ur bf tells you that he wants an open relationship. do you accept?

yes i totally agree. at least the guy is honest^^ but for me i wouldnt accept this. cause i wouldnt be able to accept that he needed other girls too to be happy. if he needed others is bcs i wasnt the right girl for him. and when you like a guy is hard to accept that other girl is the one. but its like you say if the guy will play around with others at least he should say to the girl he is with. to cheat is the worst thing.

yes^^ the person the guy is with isnt the one for him. so the best was to let him go. im happy you found someone that thinks like you. i just wish the guy i like doesnt want open relations or something. when we like someone we dont want to let it go. but sure if i like a guy and he wants it then i have to give him up. wouldnt be easy but would have to be done. thanks for your opinion^^ be happy with your gf always. have a nice day.

I agree with you here. If they need to be in an open relationship then the person they are with is not the right one. It would be the right person to make that person stop what he is doing. It's not my cup of tea either. I am happy with the girl I am with.

You said it.

yes jure^^ you are right. i couldnt call a bf to a guy that wanted something like this. its like you say it would be only lust. i was just wondering how many people would accept a situation like this. bcs there are many modern people. but for me i couldnt want it. bcs if i like a guy i wouldnt want him to sleep with other girls. for some people this is an ok thing if they are not serious. but even not serious i wouldnt want it.

I think for those who like this kind of setup, they are those who don't honor commitment. And, what if either of them would eventually fall for the other. But the other person is not ready to give their all to a serious relationship. Either or both of them will just end up hurt and devastated.

It is as simple as just having food from different hotels. We need food and many a time we prepare at home and eat food for 3-4 times a day. Some time we feel to have food from outside, may be good hotels, small hotels for a change and every body like this change. Here also the matter is not different, as long as people looking for a change and they may be thinking what is wrong in it. Also, it is nowhere written that you eat from home only and eat the same stuff for the whole life period. People want change and this is the result of diverted thinking and they have the justification for it. Those who don't want to eat from out, just be in the kitchen and cook and eat how much they want and whatever they want. I hope yout got what I mean... Regards

i understand what you say. but i disagree with it. open relations are not love relations. its just lust in my opinion. bcs if you love someone how can you see him sleeping with someone else and dont care? i dont believe that that is love. for me they just want to have fun and no commitments at all. love isnt like food also. you cant play with people feelings like that. is ok to be free but if you want to be free better not be with someone in a relation. the best is to everyday go have fun without commit.

i guess you are right. it will work only if both have the same opinion^^ cause if one wants this and the other wants a closed relation it wont work. i mean both will be unhappy bcs want different things. i guess those questions are a bit hard. cause everyone is different. i would just like to see more opinions of those that say is ok for them to do it. cause i want to know how do you handle the fact that the guy you love is sleeping with other girl and you dont mind it. i dont understand it.

well i guess you are right :) if a guy says that to a girl then i guess he means he isnt happy with her. to me this didnt happen but if happens i will just refuse to be with him. i wont want to see his face even^^ i wouldnt be happy with a guy that wants other girls and me also. if he loves me should want only me right?^^ anyway i would like to understand how for some people is ok that. to see the guy you love sleep with other girl. for a few ones they accept it. how?

she told him what to do with the woman? im really surprised! i mean i couldnt do that. seeing my bf with a girl would be already bad but telling him what to do? i dont understand it. some people have really weird fantasies. if i had a bf that wanted to do swing i would refuse it and leave him. i dont disrespect people that do it but i couldnt do it at all.

That's right, if he loves you he should only want to be with you. You should be the only one that makes him happy, you should be enough. If not then it would be crazy to stay with that person. I know your not talking about your own situation here. Lol. I have NO idea how some people are okay with this. I was friends with a woman where her and her husband were swingers. They would sleep with another couple, her husband would sleep with the other woman right in front of her and she loved it! I was like what? I don't understand it, never will. That would break my heart in a MILLION pieces watching my husband sleep with another woman. She said it was the "control" she had over the situation. She told him what to do with the woman. I don't give a darn about control, I could not handle it!!

yes chum. im happy you would be direct and honest with him^^ if you accepted something like that you might end up hurt. the best was to go and find a guy that valued your feelings. and wanted to love you only.

i understand what you mean. for me would be offensive too. i mean who wants to share the guy we love? for some people thats normal but i dont like it. i respect their opinions but i wouldnt do this. if i received a proposal like that i would tell him to find someone else.

Then we see eye to eye on this issue.

yes there are many people that like it. and i dont judge them. actually if we were all the same the world would be boring. i just couldnt do it bcs if i love my bf would be hard to see him with other girls.

yes trisha everyone is free to do what they want. but is hard to accept that the guy you like wants to be with other girls too. if he wanted that its bcs he didnt love me. he might like me but not love me. so i would leave him. for what i need a guy that doesnt love me? im wasting my time and my feelings. i respect people who does it but i couldnt. and being married and having an open relation for sure this i wouldnt do. these people should stay single i guess. but sure they are free to do what they want.

in my country there are open minded and close minded people. but nowadays things are more open. i know that for some people to have an open relation is good. mostly for those that dont want anything serious. but for me i couldnt accept it. bcs the guy i would be dating with would be dating other girls too. i wouldnt feel happy with it.

im happy you wouldnt want this. open relationships are very complicated to accept i guess. for some people is a good thing bcs they dont want commitments but for me would be impossible. i couldnt be with a guy that was kissing and sleeping with other girls. how could i know about it and allow it?

yes i guess those people just want to fling^^ they dont want anything serious. but would be hard if you accept to be with a guy in an open relationship. could you take to see him kissing or sleeping with other girl? im not a flings type. cause when i get too close to a guy i almost always have feelings for him. so would be impossible for me to accept it. cause everytime he was with me i would have to convince myself that is nothing serious.

im happy you also think that way. i know that in some countries there are guys that have a lot of wives. i believe that it is very unfair. i mean how can their wives be happy with him if he sleeps with all of them? its a life just with luxury and where is love?

yes in india i guess thats forbidden. even more for woman to have other guys besides their husband. anyway im happy you also dont be in open relationships. i think maybe for awhile they find it fun to date many people. but then i guess it must be lonely. cause you just find fun but what about love? close relations are better.

you did that to someone? you mean you had an open relation before? yes i guess open relations dont work very well. unless both are very open about things. but even i am an open minded person for me i couldnt accept that the boy i like would be with other girls. i would for sure leave him.

i dont have a bf right now. and the ones i had never suggested it. i was just wondering what was people opinions about it. about me i wouldnt accept it. i wouldnt want a guy to be with me and with other girl at the same time. but i saw some people that like relations like that. i guess that you wouldnt accept if someone suggested it to you. bcs the way you talked seems that your opinion is like mine^^ i dont understand if you like someone how can you be ok if he dates someone else also?

i agree with you^^ how could we want that the guy we love slept with other girl? thats crazy right?^^ i mean for me that doesnt make sense. unless both the guy and girl just want fun. that way i understand. but to be in a serious relation and be with other people at same time its impossible for me to want that. its like you say, the best is to break up. if you have a bf that wants other girls and you the best is to say bye.

im happy this didnt happen to you^^ its like you say we deserve to be treated as humans and not as objects^^ to break up with him would be the best for sure. im glad that you never met a guy like this. i didnt meet also but if i did i wouldnt want it. he could find somewhere else. and is like you say if a guy suggests it is bcs he idnt sure of his love. if we really love someone we wouldnt want him to be with other.