Fighting in marriage

I think fighting in marriage is unavoidable and common for every couple. But I don't like fighting in marriage, It may widen the gap between the couple, but sometimes fighting may indeep the emotion.

fighting in marriage? is also come in the marriage life bec. there are different people that are getting to know each other. and there are matters are not enough in talking, it must be separated sometimes. bec. there are some serious matter that can't. and sometimes that each other have other relationship is that bec. there is not enough and there love for each other is not enough. they found happness in other arms. thank you

My parents fought all the time! One reason why was my dad had a short temper and no patience! My mom tried to please my dad but it didn't happen much! He is a jerk and why my mom stayed with him is anyones guess! I know some couples fight just because they love to do it! It turns them on! Then there are couples who had no idea how to fight the right way! Like one will not say anything and walk out when the other wants to bring something up! What I am trying to say some fighting is good but unless it turns you on fighting all the time can't be good!

I can not tell you the answer to that. Since I am still single. From what I saw, fighting is part of marriage, I guess. Many couples fought, and they argue since they all have different opinion on things, and they tried to defend their points. At the end, they might comes to a compromise point, or they forget about what they fought about at the beginning. For me, some couples rarely fought, because they don't communicate much. It is hard to tell whether fight too much or not fight at all is normal. So, depends on how much you are willing to give in.

I think it depends... it can be too much fighting and it can be normal. It just depends on the personalities. There are some people who have really short temper or hot blood, who enjoy arguing and fighting... they actually need this for them to be. And there is the case when they just don't suit each other and it's never gonna work out because they are so different.

Marriage is a life long contract, Hope that small issues will be resolved soon.It is important to trust, love and respect each other.

In that situation, I believe fighting is normal. Being married with a kid is super hard, not having that support system around you are used to is even more difficult. I am sure both of your husbands are dealing with stress that can not even discuss with you as well. In the situation, I would expect there to be more disagreements - even with couples that do not normally fight. My husband went through almost 3 years for training and it was hard. We have been together for almost 10 years, married 6. Been through lots of ups and downs - including loosing everything in Hurricane Katrina - and language training, him being screwed over my the military, ect has been more stress and caused more issues than anything bigger than we have gone through together.

Hi Tiffany, Welcome to Mylot! I don't know. Some couples seem to just thrive on the fighting and arguing. I can't imagine it lasting long term that way. I imagine that eventually the harsh words that they sling around like weapons will leave scars and cause serious damage to the relationship. My ex husband and I argued a lot. He had some serious anger issues and after a while, I took the words right to heart and got pretty good at slinging them myself. It's not healthy at all. My youngest daughter's father whom I thankfully did end up marrying was so so verbally abusive. It made me feel sick. I HATE arguing with anyone I love so much so that I sometimes actually will get sick to my stomach. I am lucky in that I really don't have much of that going on in my life. Everyone that I'm close to is pretty respectful even when we disagree. It's not that hurtful saying mean things kind of arguing. It's more of a clearing of the air and we listen to each other, respect each other. Of course like with any relationship, you'll have those times but they should be rare enough that the person you are arguing with knows that you don't mean it. When it's all the time and you are disrespecting and hurting more than loving then it's a problem.

I dont think a lot of fighting in any relation could be healthy , disagreement is normal but not crazy fighting that anyone can hear . If you talk to a lot of couple they will say they are in love even when they are in a bad relationship , some times they don't even know how a good relationship feels like anymore . I am a person who don't like conflict so living among fighting couple would not rub me the right way . I think people will disagree an argue at time but not a routine thing . Arguing over nonsense is definitely a sign that something is wrong beneath he surface . People will just start fight when they feel guilty or want to get away. I dont think a happy home will be a home like that , that's just toxic . They need professional help .

Hi friend, some couples are in this sort, fighting a lot is also a way to show the love, some persons love their partners in this sort. Too much of fighting will give more enjoyment to them and they show their affection in this way

Actually, fighting in marriage is normal but when you say CRAZY FIGHTING now that's something different. Maybe the root of all their fights is TIME. Imagine, would you like to spend only 2 hours of your day meeting your special half? that's not even enough to go shopping. What I'm trying to say is, maybe if they try to spend more time in meeting each other and spending it wisely rather than do the usual thing which is CRAZY FIGHTING, then maybe just maybe,sunshine will come after the rain. If they don't minimize the FIGHTING, a lot will be affected. I REALLY MEAN A LOT!^.^

Some people say that it's healthy in a relationship that couples do sometimes fight. But fighting about almost anything and everything is different. Marriage is a give and take relationship. Everyone has it's own opinion on different matters. That goes in a couple too. That's the reason why there are some arguments. But be sure that the argument is settled before going to sleep. If a couple fight on almost anything, i guess there will come a time that one f them will get tired of the relationship and eventually ask to part ways.

fighting in marriage is normal, but i think it is too much if they fight all the time, sometimes fighting in marriage in order to better communication, it is good, but if you fight all the time, it is bad for their relationship, they won't feel so happy in their lives,so if they fight all time, maybe they won't last..