Does religion play an important role in the relationship?

Thanks Jeffery. Then will you consider finding a partner who does not follow Jesus?

Yes, sharry, and try to show Christ's love with her, but not forcing her to go to my church or etc. You know, maybe she would not follow Jesus because she has bad opinions on His "followers". So she would see how I behave and maybe she would mind changing her opinions, at the least :).

Religion is very important in a close relationship, most especially in marriage. It is not a good idea to marry someone who cares deeply about a different religion to you. You must consider the complications that arise with bringing up children, and socially,but if the religion is just nominal I don't think it would make such a difference. If you marry someone of a different race you can adapt to their culture but if you truly believe in one religion you cannot adapt to another.

Very well said...

Thank you, John, for sharing your story with me. I am quite impressed by what you and your wife have gone through in the past. you mentioned when you dated, Joyce wanted you to be converted to hers. Then how did you solve this dispute at that time? A lot of relationship has ended in that way.

yes, it must be quite difficult for two people with different religious background to live together, but it is not impossible, i think. If a person is crazy about his religion, maybe it is more difficult

I might not last forever their tolerance they have for each other, it usually cause a division in a long run, I saw a lot of couples in that situation and ended up breaking apart.

Thanks, Paper-Doll. I really appreaciate what you have shared with me. But do you think it is resonable for us to regard others who do not hold the same religion as a bad or unkind person? Secondly, is there any possibility for GOD to arrange us to marry a person with different religious background? Should a Christian get married to another Christian? God asks us to love one another, here, does it mean we should only love our sisters or brothers in the church?

I don't regard other people as bad or unkind just because they don't have the same religion as mine. But I always remember that all the people around me, in one way or another, may influence me. This is very true and sometimes, you won't even realize that they have already influenced you. So I take a lot of care in dealing with others. Even our parents would say, choose your friends. And I think they are right. Your friends can greatly influence your manners and behavior. Let me share a true story that I have experienced. I once noticed that a 'sister' is being too close to a guy who also works in the same office. They share the same seat in the bus, eat together, walk out of the building together and go out on a movie together (only the two of them). People around her would usually tease her, and they love what is going on between the two. They would in fact advice her to just go on with the relationship and forget that what she is doing may hurt her in the future. Because they say that, THERE IS NOTHING WRONG IN BEING IN LOVE. And so she continued with her relationship with him. But later on found out that the guy already has someone in the province and he wouldn't want to give up the other girl because he loves her. He said he is just afraid to tell the 'sister' about it because he doesn't want to hurt her. To make the story short, he lied to her. I tried to talk to her but she doesn't want to hear anything from me. She would rather consult her what she call as friends. I then found out that she is pregnant. The guy said he would support the kid but won't marry her as he loves another girl. So what her so called friends have to say after she gave birth? They say, THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH IT, IT IS IN FACT A BLESSING. BE HAPPY ABOUT IT. I agree that there is nothing wrong with having kids as well as being in love. But what do you think she is feeling at that moment having to realized that someone she love just betrayed her and that this person would not marry her and she has to raise his child out of wedlock. When in fact, this things could have been prevented if she just follow what her parents and the bible teaches. That is one of the reasons why the bible was provided for us - to guide our path so we won't be lost. Being disobedient can really put someone in misery. But it is funny that when it already happened, they would blame God for letting this things to happen or making them suffer. God is love. That is why despite sin, we are still here. Yes, he told us to love one another but would you love people who disgrace God? What do you think God feels towards those people? That is what exactly Satan did during the early days. Satan made our first parents believe that God is lying when He said that they would die if they eat the fruit. Satan disgraced God and our first parents believed in him. But instead of punishing them in instant, God sent Adam and Eve out of the garden. They did not die in instant because God loves us and wanted to gave humans a chance. Like what 2 Peter 3:9 says, 'He does not want anyone to perish, but wants everyone to repent." Like what I said earlier, being obedient is far more important to God than sacrifice or any offerings. And God is above all, so His laws are greater than other laws that exist. He knows what is best for us.

Thanks Vidhyaprekash-2. What you said makes sense. Religion is just an excuse when we are not in sincere love with a person; but it is nothing in front of true love. I am also a religion person, but i don't force myself to find a partner who has the same belief. If we say there is destiny, how can we deny the possibility that GOD arranges us to marry a person with different religion? We can not define a person only based on his belief.

Thanks, cher913. A relationship involves a lot of things.It is sure for people to dicuss this thing before starting a relationship. Maybe what survived from this adversity is true love.

Thanks beenice. Before starting a relationship, perhaps we need a little sense to consider the whole thing. However, most people will lose thier mind when they fall in love with somebody. "sense and sensibility", hard to balance

Thanks somupriti. It is true each religion tends to lead people to become a good, kind people. That is the common point among all religions. So i am not the person who judge others based on their religions. what matters is not what belifs s/he trust, but what kind of behavious s/he chooses to act in the daily life.