Does my boss have a thing for me?
@ShootingStar79 (67)
United States
August 21, 2012 5:22pm CST
Ok..so I just started this new job last week when I noticed by boss was very attentive to me. I couldn't put my finger on it exactly, but the vibes I was getting told me that he liked me. Sure enough the next day it was almost time for me to leave and he asked me to keep him company for a little while. I agreed to it and we sat and talked in his office for 2 hours. He even opened his window and let me smoke in there and told me not to tell anyone he let me smoke in there! When we were talking, he kept his head down and didnt make much eye contact. He sat there looking down playing with his envelope opener. He asked me questions about me in a non-work related way including relationships. I know better than to get involved with someone in the workplace especially when its your boss, but I just want opinions from people as to if I'm reading too much into this or if he really is into me. The bad thing about it is I find him really attractive and sometimes find myself thinking about him a lot. It's bad I know. He knows I'm not dating anyone at the moment and whenever I walk into his office his eyes light up. BUT we share an office with another girl there. When she's not there he tries to make conversation with me, but when she is there, he doesn't say much to me. The other day I had told him that I was late getting my child support and when our co-worker walked out of the office, he called me over and gave me $30. I told him when I got paid I would pay him back and all he said was we will deal with that later so I'm assuming he was just doing that out of the kindness of his heart and won't make me pay him back. Yesterday he left at the same time I did, but today he left right after I got there because he had to take care of business matters. I'm not sure what's going on here. Any ideas? I'm going crazy over this!
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@Kashmeresmycat (6369)
• United States
21 Aug 12
Ohhhh no, no, no, no, no! You be REALLY careful with this! Your boss should NOT be coming on to you like that. He's out for one thing, and one thing only.
Look for another job. This is not professional, and especially so soon! He's more than likely married or just a player. BE AWARE.
Please give him back the $30.00 ASAP and do not take nothing from him anymore. He's looking for something in return. Run, run far away.
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
22 Aug 12
You and I are on the same page with thinking the "We'll deal with that later" part had to do with some favors, of a nature she does not want to be dealing with...
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
22 Aug 12
It does sound to me as if he is heavily coming on to you. I don't like how he gave you the money and what he said to you. I'd pay him back for it and tell him thank you, then just kind of leave it at that and go back to work.
You don't want to keep "talking" with him about anything other then business things. You've got to be careful about how you act toward him though, you don't want to completely give him the cold shoulder, he could fire you afterall.. but easing away from talking to him, yeah I'd do that.
@ShootingStar79 (67)
• United States
22 Aug 12
Oh I certainly plan on paying him back..no questions about it. I dont need that favor hanging over my head. The only favor he will be getting back from that is having the money paid back to him no matter if he wants to take it or not.
@carolbee (16230)
• United States
22 Aug 12
I think it's real risky to have a boss who offers you money and let's you smoke in his office. I think more details need to shared, if you care to, in this situation. Is he married? Are you about the same age as your boss or could he be older? Even if he is nice looking, be careful. If he has a boss who is above him and that boss suspects something, your boss could lose his job if the friendship goes further. If he is married it could turn into an awful experience. Also remember your job could be on the line. Take care and good luck.
@trisha27 (3494)
• United States
22 Aug 12
I would be careful with not to hang out with him so much. It does sound like he likes you and you should follow your intuition on this one. I think that it was inappropriate for the things that he has done already. Like giving you the money and then telling you that you will discuss it later on means of paying him back. What does he mean by that? I think you should have never taken the money in the first place and I would just give him the money back when you get it. Also I think that it is not appropriate that you hang out together by yourself because you never know what that could lead to. Be very careful, because you and him could both lose your job.
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
14 Dec 12
hi,
i think you should also put a wall between you and your boss because he still your boss,having a friendly relationship with him then its fine and makes us more comfortable to work with him,but we always think that we need to know our limitation.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
22 Aug 12
It does sound to me like the interest is there. It is really hard to fall for someone you work with. You will not be able to show any of it around anyone, you will have to act normal in front of others, you will not be able to talk alone while at work, and if God forbid things get ugly they can and will get REALLY ugly! You would probably lose your job if you two broke up. That would be horrible but it does happen.
I would take things really slow if you want to pursue things with him and think about it long and hard before getting in too deep!
@silverfox09 (4708)
• United States
22 Aug 12
I think your boss is coming on to you , and maybe he is also reading a vibe from you too (just saying). It's not a crime to find your boss attractive especially if he is not involved with anyone . Just be careful , but I think we all saying these thing to you will even make you find him more attractive *Forbidden fruit* 
@Canellita (12029)
• United States
21 Aug 12
Hoow much do you want to keep this job? It was completely inappropriate for him to give you money and for you to take it. As well, he should not have opened the window for you to smoke and told you not to tell anyone. If you are not careful, you are going to be looking for another job.
@Shavkat (139937)
• Philippines
22 Aug 12
If your boss has thing on you, there will be no problem. But the cliche, is he married? Then if ever no marriage commitment, the next hanging question is, are you tough enough to work with him if you considered to have a relationship? Think it over, sleep on it. A work place is a working environment, a place with full of possible gossips.
@tetris15 (539)
• Philippines
21 Aug 12
I guess you have to give it some time for you to really know if he has something for you or he's just being courteous. But by the looks of it, I think somehow he's interested but he's not really sure whether to come forward or not because he is the boss and you might think indifferent of him if ever he makes a move. Also be cautious because at this time, you really didn't know his motives or intentions. Good luck!
