to be held by your hand is a lifetime imprisonment..
By zhette4220
@zhette4220 (181)
Philippines
July 16, 2012 1:57am CST
Last night, I came to ponder about the things that had previously happened. My break up with my long time boy friend was quite long time ago and yet, I never get to manage myself to get over it totally. I know i was just afraid of what might happen if i totally let go of my feelings. My life with him is great.. we were happy then but there are times that we argue make things more complicated. A lot about him changed as we broke up. We chat, but we only end up arguing. We've got separate lives, but he still has the power to tell me not to do this and that. Imagine, we are not in a relationship anymore but he came to manage my life. He doesn't want me to mingle with my friends, when he's mad, he'd throw harsh words towards me, he would even insult me. I thought came to my mind. Have we been together until now, what life might i have? will I be happy because I still have him or the other way around?
A realization came to my mind. If he's able to treat me rudely when we we're still lovers until we became ex lovers, Then my decision to move on is just right. Co'z to be held by his hand is a lifetime imprisonment.
3 responses
@jaykenneth (43)
• Philippines
16 Jul 12
as they say, have another bf. and continue moving on, keep trying to find the perfect match. there's plenty out there to value you much than your ex boyfriend. have a friend to talk to. sometime, having a friend is better than having a boyfriend, isn't it?
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@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
16 Jul 12
hi zhette,
It is not easy to let go and recover from a failed relationship specially if it is so wonderful it is also natural that you both had misunderstanding.
I can't get the point of what he is doing to you even he is still your boyfriend still he has no rights to tell you this and that because you have your mind specially now that you are not in a relationship with you he has no right.
Go out enjoy your life there is someone who deserves you more.
happy mylotting
@zhette4220 (181)
• Philippines
16 Jul 12
tHANKS babycatch.. I know... that someone out there will love and respect me the way i deserve.. what i need is to open my mind to the fact that the story i had with my ex has ended and that i have to start anew... :)
@gypsygoth (244)
• Philippines
16 Jul 12
A person will only have a hold on you IF you let them. If you let them control all your personal affairs it will be hard to stand up on your own the moment they leave. But everything has its firsts.. I sincerely congratulate you for taking that first step to your own freedom. :) No one has the right to tell you what to do, who to be with and what to think because only you and you alone are responsible for your own actions and reactions to different kinds of situations that you encounter in your every day life. It is true that moving on from a lost love isn't easy.. i suggest you go out and make yourself busy yet don't be afraid to cry everything all out when you're alone at night, it really helps to alleviate the pain inside until you have no more tears to shed. It would also help to give away the stuff he gave you and anything that would remind you of a painful memory of him so you can move on more easily. :)
Time heals all wounds as they say. I hope yours heal as time passes by :)
