Do you think women are obliged to take the spouse surname when they got married?

@Jenith (1381)
Philippines
July 19, 2012 6:15am CST
Since then I've been confused whether women must use the lastname of their spouse when they got married. Obviously, I observed all the women in my place really changed their lastname. I just don't know why. Do you guys have any idea why?
9 responses
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
19 Jul 12
Here in our country , when women marries , they use the surname of their husbands. I like it that way, because for me i am proud to use my husband's name. It shows that i am married for those who knows my maiden name.
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
21 Jul 12
Alright then but when we think changing lastname it cause too much hassle specially for important documents. P.S. Do you receive a monthly income here in mylot? Just asking coz I never receive any yet and looking forward to receive my first payment here. Can't wait. I'm too excited.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
21 Jul 12
As long as you update all the necessary documents such as Philhealth, SSS and Pag-ibig it wll not be hassle. I used to reach the cash out of $10 monthly, but for how many months, not anymore. I am always busy at the office and when at home, too tired to mylot, sometimes. I just want to dance , so i could be exercised while watching TV.
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
21 Jul 12
So you love dancing! Dancing while watching news on tv? *wink*
@stanley777 (9402)
• Philippines
30 Jul 12
I guess most Christian countries follows this tradition if we can call it such or maybe an obligation to the husband. A sign of respect or maybe to let the world that you are already committed. I don't know when this started, what I know of is, it was pass to us by our forefathers and was maintained till the present time.
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
30 Jul 12
Same here. I observed that it was just passed by our forefather. How lucky men are!
• Philippines
31 Jul 12
Or maybe because man is considered stronger in some aspects than the woman. That is before but now I guess both sexes, man or woman can do what either of the two does.And since it was passed to us by our ancestors, it was carried to this date. Just a thought.
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
31 Jul 12
Also, to avoid confusion for the children. The family must have same surname.
@angelsmummy (1696)
19 Jul 12
I took my husbands surname. To me its a sign the we are a family and commited, it shows we are married and it means our children have the same surname as both of us, which to me proves to be a stronger connection. I dont know why other people do it, tradtion maybe?
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
19 Jul 12
yeah it's more on tradition but I heard lot of women nowadays didn't use their spouse surname. Usually it happens to famous people like celebrity or some put hyphen with their surname. Hmmm I still don't know which one is best.
19 Jul 12
I guess its a matter of personality, I have friends that like their birth surname so keep that. I chose to have the bond where we all have the same surname, I guess its what works for you and your family
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
19 Jul 12
When all members of the family have the same surname it brings closeness to each other. The bond is there. Unlike when the other spouse have different surname time comes that the kiddos would ask why and it takes time to explain at their younger years.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
31 Jul 12
When my husband and I got married eight years ago, I did take his last name. The reason that I thought that this was important was because of the fact that I feel that sharing a last name with your spouse is something that is a sign of being a family. In addition to that, I also believe that if you are going to have children, it is important to share the same last name so that the children will be less confused as they are growing up. In fact, my husband's last name is different from his parent's last name and though it wasn't something that confused him when he was little as they used his father's last name until he was sixteen years old, it is something that really confuses my children.
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
31 Jul 12
I think it's just fine when you gave birth to child and you registered him in a totally different lastname. The lastname that you like for him. The problem might occur when he's grown up and started to ask questions about his ancestors. He would ask why his lastname is different from the others. Just a thought. So it's still better to follow the tradition to avoid confusion though some women doesn't like it.
@sunli123 (538)
• China
23 Jul 12
Nowdays in China, women don't have to use their husbands' lastnames after getting married. And they usually don't do that. However, they'll be addressed Mrs ( their husbands' lastnames) in public. As for me, I like my lastname so much. There's no way for me to change it even I marry someone in future.
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
24 Jul 12
Me too. It caused me too much hassle changing lastnames. Good point.
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
25 Jul 12
Welcome to mylot MusicSavy! Sounds like a fairy tale huh... Well, that's what I thought too when I was still single but when I found one seems like things never turned out as planned. And I can never turned back times. So be careful in choosing a hubby.
• Grenada
25 Jul 12
I love my last name...and i don't know all the implications of changing over to a guy's last name after marriage... But I can't wait to be "Mrs.My husband to be's last name" as a significant additional move to say "i'm completely yours and i feel safe and secure and honored to sign up under you;your leadership and godly authority and love".
@toyota4k (1208)
• Philippines
22 Jul 12
It is very common for married women to do that. It is the tradition and it is the law. When you get married as a woman, your surname becomes your middle name. Have a good day.
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
22 Jul 12
Is it in the law? Never heard of that. I'll just go and check on it. *wink*
@lampar (7584)
• United States
21 Jul 12
It is necessary for the wife to adopt her husband surname after married, it is a tradition in many cultures, usually it meant that now the woman is part of that man's family and she can count on him to provide and as a sole bread winner in the family. In a more advance culture and modern society where women are dominate or have greater say with personal matter, then she is not required to adopt her husband surname at all, it is strictly her choice to adopt it without the baggage of ancient traditon/ custom compel her to adopt husband name. It is more like having a sense of belonging to the same family on the male side and more readily acceptance by his family members by doing that.
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
21 Jul 12
Well said Lampar. Thanks to that. For me better to stick on tradition so no one could ask more about it.
• Philippines
19 Jul 12
In my country,women have to use the surname of their husband when they got married. But in Korea, it's not like that. Women use the surname that they have but their children use the surname of their father. Maybe it's because of tradition.
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
19 Jul 12
Oh I see, so it depends where you are. A sort of tradition that's the reason why here in the Philippines some are breaking the rules. Maybe because there's no exact rule/law with regard to this matter.
@Shavkat (139672)
• Philippines
19 Jul 12
In some country, they don't use the last name of their hubby to be; others use the last name of their father, but they add letter "a" at the end of the surname if it is a girl. It is a matter of their practice in different countries.
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
19 Jul 12
Yeah right. Tradition has a great impact in our lives. In fact, I find it hard in arab countries when using their lastname. They have a very long lastname and mostly it has "abdul, al" or something like that. I'm looking forward to learn on how they did that. Anyways, it's my great honor to welcome you here in mylot and I really appreciate your participation in my discussion. Have a nice day!