Secrets: Why don't people know when to keep their mouths shut?

Thanks Sherrybelle, for sharing this thought-provoking story. You know that you cannot stop people from talking nonsense. All we can do is, try not to pay heed to them. People that cannot and do not trust you and say that to your face, should not get any sympathy from you. It is their problems that they do not know when and where to stop talking about themselves. It can happen with people who do not have much or any concern about their privacy or private lives. I am glad that I do not share much about my private life. It is a sad fact that these people do not get respect from others. I have meet quite a lot of people same as your neighbour. However, from tension, anxiety and too much insecurity people may reveal too much information about themselves for reasons best known to themselves.

She sounds weird huh, she disclose her secrets and now telling you she don't trust you. Is she making fun of herself or making stories about herself which are not true- hmmm. Well,I don't share my personal life with people that I can't trust. But, yes there are people who share their life especially secrets without asking them. I admire people who speak their mind openly and share their dark secrets to inspire the others- or made their own experiences a lesson to everyone. But for those who disclose secret voluntarily and then beg me not to tell it to anyone (wow- those kind of people I doubt) If they share it to me voluntarily what's the assurance that they haven't shared it to anybody else.

I stand clear of drama at all costs, no matter how much this person trusts you she shouldn't be sharing inappropriate things. I think deep down a lot of these kinds of people love the drama and attention, deep down she probably hopes that you go and blab about her for the attention.

I think your neighbor sounds like she is the type to want attention. I would be really irritated if I were in your shoes. I hate when people give me TMI. If it's my friends or family, of course, I want to hear it and of course I will keep any secret they tell me. But anyone outside of my bubble like that --- no thanks! I recently had someone in my life who would try to pull me into her drama all the time even though I NEVER encouraged or initiated it in any way. For example, she would be like "Agh, I'm so depressed" - and when I didn't ask why (because I didn't/don't care - she's a pyschopath), she would say something like, "Well aren't you going to ask me why?" or would somehow end up telling me anyway, about some dumb irrelevant drama that should have nothing to do with me. But she was also attention "starved". I don't know how your neighbor would not trust you but yet tell you a secret. A secret that you didn't even want to know to begin with! People are just plain nuts!

She has unintentionally (hopefully) placed you in an awkward position. If she is that talkative there's a big chance that you are not the only person she has shared her secret with. What if one of those she had talked to cannot shut her mouth too and retold it to somebody else?

Haha. you got one funny neighbor, I think she is like that to everyone who comes to her house. And then she accuse you of leaking the secret, But she only has done it. it is not a secret. she acts as if it is a secret between you and her..haha. Can you imagine that? How her brain works! haha. I tell you that some people just don't have better things to do. I think it is not a mistake but such people are accustomed to this behavior. My mother in law is like this.. sorry to say but she is exactly like this. She will tell me something and will tell me not to tell her daughter,then she will tell the same thing to her daughter and tell her not to tell me or anyone else. This is sick. I am not interested in all this I have told her a 100 times. Thanks for sharing. have a good day.

sherrybelle where was y our tongue when she started flooding you with info you found distasteful? Why did you not say{"please I do not want to hear this. too much information. I will not listen'eo this" if s he did n ot stop get u p and walk away so she really gets the point.So she gets mad, big deal as you never asked her to bare her soul to you.wal away when she offends and perhaps she will get the point.I suppose w e could gossip about ourselves if we were burdened by an oversized ego.I have experienced it andstopped it by just walking away,rude or not,it does stop the other person from dumping on you.

Sometimes I pick up a conversation on our school and I will hear some secrets about people, I don't do something with that information, but I will save it in my brain for later use. I don't trust the secrets untill I know it's true. I think people like to brag about themselve to make them superior against other people. I don't think we can gossip anout ourselve, but you can try to make it sound funny so the people don't get the real message afterall :)

There are some people can not zip their mouth, I guess they can't help it. I hate this kind of attitude. I used to pull myself away and cut the connection to them, eventually I'll be their worst nightmare. lol

Yes, this is very awkvard, becouse you didn't want or need this information. So yes this is a typically case of TMI. I don't gossip about myself at all, or anyone else. If you want to have something secret, you should keep it to yourself. I do not know anyone who do this either.

The best way to keep something secret is by keeping it to yourself. Unfortunately people have a tendency to tell what they know no matter how much confidence it was told to them in.