It's Over Because of Different Religion

Hi, If they have a strong foundation, I don't believe it's because of the religion too. Maybe they got bored of each other or they pressured each other by making each other prove their love by making one another move to their religion. If I am in the situation I will probably make it to a point that we both should respect each others religion and don't let it get into our relationship since it's not tha religion that brought us together, it's who they are that keep them together. Since they lasted for a long time the morals or lessons they learn from both their religion might also have something to do, why they stick together that long.

I think it is important to honor the fact that each person has a right to choose their own spiritual path. In my last marriage my husband and I had different spiritual paths and it was not a problem at all because we respected each other's right to choose our own spirituality. Religion only would be a problem in a relationship if the people allowed it to be I think.

I think that they should do what they feel is right regardless of religion. If they truly love each other, and care more about each other, then religion is secondary to that. To me, love has no color, no ethnicity, no religion, and no gender. If you two are or legal age, and you truly care about each other and want to be together, then nothing else shouldn't matter.

When did this thing happen? Was it while they are together or they already have different religions from the very start? Some religions do not encourage their members to go in a relationship with someone who does not share their beliefs because this can be risky. It will also become a BIG problem later on once they got married. The usual thing that happen is, during the courtship stage, the other party won't show that he/she does not agree to the other's beliefs. But when the time came that they are already together, or married, that is the time that this person would no longer hide his own feelings/thoughts. That is the time that he/she will stop his partner in attending their religious activities and will use that to start an arguments and we all know that discussing about religion is one of the most sensitive topics ever. It would be very hard especially if the other won't accept and is close minded. Many use violence to prevent their partners from joining their religious activities. Many are being abused physically and verbally because the other one want to stop the other and wants her/him to join on what she/he believes. But if this thing happened while they are already in a relationship, the best thing to do is encourage your partner to join you. Explain to him why you wanted to join this religion and that must be supported with bible teachings. But if you have done everything and the other won't show interest, though it is hard, I agree that they have to live a separate lives. No one is above God. But if this happened when they are already married, it is not a ground to separation. So it is being advised that before committing yourself in marriage with someone, be sure that you too share the same beliefs and worship the same God.

religion is very crucial. religion related to your faith. faith will determine your vision. two persons in a marriage should have one common vision. otherwise, it won't run smoothly. parents also should introduce children to their faith since very early, as faith is the foundation for the children to live life and face the world. so, if you know that the different religion will become an issue, I suggest to stop the relationship before the two persons getting depper in love.

Hi - Yes religion would be big factor incomes to relationship, to have big foundation in faith through works. You might not notice to other people that they entered a relationship but different religion. better to choice who where same faith and foundation rather than suffer long in life.

The religion can be quite important for some people and they can not accept to other different religions. I just don't understand that they have been in loved for years. It seems that they don't have any arguments or disagreements to each other's religion. I don't know why they suddenly want to separate now because of the different religion. Perhaps their love fades away and they are tired of each other. This is the one reason. If I minded my partner's different religion, I would not continue our relation at the beginning. It was better than breaking up at last. If I accepted his different religion, I would not separate with him because of this issue. I love China

I can't really answer this since i have never been in a situation like this. But i hear similar situation in the news and from my friends and someone just converts to the other religion. maybe the love each other so... it's just sad that couples break up because of that difference.

Do you think they got in to the affair at the age of 2 or 3? Not probably. When they started loving, does they were out of the religion and when it comes to the matter of the marriage, suddenly they belonged to different religions or what? What I say from this situation is that both are not loving each other and they have their own explanations for it. I think they enjoyed the life as and how they required and once they are fed up with what they were, they find a reason, that is religion and decided to separate and decided to go for a settled life with someone else. This may be the appropriate reason, what I think. Anyway, if I am in this case, I never give up my partner in whatever circumstances. But, if I am in a move to consider someone as my best partner, I will think first whether the person is best fit for me in all respects ie, education, religion, cast, wealth, family, culture, etc. Also, if it happens with a special attraction or attachment, I will think of it whether it will end up in a marriage or not. If there is any obstacles, I will try first to dissolve the problem and not try to dissolve after getting into the affair. However, if I like a person and prepared and decided, I will go for it at whatever circumstances. If I/we decided to get married, then it should work out and I will not reject simply because of silly religious matters. If I like someone, I don't care my partner is from which religion or country or whatever. But I need the permission from the other person also. This will be as a result of the mutual interest and desire. Just in the name of a religion, I don't think they love each other by heart, but it was just for a timepass and nothing else. What about if you wee in this case? Please tell us.

Hi smileyy I think they really want to go on separate ways and they made the religion as an excuse because if they really love each other they will not going to to end their relationship. I have some friends who has a different religion but they happily married right now, they just accepted and respect each religion and do not talk about it at home for the peaceful reason. Also they both agreed to let their children to choose which religion they want and to follow when they grow up. I think religion was not an issue, the problem was them who are not willing to stay together and continue their love.

That is a sad story. I have also heard stories like this. if the girl was me, I think I will respect my partner's religion and he should also respect mine. Love should bind us more. Our religion won't really matter because of our love.

In today's world there is no barrier of religion when it comes to love. I have seen many people marry from different religions and even different countries. My cousin has married a boy from Pakistan and she is from Fiji, they met when they where studying in Australia. Nothing could stop them to get married. So, it is not the religion I guess and this is a very lame excuse as far as i see. Have a wonderful day ahead.

Actually I am in the same situation right now. We have different religion, but we do not talk about it. We're just boyfriend/girlfriend, that is why we never talk about it. If we decided to get married, i think that is the time that we should talk about it. By the way, it just about give and take.

i already experience that situation, my gf and i separated because of religion now i regret a lot the biggest mistake i've ever done in my life is to loose her...by the way that is already 17 years ago...

Actually, two strong beliefs in different religions usually PREVENT people from getting together in the first place. It seems a little twisted and off to me that after years together, a couple would 'split up' due to religious differences. In my personal opinion, I don't believe in anything swaying or interfering with a relationship - religion, culture, distance, family, friends. IF you are important enough to each other, invested in each other for the future, and secure in your relationship, those other things DO NOT and SHOULD NOT matter. I cannot imagine putting something petty like that in front of my husband lol. Again though, that's just me. SOME people find religion more important than their relationships. That's fine, but it probably means I will not invest in you if I know I am 'less worthy' than something intangible that you believe. If this is in fact just a handy excuse, shame on them, own up to being unhappy together and don't blame it on something that isn't the real reason.

I know some friends and family friends who are still married after more than a decade even though they have different religions. In the case you mentioned, I think they no longer loved each other and the issue about differences in religion was the easiest scapegoat.

I've got two high school classmate who share the same problem as in your discussion. Both of them in in different religion. And worst, their parents were so devoted to their religion that the two were separated when they go to college. But, because of their "undying love" for one another, they keep their love a secret. And we (as their high school buddies) knows this and collaborated to keep this a secret to their parents. Several years after college, the guy had his own life now is the master of his universe. He converted to the girls religion without his parents consent just to be married to the girl he wants. Now they are living happily and already had three kids of their own. I think my story is the opposite of yours but still when love prevails, everything is possible.

I have this trouble too.My mother is a devout Christian.But his family follow the Buddhism.So you know,my mother will not like him.We have been in love for three years,and I didn't tell my family.I don't know how to say and I afraid we will be kept apart.I think that love is just love,unrelated to boundary,age and religion.