Right time to get pregnant
By bocknoy
@bocknoy (32)
Philippines
July 30, 2012 7:51pm CST
When my husband and I got married, we decided to put off our plan to have a baby until the following year because we thought that we are not yet financially ready for it. Our parents did not agree to it, stressing that we should leave it all up to what fate will bring. After 3 months of marriage, I got pregnant with a baby boy. He is now 15 months old, and is truly our pride and joy. Life is hard, but we are able to give our baby boy everything he needs--love and material things. My question is, is there really a perfect time to get pregnant? Is it right that a woman gets pregnant anytime she likes even without thinking whether or not she can give the baby a good life?
17 responses
@firstbourne (6)
• Philippines
1 Aug 12
Hi bocknoy. I know a number of parents who have been trying to have a baby for years now but to no avail. Planning for it may add to the pressure, which is sometimes a cause of infertility. However, there are women who get pregnant for the wrong reasons at the wrong time, and fail to give their babies the kind of care they need. I believe that there is a right time to get pregnant, and age is not the only consideration. There are teenage moms who are still able to show how good they are as mothers, and there are older moms who do no seem mature enough to handle such a great responsibility. Marriage, financial stability, maturity should also count. See more from http://gomestic.com/family/the-right-time-to-get-pregnant-what-to-expect-as-a-mother/
@Jshean20 (14348)
• Canada
31 Jul 12
As long as the baby will be supported emotionally, financially and physically, than I don't think it's necessary to put a date on the calender for concieving the baby. Sometimes couples want to experience married life to themselves for a little while before having a baby and I totally respect that also.
@acrossnation (773)
• Malaysia
31 Jul 12
My opinion is to wait for the perfect time. With all the preventive available, couple should take the options. Marriage itself takes alot of time to get use too. To me fate is when you tried so hard and nothing happen. Parents to be or parents must equip themself about raising children and not just follow what the people before them did which might not necessarily be right. Wife's must also consider if the husband is ready financially and also if he has the time to be around to help her with the baby.
This is just my opinion.
@pigeonracer (3)
• Philippines
31 Jul 12
There is a right time for everything, and pregnancy should not be an exception. Pregnancy will not just the affect the mother, but also the people around her, and the child she will bring into this world. Age does matter, because it is generally what determines a woman's physical capacity to bear a child, and maturity to handle the obligation that comes with it. Still, women who get pregnant at the wrong time should not take it as a reason for not giving the baby the love and attention it deserves. See more from http://infobarrel.com/the_perfect_time_to_get_pregnant_what_to_expect_as_a_mom
@velentina (891)
• Mauritius
31 Jul 12
I think a child is important in a couple. So let the child come when he has chosen to come. Some couples want to delay the coming of a child then they regret it later when they see the child of their friend older than theirs. It has happened with me. So let the child come. You do not worry about financial problem as the child has come with his food and destiny.
@ckciasigurl (2081)
• Italy
31 Jul 12
hi bocknoy! every person has an aim for there lif, for me the right time to be pregnant is if you are stable to you work, finances and house. so that you will be relaxed and comfortable :)
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
31 Jul 12
Perfect time when you feel that you are physically ready and financially stable. If you are not ready to become a mother then don't do so or else the baby's life will become miserable. Becoming a mother is too hard. A lot of pressured but when you see the baby smiling at you all the pains, hardships etc that you bear are all gone. IT's a kind of magic. Hug and kisses to your baby boy!
@joevanosa (303)
• Philippines
31 Jul 12
yes there is the right time to get pregnant. yes, it is very much important that you have financial foundation before you give birth a baby because it is your responsibility for the baby's life. you need give and provide the needs and wants of the baby. if you can't yet, then stop thinking giving birth.
@imAbigael (475)
• Philippines
31 Jul 12
I believe that you are ready to be a mom or parent if you are ready enough to be a responsible one. Its okey to be pregnant and have your baby as long as you are ready, you dont really need to think about money, just love that you can bring to make that baby to be a good child, give him/her love is enough. Because if you put love first everything is possible, everything will be surely alright.
@debbygirl (213)
• Philippines
31 Jul 12
I believe, being pregnant or pregnancy will come in it's right time though it's not literally right timing you know.
I mean, it doesnt always has to be perfect time to get pregnant. Because when its already in your hands, it will be the most happiest moment in your life just like my experience.:)
I have an income that's only enough to feed me, and my husband is unemployed that time. But the Lord provided everything. Really prayer with faith really works. :)
So, just be happy and be thankful that you have now a family :)
That's completes us most of all and that's what matters. :)
Congratulations!
@Axai2012 (371)
•
31 Jul 12
First of all congratulations to your baby boy. In my opinion, there is no perfect time to conceive a baby but there is the right time to conceive one. And also as much as possible we plan for it if we want the best for the baby. On the other hand, if women just chose to conceive without thinking of the child's future. It will be a struggle and if it comes to extreme the child will suffer the consequences of the mother's action.
@OpinionatedLady (5965)
• United States
31 Jul 12
I do not think it is as important to be financially perfect when having children. I mean of coarse if you cannot support yourself how could you another person and one must think of that, but I mean if you can afford to live and have a few pleasures then why not. The important things are not fiscal they are love, respect, care. We are not rich and I do not work outside the home. Yes we gave up 200 hundred channels on the T.V. for 60, no we do not go out to eat more then special occasions every few months. My husband and I where willing to give up those extras so not only could we have kids but so I could home school them. We where young when baby one was born (20) and 31 when baby four came. We have lived frugally for a long time now but I wouldn't change it ever. Each person needs to say when they are ready or not but some will never be ready out of fear when in fact they would be great parents if they got over that fear.
@asdomencil (4265)
• Philippines
31 Jul 12
If you are asking when is the right time to get pregnant, as long as th couples are already emotionally, physically, mentally and financially ready to have an angel, they can have anytime they want. These considerations are important because having baby does nto only rely on the the preparation for pregnancy but preparation for raising kids.
By the way, good to know that you are already having a baby. Time flies so fast that you will never knew it was already on its due date.
@coxjoseph5 (209)
• United States
31 Jul 12
The child should be first and for most when making a decision like that. Women should be thinking of how the child is to be supported and educated. this is why we have modern medicine, you can time the birth to coincide with your best position in life at the moment. For the ladies there are the pills,and patches,and now there is even patch for the guys. There is no reason for people to just have a child because it was an accident.
I believe you should have done what you wanted instead of what your parents wanted, you are struggling with the expenses now, your parents wanted a grand child now, so have them help with the expenses.