He Borrowed My Blender!
By NailTech
@NailTech (6874)
United States
August 11, 2012 1:21pm CST
He didn't actually ask me himself but mom did if he could borrow it for a strawberry smoothie he wanted to make. My brother used it while I wasn't here. I walked in on him this afternoon and he was using it. I just kept thinking, he better not break it. I will find out I guess the next time I use it. :/ I wish he would have asked me himself, instead of his "lawyer" (mom) asking me the other day. I also don't want him to make a habit of this now. The blender is just a simple $15 one with not alot of power to it. Does anyone in your household borrow things of yours? Do they usually ask or just use them?
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@Raine38 (12250)
• United States
12 Aug 12
My husband once told me, that if there are two things he wouldn't share with anyone, that's me and his grill LOL!
Anything that we considered personal, like stuff we always use a lot and we need to be always in "good condition" must be lent out to a select few and must be returned on the same condition it left us. Or, as my husband would say, let them buy their own! 
We are also very particular with our personal stuff. In your case, we consider blender as personal in a sense that we only use it for smoothies and veggies. Imagine when a cousin borrowed ours to blend out some meat and poultry for this recipe she's trying out. No matter how much we rinse it, there's always this oily feel on the blender plus it smells a bit funny. Since then, I saw the "wisdom" behind my husband's words. Now, we cannot even use our own stuff for the very purpose that we bought it for.
We are also very particular with our personal stuff. In your case, we consider blender as personal in a sense that we only use it for smoothies and veggies. Imagine when a cousin borrowed ours to blend out some meat and poultry for this recipe she's trying out. No matter how much we rinse it, there's always this oily feel on the blender plus it smells a bit funny. Since then, I saw the "wisdom" behind my husband's words. Now, we cannot even use our own stuff for the very purpose that we bought it for.@NailTech (6874)
• United States
12 Aug 12
He has so many things here that he's bought and just sits around the house. And they are in all odd spots. For example, a big blue globe is on the radiator in the living room, a big plastic fireman's cookie jar is in the dining room and when the lid comes off it says something really loudly. He wanted to put this huge ugly red and blue Mets clock on the wall in the living room too and almost had his way with it. I'm sooo happy it didn't work cause he didn't put it up, thank you Jesus. It was ugly to put in a room like a Liv Room! I'm glad he didn't make anything with that messy meat and oil smell that your cousin put in it. Hey maybe if you tried to soak it in vinegar and baking soda that smell would come out? It might feel cleaner too. Give it a try.
@Juliyan23 (600)
• Indonesia
12 Aug 12
It's funny when you were saying his lawyer ( your mom ):D
Well, I don't have brother , but I know how it feels when a boy using our own stuffs without asking permission. Since we know the average boys are careless about using something but their cars :D
I have 2 young sisters. We have our own things, including household things. It's a common thing if we want to borrow somethings we should ask the owner first by ourself.
If the owner wasn't at home or couldn't text us back, then we usually just use the things before she's home , just in case she wants to use them as soon as she's home :) -But , still we have to talked to the owner sooner. And keep the thing clean and as good as the condition before we borrowed it.
@NailTech (6874)
• United States
12 Aug 12
I said that cause she is always around him making excuses and asking things for him. Just like a lawyer would do. 
We don't have any text thingies here, he would probably not bother to even if he had it though. Just doesn't bother to ask me anything, help out, etc. It is as if I'm not even here at times. He has this terrible attitude at times, as if he's the God of the house. Its hard to explain. But then I guess if you're as spoiled as him anyone would have that attitude.
We don't have any text thingies here, he would probably not bother to even if he had it though. Just doesn't bother to ask me anything, help out, etc. It is as if I'm not even here at times. He has this terrible attitude at times, as if he's the God of the house. Its hard to explain. But then I guess if you're as spoiled as him anyone would have that attitude.@NailTech (6874)
• United States
13 Aug 12
You hit it right on the nail with that one, my dear. I would do that, but then I'd probably have him huffing and puffing at me and then the lawyer was there again and she would have started defending him again. This is how my family works sometimes. Totally dysfunctional. He's been better than usual though, but that won't last for long I'm assuming, it never does.
@Juliyan23 (600)
• Indonesia
13 Aug 12
Hahaha.. Nah, he should be told by his lawyer then that he should stop asking her to do something that he even have been able to do by himself over a century ago =)
Maybe you should talk to him directly as soon after he used the things. A spoiled boy couldn't be changed just at one night, so good luck!
I hope he will have a better attitude soon, dear :)
@celticeagle (166681)
• Boise, Idaho
12 Aug 12
My kids know that they had better ask me. I don't really have anything they would need to barrow anyway. I hope your brother cleaned it and so forth before returning it to you. A smoothie does sound good. I wish that you too could get along better. Hope that can happen in your future. Life is short.
@NailTech (6874)
• United States
12 Aug 12
Well, no he didn't clean it. he never cleans any of the dishes and other stuff like that. He only asked me how to put it in the sink, I should have said to him to wash it but he wouldn't know how to wash a dish probably not having had to do that in his life. I wash some of them alittle at a time til I'm fully recovered. I told him to put water in it in the sink and he didn't, he just rinsed it out so I ended up washing it too. He did clean the bottom part of it. We have been getting along alittle better but the way he goes about some things is just alittle offputting. I think I still harbor some ill feelings towards him too from things he did long ago to me.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
12 Aug 12
He should have been told to ask you if he could borrow it if it is yours. That would be the right thing to do. People should respect things of others. I hope it is not broken!
No one in my household uses things that do not belong to them. They know better. Lol.
@mrswhitfield (2044)
• Indonesia
12 Aug 12
We share everything in my household, never mind who bought or brought it home everyone is welcome to use with one rule whoever use the property and break it have to replace it or if he/she make it dirty she'he have to clean it up.
There some things we should ask other family member if we want to use, not because he/she own it but sometimes its because she/he is the one who always use it, just incase if we will use it in same time.
@tetris15 (539)
• Philippines
11 Aug 12
I already made my point long time ago that if anyone from my house borrow something from me, they have to ask permission first or else I'll be angry at them. If in case I'm not around, it's ok for them to borrow anything from my things as long as they will leave a note because if I don't see one when I got back and found out that they use one of my things, they will get a "word" from me.
@cagampan1991 (364)
• Philippines
26 Aug 12
If its from my family I use them without permission since those things like blender are not that really important. But for expensive things like laptops, watches, and jewerlies. I would always ask for the owners permission.
@Orson_Kart (6757)
• United Kingdom
13 Aug 12
Didn't Shakespeare give us the saying, "Neither a borrower nor a blender be"?
If you don't have a share all agreement, then he shouldn't borrow it without your permission, but if he got it from your mom after she asked you then I don't see a problem. As long as he as cleaned it afterwards and it's all ok this time, isn't it?
My advice is.....Don't do it Ethel!
