your single coz you sucks

Philippines
August 4, 2012 1:51pm CST
in any relationship there are no experts. sometimes we fall for the wrong reason and sometimes we fall out of love. things just don't always add up to. we want to make things work but it's not always like that. it's like saying it not always a sunny day baby. but really would you dare tell someone (best friend may be) that she is single because shs sucks at relationship? really would you pour (or rub) a salt to a wound? i mean you want to be a honest friend and you want to help her/him out. my friend is like when she is in a relationship it seems that she is not there... like well she don't really care about the boyfriend if his still alive or something. i have no clue if she calls him... one thing is that the boyfriend always ask me where the hell she is. like i have her on gprs or tracking device or something.
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8 responses
Raine38
@Raine38 (12250)
• United States
5 Aug 12
I would, but I wouldn't use harsh words. It will still hurt her but I need to tell her this if I am a friend. I might end up hurting her or even she ends up hating me for it, but at least I wouldn't have what-ifs and regrets.
luntian_grace
@luntian_grace (1373)
• Philippines
10 Aug 12
sorry for a very late reply... well i just hope that i can talk to her in a sensible manner... i hope that she won't think that i am pushing her or intervening. i just want to help.
subhojit10
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
4 Aug 12
in a relationship we have to quite open about everything otherwise it wont last that long. keeping things as a secret will definitely create problems for the relationship in the long run.
luntian_grace
@luntian_grace (1373)
• Philippines
10 Aug 12
sorry for a late reply... i just hope i can do something... i just want to help out. i feel bad about the guy... i don't think that he deserves it. i mean even if she is my friend i still think that it's unfair to do something like that.
rsa101
@rsa101 (38148)
• Philippines
6 Aug 12
Well being your friend, I think you have that distinct advantage of letting her know where she is right now and how her BF is frustrated about. I think she needs a bit of a wake up call to get back to reality.
bournecaindelta
@bournecaindelta (2477)
• India
13 Aug 12
She obviously is not the caring kind, but i think the boy friend expects her to call him or something so that he feels that she cares. There have been some times in my life when I didn't feel like calling my girlfriend. It's just a phase for me which lasts some hours and not for days and weeks. The next time that guy asks you you should probably ask him to call her and sort things out. I know how you feel being friends to both of them. bourne :)
ravisivan
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
4 Aug 12
luntian that means they have some relationship problem. one is not able to give what the other wants. I wont tell a close friend of mine about his weakness openly. it may spoil our relationship.
luntian_grace
@luntian_grace (1373)
• Philippines
10 Aug 12
sorry for a very late reply... i just want to help out and i am bit annoyed because of the boyfriend always ask me where she is. it's like i am the one who's pressed between two walls. all i just want is that they talk and leave me alone.
mrswhitfield
@mrswhitfield (2044)
• Indonesia
5 Aug 12
Being single does not mean that someone is sucks. Single can be temporary choose or everlasting. There many reason why someone still single and all the reason are purposed for happiness at the end. Everyone wants to be happy ever after right? if one single force her/his self to be in relationship just to show others that she/he is not sucks, she/he will not find happiness cos what she do is to make others happy, not her/his self. One should happy for his/herself when it's talk about love. Relationship won't survive if the couple not attach to each other and build strong communication. Relationship not only means "hey I have BF/GF", "I'm not single of the year", "OK, I'm single and you are single, let's unite as couple"
jellsiguenza
@jellsiguenza (147)
• Philippines
5 Aug 12
As a true friend it is your duty to tell your best friend of her shortcomings whenever she's in a relationship. Or maybe your best friend don't take the relationship seriously because she's still young to be in a serious commitment. As a true friend give her advice and tell her what you noticed when she's in a relationship especially her shortcomings.
tetris15
@tetris15 (539)
• Philippines
5 Aug 12
There's still a thin line between friends and if you cross that line, the friendship might end. I think one thing to avoid this from happening is to blatantly slap in her face her own flaws. You could have a neutral comment or advice pertaining to how she go about her business especially when it comes to romantic relationships but never to get too involved to the point that you're questioning her motives toward the person she's with. It is her own business and the only business you have with her is to be her friend.