Daughter who left home and elope with her man.

If she is off on her own, with a degree and can support herself.....why disown her? I would imagine that such an action would be frustrating but on the same note, you have to look at why they chose that course of action. I don't believe running off to get married is a reason to disown my child.

Dear Angelpink, I know you are having a rough time for that. I am really sorry for you. I don't know the relationship between your daughter and the man, I think if your daughter loves her, why don't you satisfy them? Is the man not good enough for your girl? I don't know. If your girl wants to elope with the man, she must love him, then you can just ignore it. Or it will be not easier for you and your daughter to get along well with each other . If the man is not good, I think you had better give some time to them, your girl will come back to you when she knew him well one day by herself.I believe you won' t disown her, you are a woman loves her daughter, I can see that.

If she is old enough to have a nursing degree, she must be an independent young woman. I wouldn't consider this eloping, I would just consider this her being with her boyfriend. She's old enough to make her own decisions, and I would let her. Elope would be more like young teenagers leaving with their boyfriends, but she's old enough to do what she wants with her life. But if it was a younger child, I would definitely not disown her. Family will always be family, and disowning your own kin doesn't help them, it hurts them. If they made a mistake in life, as a mom, it would be my responsibility to help them and allow them to learn their lesson, and keep them in my life. ~ Annie

Hi Angelpink, I really feel for any parent who is confronted with those issues with their children...I really don't know what I would do if I had to deal with that situtation... I am blessed when it comes to my children ...I dream my son at the age of 19 told me "NO" when I asked him to take out the garbage and I woke it in a panic,,i didn;t know what to do, my children ever told me "NO"..never....my mother never played that and neither did I... So my heart goes out to parents who has to go through this,, whatever the out come...good luck to you and your daughter....

It is such a difficult situation to deal with when parents have to forgive or disown their daughters for eloping with their men. Parents sacrifice unconditionally to rear up their daughters and also providing education so it is such a heartbreaking situation for them when their daughters do things like this. However, if the their daughter pick the right sort of men, I think parents should forgive their daughters and help them to fix their life.

i guess that's how parents loved their daughters..and it's true..based on experience..my mom and dad tries as much as they could just to get me back..but because i was young and so aggressive, what they did never stops me from getting what i want..i eloped and been away for a year..then i got pregnant..but u know what, when i called them saying i wanna go home..they pick me up and never says anything more...

i think,i will leave her alone,its her choice not mine but of course it is a very disappointing moment for the parents,but daughter is also a human being,the more we dislike it, the more they like it.

It may not be easy to me to accept that she eloped. Specially because I´ve been in a church ministry for the last 17 years, I´ll fear for her, and feel sad because she didn´t trust me. But life is not easy, and I will have my doors opened, and I´d pray every single day for her, for whenever she wants to come back home.

If she is a grown up woman and no more a child, i am doubtful as a parent i can stop her from eloped with her boyfried, parent usually don't have much legal rigths on controlling their adult daughter or son life in the eye of the law. They probably will hide in a secured place where either i can not reach them or have ever heard of in my entire life. I will definitely not disown her because of that; after all, she is still my child and i will continue to love her until the day i die. I am sure every young girl make few bad decision during her life stage, that may well is one of them, i will forgive her and pray for her safety every day and wish her happy with the decision she make even though it is a wrong one from my side of perspective. I'm not saying it is easy to be a parent, there is always up and down in that role regarding our own children.

If my daughter wants to marry with her boyfriend I will check all background and his nature and then allowed her. But I find out any fault then talk with my child like as friend and say the face and show also. But if she are running with him and came back after some days due to any reason I will accept her. No annoy on her but I feel at least she learn the lesson for next time.

I will not disown her. She will always remain as my daughter, but I will not also come and get her. If she's already a nurse, then she's old enough to know what's right and wrong, old enough to know what she wants. I will let her sleep on the bed she's made. I will let her learn the consequences of her actions. This is something she needs to learn on her own, not because I'm tired of teaching her, but because she will never grow up if I will be always stepping in to fix everything for her.

I will surely get angry but I will never disown her. What good will that do? Yes, it will teach your daughter a lesson, but it will be hard on both of you because you'll be ruining your relationship. Family should be the first people you can run to when you're through rough times. So disowning her is no solution.

I guess you just have to let her know that you are thinking of her specially in this situation she is into. Let her realize what she had done. Only then she will know if it's right or wrong that she eloped with her man. Sometimes, parents can only do so much for their children but still it is your daughter's decision to be with her man. If in case she realized that she's wrong, just be there for her and never judge her. In life, sometimes we need to do wrong in order to correct ourselves and it is better to commit mistakes while we are young so we will have the future ahead of us to correct it.

I agree with you, Angelpink. The children are unstable sometimes. Parents with their experience, have more wisdom to make a decision. And love will guide children back home :)