Love Stick

While I do not condone violence and abuse, I do feel that there is a very distinct difference between "spanking" a child and "physical abuse" of a child. A spanking gets immediate attention and might sting for a minute, but there are no lasting physical effects, although the memory is supposed to prevent similar actions in the future. Physical abuse, on the other hand, often leaves a physical reminder, such as a bruise or sometimes a permanent scar, and is not necessarily done to prevent future actions but at times is just a way for the abuser to release anger and frustration.

Hmm the education of a child I think is verry hard but you can decide if you want to be hard or easy...Dont try to do everything he wants because he will want more and if you cant he will cry he will beat you up...

Yes iola, nurturing a child is a tough job. Mostly mothers nourished their children. It is their natural quality. I think both love and punishment should be applied to grow a child. In eastern countries we follow this practice. I think over freedom spoils a child. Sometimes we should be rude for the betterment of the future of the child.

I'm not real sure what point you are trying to make here. Are you using a translation program? However to address what I think you said, I am a grandmother and have raised two generations of children and am on my third set now. I firmly believe in discipline. Discipline, however is not limited to corporal punishment. The definition of the word refers to instruction, training and correction. Sometimes this has to be reinforced with corporal punishment but not always. I follow the Bible's admonition to raise up a child in the way for him. It also says that a parent who loves his child looks for him with discipline. And also that you should spank your child so that he does not die.

I have never heard of a "love Stick"! Some cultures are so different around the world they see nothing wrong in how they disipline a child! I am sure other cultures look at the US and think it is strange how we disipline our children! Changing cultures thinking and doing things is never easy and sometimes should just be left alone!

Hi friend, children don't learn any good thing by beating or blaming, we can teach a lot of good things with our real love and affection, don't punish the kids for their mistakes, tell about their faults and guide them with your love, they will learn a lot in the near soon

Yes still have the same traditions here, specially parents who grew up with abuse from their parents. Only now since we already have a law that even parents can be in jail if they proved out that the child was abuse. Some new generation parents are aware of not using love stick to them. I also not recommend this since the best way for them to a better person is to talk to them and show that we love them.

Discipline is as varied as people, what works on one may not work on another; it has to be taylored to fit the crime and the individual. I do not deny others the use of corporal punishment but prefer not to use it myself; for those who do, I would strongly caution them to know the laws of the locale in which they reside so as not to violate the rights of those being punished. It is my belief that anti-social behavior left unchecked can create havoc, so it is necessary to put into place a workable form of discipline in order for civilization to continue flourishing in an orderly fashion. In my mind, no discipline or corrective actions are equal to or worse than corporal punishment.

yes its against the law here but im not sure you are right. i raised 5 kids. the first 3 i thought my moms way was the best way and i spanked them. the last 2 i thought id messed up and it was abuse. heres the thing. they are still all different. i dont see any change in any. one of the first 3 is almost perfect and loves me and other very much. is a good person. 1 of the last 2 is the same. very good person to a fault, so what is your proof here?

Hello my friend iola2012 Ji, Well, all times love does not work. Then what is the choice, all of our three children hav ebecome good citizens (Pur vegetarian/Non alcholic, and non smokers, never use any slang languages), still my hubby keeps challanging them, whenever they beat their children, they are 41 yrs, 39 yrs and 36 yrs (daughter). It is worth to note that my hubby never tapped even to our daughter, who is bussiness woman and having two kids. Probably parents hav eto be examples in front of tehir siblings for ever. I also understand that parenting is most difficult these days. May God bless You and have a great time

I don't believe that parents should always use corporal punishment for the wrong doings that there children do. However, I also think that a parent cannot properly raise a child if they never use any corporal punishment. I have two children and they are both really well-behaved, however, there are times that they need to be punished. Most of their punishment is time out or being grounded. However, when they have done something that puts themselves or others in immediate danger, then I will smack them.

I will not go for a corporal punishment. If you do, it will become a trauma for the child. It is no the proper way to discipline a child. There are other options.

Maybe, it's better to give such a good discipline to a child.You should give children a punishment wants they committed things which you think is bad so that they will know that they have done is really wrong. I think love stick is often practicing for many parents nowadays.Children will be more respectful to their parents because of it.

disciplining children is not abuse. Abuse is completely different. I also don't think anyone really has the right to say one culture does things wrong and should stop because we don't agree. That is a very western way of thinking. Discipline is very important in raising a child and however people choose to do it should be effective in creating a better individual. If you end up with a situation where your 13 year old frightens you and terrorizes the neighbourhood, then you've done something terribly wrong as a parent. Cultures which use smacking seem to have more respect than others, whereas here in England under-age drinking, anti social behaviour and under-age pregnancy are rife. I think even if a parent chooses not to smack, which is completely fine, need to find effective ways of correcting and those that do smack, need to make sure they don't do it just for the sake of it.

iola how dare they call that the love stick theres no love involved in beating a child with that stick yuck its anger through and through and does it make the child act better? no it makes the child hate the stick and the beater parent., there are much more efficient ways of teaching a child by talking to him or her and using love not the stick.time outs, standing in the corner,taking away things they love. these methods work without physically injuring the child.beating is child abuse.