A friend with a big mouth....
By Shavkat
@Shavkat (140119)
Philippines
August 2, 2012 6:27am CST
Do you consider a friend with a big mouth? I had this close friend who can be described as a loud person. No one can even phantom the idea of mingling with him. I guess, I am not a judgemental person. I don't choose buddies, but I never had a best friend. The loud personality made people feel so sick, literally said. I don't think it is an ego, but he used to curse other people. The bottom line, he is really boosting himself beyond his limit. You can say, "full of himself". In spite of this, I considered him my friend. I tried to confront him about it, but he disregard the idea to change for a better person. Perhaps, the statement is validated, you can not teach old dogs a new tricks.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
19 Apr 19
@Shavkat Interesting post! I don't know. I pretty much accept anyone for who they are unless they are bringing harm to me or others. I get uncomfortable if someone I know is loud because I don't really like to draw attention to myself but if that person was a good person, I'd probably tolerate it.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
20 Apr 19
@Shavkat I understand what you mean.
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@beamer88 (4259)
• Philippines
2 Aug 12
We accept our friends' shortcomings or faults in personality, but at the same time we are duty-bound to talk to them about these faults and find ways to possibly correct them. I think you did all you could by talking to him about his 'loudness.' But you could try a few more times. I know it's really hard to teach old dogs new tricks, but maybe a little perseverance might open up your friend's mind to learning new ways 
@NailTech (6874)
• United States
3 Aug 12
People won't change that is the bottom line, no matter how to tell them anything. Yet they expect you to change for them, it's a double standard with some I know. The best thing is to try to avoid types like that if possible. Its not always possible though especially if they are family members. There are all types of people in the world but some are worse than others. I don't like very loud people around me either, they draw too much attention to me and themselves that way. Cursing people is not in good taste either.
@usoroakpan (24)
• Nigeria
3 Aug 12
if u hav that kind of a frnd,i dont advice u to break up with the frnd i advice u to stay wit the frnd ,may be one day the frnd wil change 4 the beta. Ok
@jontiee (24)
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3 Aug 12
its great that you accept this friend for who he is but really it is not fair to ask a person to change. You should have fun with your friend and make his loudness a laugh that you both share together. Accept this person for who he is. Could you imagine if it was you and your friend came up to you and said "your really loud. Be a bit more normal?" Its not fair to ask him to do that. Have fun in your friendship together.
@roberten (3128)
• United States
2 Aug 12
I think most everyone has that friend who is a bit loud and full of themselves. The great thing is we can always just walk away when they become annoying. LOL! All one can do is try to find an Achilles' Heel and lean on it when annoying friends get out of control.
@Axai2012 (371)
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2 Aug 12
I have met people who are loud but most of them are females. I'm Not sure about men being loud, the thought of it is annoying. What you have done to stand up to him just shows that you are a true friend. But in spite of that he remained to be what he wants to be. Well it's his problem, he might not realize it but I hope he'll change before all his friends turn their backs on him.
@manduri20 (108)
• Uganda
2 Aug 12
There is nothing as difficult as finding a real friend i mean a friend that loves you for you most of them have other interests and if you manage to find that special one don't give up on them because of their vices all in all what matters is how they make you feel. A friend is one who you can lean on, who understands you, the first person to respond when you call for help, one who listens when you need a person to listen to you then out weigh his bad mouth with the good things he or she does and keep them because one man's meat is anther man's poison.
