A Cool Mom or a Strict Mom?..which is best?

Hello gcb and welcome to myLot. Moms have to make very tough decisions for their children. Some time we don't know where to turn to do the best for our children. Our job is to make our children into productive adults that can care for them selves and their families whether they are boys or girls. Our kids don't come with hand books that even make suggestions as to what to do let alone give any instructions. I guess that is good since they are all so different. Should a mom be a cool mom?Is being a cool mom really helping or hindering a son. Is the cool mom keeping her son dependent on her or keeping him a boy. Will he every find that pot of gold if a cool mom gives him all his wants and needs? Maybe being a tough mom can get her son out the door to find a job, any job to get started being independent. Some sons think they are too good to start at the bottom of a company. Some sons think that a job might come looking for him but but a tough love mom explains to such a son that every one has to start at the bottom. A tough mom makes her son understand she isn't going to take care of him forever.

Having a child is a blessing which every mother cherish. But bringing-up a child is a very difficult task because sometimes we are spoiling them. Especially if a mother has only one child like in your case. For me the best thing to do is to push him harder because we never know when our time comes. If he is dependent on you, then it will be hard for him to live on his own. He should also show his children that he is a responsible father. But there is no wrong in helping his family provided that you are not providing them all they need.

I don't know if I'm credible enough to comment on this one because I'm not a mom myself. But I guess I can speak for other moms out there, like my mom, who is in the same situation as the one you mentioned. Given the fact that her son already has a family of his own, I think it's not the mom's responsibility to provide for everything. She can help at times but not everything should be shouldered by her. It's not even a question of should the mom be cool or strict. It's on how she had raised her son. If for the longest time she just let her son hide under her shadows and not let him be responsible for himself while growing up, it could really be a big problem. And now it's happening and the mom is having a hard time on how to tell her son to stand up and be a man.

Hi! I would rather be a strict mom to push him harder to find the best work that he will make better.Because it is for own good and i want him to know better how he should do to reach his goal.