend, i agree. We all have our cross to carry. We can be really sad but will be able to forget it somehow in the presence of our friends... whom i think is the best ones to help us in all uncertainty. It helped me a lot to be in a good company during this time of my life where i am really feeling down, sad, and worthless. some friends do not know what i am going through but the fun and the laughter we shared helped me recover... its just a matter of time. eventually the sadness will go and you will be renewed.
@jobfindonline (1744)
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17 Jul 12
I'm not an expert in controlling my feelings coz it's so hard but whenever I'm out I just enjoy my day.. yes the sadness we feel will go and we will be renewed. As the saying goes "no storm lasts forever".
@aabuda (1722)
• Philippines
16 Jul 12
I am happy and gay...this is actually what my friends describe me whenever we are in an occasion. Like you, I can make my friends happy and myself also without having pretensions....it's just that we are so in touch with each other that we have bonded all throughout the years...
@jobfindonline (1744)
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17 Jul 12
when we are with real friends we can be as we are. meaning we can express ourselves, laugh with them and make them happy. I like being with friends who can make me laugh too and brighten my day.
@homeshoppers (6166)
• Philippines
16 Jul 12
for me i would say that im good in hiding and normally people cant see that im having huge problem as i dont want them to feel pity on me, its just a normal day specially at work though if theres a need to laugh then probably i will laugh though for me its empty inside. in the case of just having fun and ignore the problem actually will help to lighten our burden though its not also easy to show to other people what im going into coz i know they also have their own problem, im just thinking that all people have their own problem like mine and if i cant burst it out to them then i normally show it here in mylot trying to release some pain just to lighten up my day.
@jobfindonline (1744)
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17 Jul 12
if hiding is the right term, I also agree. maybe I present myself as someone happy outside when am out but they don't really know what I am going through.. it's tough but when I laugh, it's not fake.. I just want to enjoy the company of my friends and when I am alone, it's the time I have to think my problems. Mylot is a very nice community..sometimes just by reading the discussions here makes me appreciate more my life. some are very inspiring and could teach us lessons.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
16 Jul 12
jobfindonline
Our mood can be changed any moment with the happening of an event around us or concerned our people. I do not laugh or smile when I am tensed. But such instances are less nowadays because I am fairly aged and I do not have much expectations from others.
@jobfindonline (1744)
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17 Jul 12
I agree our moods can change anytime. It's really hard to smile when we are tense and alone, don't know what to do.. glad you are not expecting too much from others that is also one of the sources of happiness. Coz when we expect and it didn't happen it can break our hearts. so it's better not to hope. have fun and enjoy life as it is.
@jobfindonline (1744)
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16 Jul 12
exactly, for the good of others as we don't want them to get lonely too. Instead of sharing sad things it's better to share humor and make them laugh. there are situations we cannot do this all the time but we cannot also always shared sad events of our life.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
16 Jul 12
It is indeed a herculean task to put up a smile on your face when you are already having a lot of tensions and problems in your life.
But we should remember that life is not bed of roses. Ups and downs are part and parcel of life. After every failure there is success. So without ruing our luck for the mistakes or losses, we should move on by forgetting things that has happened in the past.
@jobfindonline (1744)
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17 Jul 12
yup we need to move on and forget the past. but not all problems are in the past, some are here in our present times and we have to deal as long as we live. well this is life, like what you said it has its ups and down.
@karyl15 (251)
• Philippines
16 Jul 12
i can since as what you said your friends are there to support you and they make you laugh at your hardest time. they cheer me up and gives me courage to smile with problems. my friends are very caring and they cared for me too so i know even if im down they will make me laugh.
happy mylotting too.
@jobfindonline (1744)
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17 Jul 12
very true friends can cheer us up and brighten our day, we just need to be sure that we are choosing the right friends coz there are also some friends who can make us feel lonely unknowingly by the words they say.
@jobfindonline (1744)
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28 Aug 12
well it can be a strong point or weak point for a person depending on how a person se the problem. If a person try to conceal the loneliness to escape from it, that is a weak point. But if it is just a way to see the brighter side of things even though life is dark, that is a strong point of a person.
@ptrikha_2 (47066)
• India
16 Jul 12
Well, there are times when we do not have things going according to our wishes, and in fact too much opposite of them. At such times, I do not feel like laughing much, even though some people are much more optimistic and behave otherwise. If I am with my friends, I might laugh along with them, but still inside, I am not relaxed. May be I need to change this behavior and be more positive in the future and not become too stressful.
@jobfindonline (1744)
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16 Jul 12
even if things are not happening the way we planned it, we should try our best to be optimistic. if we get lonely too much we can have a sick. enjoy life and have fun and go out. that will help you to make you feel more relaxed instead of thinking too much problem that will only makes you feel so sad.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
16 Jul 12
I agree that our friends indeed can take away our troubles.
It might be temporary, but their company make us forget our worries and help us to see how beautiful life is when we are in our most troubled times.
It is true that our friends won't be able to help us in all our problems, but their presence alone give us courage and strength.
Their concern make us realize our importance as well.
@jobfindonline (1744)
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16 Jul 12
the best thing a friend can do with us is to give us a listening ear whenever we need it. but it doesn't mean we will always tell them what makes us feel sad. we should be concerned too with them.. not letting them so affected by our problems. yes their presence and just being our friend can help a lot to brighten our day. Knowing someone who is concern about us is a great feeling and a reason of joy too.
@redvakaurvaki (4216)
• Indonesia
16 Jul 12
depend on situation. sometimes when I was sad, I just want to be alone and enjoy the music to calm myself down, but in other way when I saw my friend laugh with their humour, I don't want to stand on my sadness, so I try to let myself blend in situation and sooner laugh because of their humour. I'm very moody, but laughing when I was in sadness really help me to relieve my stress and sadness
@jobfindonline (1744)
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16 Jul 12
I do find some time to be alone when I am sad but I don't usually do this as this do not have a good effect on my health. I'd rather be out, have an exercise and change my mood by spending time with my friends.
I know it's hard to resist the feeling of sadness but if we help ourselves out we can be happy too and laugh with our friends.
@Beaver114 (73)
• Philippines
16 Jul 12
Definitely but the enjoyment of the laugh would not be the same. Laughter and even smiling can be done but deep inside the lingering sadness prevails.
@jobfindonline (1744)
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16 Jul 12
we are laughing but we don't forget that we have problems. it makes us feel better after we laugh and things became not hard as it is. I believe laughter can lighten our day same with our problems in life. some people are having problems but when they try to look things not too seriously and put some humor in it, things work much better.
@lonerlelouch (10)
• Philippines
16 Jul 12
it is good buddy, you should think positively, continue life as it is, but i suggest, if you have problems then share it to your friends and relatives to get advises from them
@jobfindonline (1744)
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16 Jul 12
I do share my problems to people who are close to my heart. I know it's not good to just keep it myself. My problem is not that biggie if I will compare it to the problems of the people I know.
@Raine38 (12391)
• United States
16 Jul 12
No, I cannot do this. Not that I didn't try, and most of my friends said it was pretty creepy lol!
Seriously, I just can't change the way my feelings are reflected in my eyes (which I believe are my best features) so even if I laugh and smiled, these never reach my eyes. But then again, the ones who can always catch me this way are those closest to me, so maybe with other people or mere acquaintances, I can pull it off.
It does bother me sometimes that I can dampen the mood if they were to see me so sad that I guess I just avoid the company altogether instead of sitting the whole time in agony.
@jobfindonline (1744)
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16 Jul 12
I think it's creepy if we don't laugh when all of our friends find it funny. but this is on a case to case basis. our friends can understand if we are lonely and acting differently sometimes. I too is not a great pretender in hiding what I really feel but just like what I have said, my happy attitude comes out naturally when I am with friends. It's not because I'm telling myself that this is how I should present myself in front of them. It's the real me laughing and giving humor to them but when I get home since I am alone I also get lonely.
