I think I found him
By aejey322
@aejey322 (1004)
Philippines
August 14, 2012 4:48am CST
I have posted I think a month ago about just for fun, missing the exes. I mentioned that there is one ex of mine whom I am still curious enough to know how he is. We haven't heard from each other from the last 16 years, after our relationship faded away by distance when he went back to their hometown, and eventually lost communication.
Last night, I was browsing through FB. I was searching for some friends to check their accounts. It just came in my mind to try to type his name and search for him. As I mentioned in my previous post, it's difficult to find his name because there are so many r---- g- in the world! But last night, the first in the list looked familiar. I opened it but I was not sure if it is him. The picture seemed like him but with a different look. The guy in the picture has long hair. He only has some few photos so I really could not confirm it. But the places mentioned in the comments are near to their hometown so I was at least 90% positive.
Anyway, seeing him in FB made me laugh. Literally... I did not know why... Maybe because I was expecting to see somebody 16 years younger? lol! But I was happy and satisfied to just see him there. Though I don't find any photos implying to be his family, but I know he is happy now with his life.
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@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
14 Aug 12
Good for you. Maybe just to see him and what he is doing now will make you satisfied. Like you just miss him literally not in a way of getting back to your relationship. I am glad though that you find him. My daughter is like that too. But this is more like a childish too. She was searching for her crush. It is difficult too because she knows the first name. She found it also in a friends account LOL. Good for you and Good luck 
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@aejey322 (1004)
• Philippines
15 Aug 12
I always admit that to all the people close to me. I am happily married now. But if I will be asked if given the chance, who among my ex will I want to see again, it will be him.
But of course it doesn't mean that I still love him or long for him. It's just that something's been hanging between us because we didn't have any closure. We just simply got tired of answering each other's letters. E-mails are not yet that popular then. So I am just cusrious how he is now... and i'm happy i did found him there.
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
15 Aug 12
"But of course it doesn't mean that I still love him or long for him. It's just that something's been hanging between us because we didn't have any closure" - very well said, i understand exactly how you feel and i respect that. I am happy for you and i hope that you too will become friends despite your past issues
@riyauro (6421)
• India
14 Aug 12
Your story is some what similar to mine. I have this class mate who I used to love from my heart but had never told him. when I was in tenth, this boy migrated with his family to America. Then I could never see him again. I always wanted to get in touch with him. I had searched on facebook everywhere but could not find him. One day I saw his brother online and I started chatting with him, though his brother did not know me but I knew that he is this boys brother cos he was in same class as my cousin.Since I liked him so much I knew about his brothers in school. So his brother gives the url for this boy's facebook account. I saw him and there he was. finally I had found him.
One day he was online and we had a lon long chat and then I told him that I had a big crush on him in school and he said He could never make out that I had feelings for him. He said that I should have told him my feelings. he said you are married now and i am still single.. I felt bad. haha. I wish I had got his contact earlier..hahha. he works in disney studios now and is a computer engineer. I knew he will do something big because he was very smart one. Its been 13 years he has not been back to Fiji.
So i understand how you feel when you say you found him.. good day to you.
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@missybear (11391)
• United States
15 Aug 12
I looked up my ex husband ( we been divorced for 25 plus years) and actually send him a message telling him I'm happy he is still alive and doing so well, then I send him a friend request which he never accepted but One of his sisters did and we' are catching up on old times.
It is fun to see how he looked and how his wife and children are looking.
She is the same girl he met after we divorced so they been together just about 25 years...Good for him
@mrswhitfield (2044)
• Indonesia
14 Aug 12
Have you added him? to make sure that it was really him you found in FB. I did found some of my old friends in and feel so happy to know that they are doing good now.
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@aejey322 (1004)
• Philippines
15 Aug 12
I am still having second thoughts of adding him. I'm afraid what he might say... or maybe, though I am not sure if he is married, but his wife and might ask who I am. lol!
But I am now sure that it is him. I browsed the photos of one who did a comment whom I pressume is his niece because she called him uncle.
And I saw his sisters there. He introduced his family to me before by sending me some pictures together with his mails. Snail mails to be specific... We were very diligent in sending at least 2 letters a month. I also have talked to his elder sister through long distance calls before.
And it just felt so glad to see them again, even just in FB.
@BabyCheetah (1911)
• Australia
15 Aug 12
I have done that before with friends from primary school as I was curious where they were, what they were doing and what they looked like as well. I think it's good that you found him, at least you won't be too curious anymore and you know where to find him now 
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
14 Aug 12
It's nice then and yah, maybe you are 90 percent that it was him.
Try to get more information like his friends and recent activities.
I don't have much excitement searching for exes for I haven't had exes or shall I say I have my principle when it comes to relationship and that is the reason why I never indulge in relationship during my younger days.
Crushes and those who courted me, yes I found most of them since they are my classmates (most of them and common friend) so, it's easy to find them because our school have page on facebook.
@aejey322 (1004)
• Philippines
15 Aug 12
It's positive! It's really him... I browsed through one of the people who gave comment, whom I believe is his niece.
His niece had so many albums containing their family pictures. I saw his siblings so I am already positive that it was really him.
Now that I found him, another curiosity has arise... I am wondering why i couldn't see in his photos or even his niece's album if he already has a wife. lol!
But I enjoyed what I just did... being a stalker. lol! I did not add him as my friend. I still do not have enough confidence to do that.
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
14 Aug 12
16 years is a long time^^ its normal that you were curious to see him. you just separated bcs of distance^^ not bcs he was mean to you. so i guess thats why you laugh when you saw him^^ cause in your heart you could remember the good times you spent together^^ even we move on with our lives it doesnt mean that we forget good memories with our exes^^ even more if the reason to break up was distance^^ im happy you could find him^^ did you ask him to be your friend in facebook? ^^
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
14 Aug 12
Well, just to answer your discussions, I can say just two sentences.
Congratulations to you, that you managed, though with some doubt to track down your ex.
And secondly, W the technology with the help of Facebook, you were able to reach your goal.
Maybe, in that moment I can't know how you felt, maybe a sense of sadness, but the phrase I was most impressed that you wrote, was the last. When you say that you are happy, knowing that he is fine now.
In life, instill these things are important.
@Inderjeetkaur (944)
• India
15 Aug 12
16 years...it's a long time. Great that you finally found him. Facebook is an ultimate place where you can find anyone, just anyone. Did you send him friend request or thought about it?
@prashu228 (37524)
• India
14 Aug 12
hi,
I am glad that you found him, i understood your situation, you just want to have a look/glimpse at him, not because you want something from him, but it happens. i was in such situation , some months back, and the thought just faded away, after having a glimpse, , nothing wrong.
, nothing wrong. @zhette4220 (181)
• Philippines
15 Aug 12
I too tried to do that searching thing.lol..But I just couldn't search him.
Well we just lost our communication for about 3 months ago so the "longing" is still fresh. Our status is not good right now, well, we broke up 3 years ago but remained friends who often quarrel and bring back the past all the time. So we had no choice but to stop communicating and stop the conflicting issues between us. Although I wanted to know how he's doing right now, I just couldn't search thru Facebook because we blocked each other. And so we got no choice but forget about the two of us.
@Raine38 (12391)
• United States
14 Aug 12
Good for you! That's one of the few things that I like about Facebook. Whenever you feel like going down memory lane, Facebook can be depended on to check on some old friends long forgotten and even those whom you lost communication with. It is also fun to know as well what the campus heartthrobs look now. And it is also fun to see what used to be the guy back in grade school who was your ultimate crush, after seeing him on Facebook, makes you question yourself how did you ever get attracted to him in the first place. =)
@joankath29 (60)
• Philippines
14 Aug 12
I am happy for you aejey322. I have the same experience like you as well. Buy the ex I was trying to find broke up with me just a year ago. I am still looking at his account in fb until now. Though we're not friends anymore but I could still get a view of his profile since its just in public. I was also curious to know on how he is doing a year after our break up. I gave up on him for him to be happy and now I could see that he is really happy, with his life, job and with his new gf. It still hurts knowing that the love you have for him don't fade that easily but still I could say that I am happy to see him happy now.
@toniganzon (72533)
• Philippines
15 Aug 12
I had the same curiosity a few months back. I was on FB and I tried to search for my ex there. Saw him with his family. They are in UK now and they looked very happy.
I smiled because I am happy for him. We broke up in bad terms but before he moved to UK we had one brief encounter and we chatted like old friends.
@delfajumamil (62)
• Philippines
15 Aug 12
when i reading your comments.. i really felt the excitement in your mind ,, hmmm maybe heart also,, i felt your curiousness about that guy... at least you're happy doing such thing...
@lexikaye22 (1)
• Australia
15 Aug 12
You were smart for not contacting him. Sometimes it is the Peace of knowing that they are doing well in life. Our hearts do not let go of relationships easily, that is why it is so nice to have facebook around these days!
