Should girls ask boys out?

Philippines
August 2, 2012 5:08am CST
The hardest part of dating is gathering enough courage to ask another person out, realizing that you may be turned down, your ego shattered in the process. In our society, it is customary for the male to do the asking, but what if a girl is interested in a guy and wants to take the initiative? Would guys feel pressured or insulted? What do you think?
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11 responses
• Indonesia
2 Aug 12
There is no law against girls ask boys out. Girls should take the lead sometimes, and let just boys see what girls can do. I think its not a shame thing for girls to do that.
• Philippines
2 Aug 12
But it's quite scary sometimes, don't you think?
@sanjay91422 (2725)
• India
2 Aug 12
I think it depends on the situation and on the different persons. It is not about girls boys but about your personality. some people like to lead in a relation and some like to follow. If you are introvert and have the fear of getting down then you will probably wait for the others to ask but if you are extrovert and have no fear of rejection then you will not care much about asking out.
• Philippines
2 Aug 12
you have a point there. there are certain things that you can really do when you are not afraid to take chances.
@MandaLee (3764)
• United States
2 Aug 12
Hello, That is a very interesting question. I think guys should asked girls out. I believe that it is a man's place to take the initiative and pursue a woman when he has an interest in her. As for me, I am old school. I just wouldn't feel comfortable asking a guy out. Have a great day!
• Philippines
2 Aug 12
yeah, I think I agree with you. It's probably a good thing to let the guys do the asking. I mean, they're already trained for this (haha). If guys need a lot of courage to ask a girl out, then how much more for a girl right?
• Philippines
9 Aug 12
Well, I personally do not think so. I think it is weird. I like when guys ask me out. i think it is weird if I was the one who asked out boys LOL. Maybe I am just weirded out because I am used to the norm. Well, I think it is better for boys to ask girls out :)
@aejey322 (1004)
• Philippines
2 Aug 12
Here in the Philippines, it used to be a no-no! But nowadays, old ways are already scratched out. Though it's not really accepted, but it is now practiced by some younger generations. But I remembered we have that same discussion with my male officemates. Majority said it will be awkward for them to be asked. They still find it comfortable if they will be the one asking the girl out. But maybe because they do not belong to that "younger generation" I am referring to. lol... But those guys are already in their 20's and are single...
• Philippines
2 Aug 12
although one of my girl friends tried this, she was actually turned down (ouch!). Now, she waits until guys notice her to ask her out. She never did the asking again.
@Pavan_m01 (115)
• India
7 Aug 12
I dont think any wrong in a girl asking for the date. Even i feel guys will not turn down this offer unless he has a very strong reason. There might be one or two cases were ego of the boys were hurt because of this. But usually every thing will go smooth if girl ask for the date.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
3 Aug 12
This makes me think of back before I was married (i'm now divorced) and I had to take the initiative in a lot of things before we actually were "serious" and "comfortable" enough. I know it was so out of character for me, and since that relationship I've not been as open as that.. It's not a bad thing as a female to ask a man out, but it's not an easy feat either...
@silverfox09 (4708)
• United States
2 Aug 12
I think most guy would feel honor after all its not everyday a girl ask them out *wink* . The think woman take less chance so even if they see a guy they really like they wont say anything , I was like that but when I turn 15 I change I said what I want and take what I want :D . Society before treat woman inferior we had no say in who we even married now we do so why not take advantage of something so many woman have fight for, to let us to not have to settle for less . We now have option we can wait or we can take charge .
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
3 Aug 12
I think there is no big deal if girl will ask for a date to a guy unless those guys agree about it
• India
3 Aug 12
Feelings should always be expressed at the correct time whoever the person is. It doesn't depend on whether a girl is expressing or a guy. Now a days people have become broad minded. So just never mind. Everything is fine here. And now a days guy actually like the girls who are expressive and smart. So they wont mind.
@Shavkat (139940)
• Philippines
3 Aug 12
Traditional ways are staring to change, girls can show the first move. But you need to be responsible for all the things you decided in your life.