How to deal with a toddler's tantrum?

@Shavkat I have heard a few techniques. And without any offence to you are all, I've heard that giving things to a crying child will only make them think that their tantrum means they will get something they like out of it. Please don't get me wrong! I believe what you did was so so sweet! Just commenting on something I read about that. I have heard that talking it out with the child is good as well as ignoring. But I don't know. I've had very little experience with children.

Well I usually do that when the child is already uncontrollable anymore. I would usually tell him gently if he doesn't calm down I won't give him what he wants. It usually work many time with my boy. That way he realizes that tantrum would not get what he wants but patience and perseverance will.

Ignore it! This is not the kind of behaviour we want to promote. Giving the child candy is telling it that throwing a tantrum next time will get it something nice. Not good! I would give the mother the treat. She is the one withstanding the entire thing. Poor mother!

Well for one patience is needed and i actually need a lot more of it when my kids are having one... often times i try my best to give what they want, or diver their attention.. or yes give them candies, or most of the time i just hug them.

I'm experienceing my child's tantrum also, I don't totally agree with this because when he throws tantrum, I try to ignore him, but he would just keep doing it, he would eventually stop but he would throw tantrum again and scream. When he does that when my husband is home, my husband would put him in his bed in his room and ignore him that way, and it seems like it works better.

I have also heard and read about it. A friend of mine told me that she also uses this technique to her own children whenever they throw a tantrum. She said that she will just ignore them and would just give them a glass of water. Her kids actually learn to use crying as their weapon to get what they want so she would just ignore them for the kids to realize that crying won't change her mind. She said that she is always consistent to her every decision. If she said that they can't watch TV, her mind won't change even her children throw a tantrum. Because if she break her own rules, her children will think that by just crying, they can actually make her mind change. As per my observation, her children are growing bright and with self discipline. What I really like about them is they like eating vegetables than meat. I hope that I can make my child be like that.

I agree with the idea that it does depend on the child & it may be a trial & it may be a trial and error process as you try different things to find out what works. I believe that whether the child has a disability or not affects how you may deal with the situation and where the tantrum occurs such as in public or at home affects the way it can be dealt with. Toddlers are asserting their independence & are naturally stubborn & self-centered & that's what they know & understand. I think there may be times to ignore it as long as they aren't anyone including themselves but other times they need to be disciplined with a time out after explaining in simple terms that they can understand what they did wrong & what they should do. It's important that the discipline matches the wrongdoing as well. It's also essential to be consistent in your discipline, following rules, & to get down to their level when you speak to them so that you can maintain eye contact & they are more likely to listen.

The best thing to do is to divert the attention of the child. So by offering the child a candy, it certainly let him forget instantly the reason for his tantrums.

I heard from a former professor that kids tend to use this tantrum tactics whenever they have an audience. But if they will be left alone and shown that it doesn't affect them in any way, he will stop. But I'm not sure if the kid started it in public. You cannot leave the kid there, that's for sure.

In my opinion i think that it de5pends on child to child. My little brother is 6 and still throws tantrums. when a older person sees him they come up and talk to him and it calms him down. so with lous case of course it different. but my 5 yr old brother he just shows a tantrum it because he isnt gettin what he wants so of course we threaten to whoop his tail-in. Each child is different depending if there's anything neurological wrong with them.

I'd not think its good to reward such behavior. Giving them a treat for throwing a fit is teaching them that if they scream enough they will get a reward. Thankfully this wasn't an issue with my son,who is 7 now. When he got fussy or bratty we would try the basics... Potty break,hungry,thirsty... If that didn't work, off to the restroom for a good talking to!