What will you do when your ex-boyfriend contacted you again?

Keep the communication going, I think that's what you should do. I still keep my communication with my ex even if he has married now. People say he's my puppy love because he was my boyfriend when I was 12 (and we were together for three years). We both 29 now and we were still fine. I still love him and I know he still loves me. And when we talk, we sometimes reverse to the past, to our memory. That's just fun. So I think you should let it flow to see where this new communication goes.

Some people have strange ideas and can behave strangely at certain times. You say he said he wanted to break up with you so you said goodbye and left him first. Now some people would be really annoyed by this because they want to be the one who finishes things. They want to be the one to break the others heart. You took that opportunity from him. Sounds to me if you did get back together he would soon leave you with him being the one in control this time. Not saying this is what will happen...it's just an idea.

I think your ex sort out everything in his mind and still loves you. He maybe shy to say any words about love because of what he did in the past... For me if my ex called me and talk about something else. Better not to cling into it again. If that ex want us to be friend...time will be sort out and decide. Friends might be work out in other ways...

The question is, do you see a future with this boy. If you do NOT see a future, then you should do nothing. Say "thanks" and "good bye!". No more talk. If you have no future, you need to move forward in life, not be held down by the past. If you *DO* see a future... Then you need to ask the question "has the problem been fixed". There was some problem that broke you and him up. Some reason that you are not together. You do not need to tell me what that problem is. But you do need to determine if that problem is fixed. Because if it is not fixed, then it is still there. It has not left. He is still him, and you are still you. Problems do not magically disappear. If you get back together, that problem will still be there, unless you two have fixed it. Lastly, if this problem is the boy was not committed to marriage.... then you need to assume it means nothing until he proves it to you. By prove it to you, I mean he needs to make it clear to you, he wants to marry and be husband and wife, and live together in a family. If he does not do this... he's playing around again. Don't go there, you'll end up hurt.

Hi Coralguan... I think try to be casual to him. try to friends with him and if given a chance, ask him his reasons why he's doing it. You still love him but could not even show him that. its hard. once he tells you that you two will better remain as friends, then try to reflect if you can do it. if not, then its time for you to move on.

I can understand you,just as I do.I got back together with my ex-boyfriend after broke up for a year.Because I loved him so much and couldn't foget him.But some messages can't really mean anything.He may just feel sorry to you.You have to observe a period of time to make sure if he loves you too.But I think becoming a common friend is a cruel thing.You can't hug him and must be polite.You still love him,but you may discover the he loves other woman.In my experience,I think you'd better to disconnect and go find another one who can make you happy.

Well maybe you should see first what is his intention of contacting you again. But as for me, lol if you ask me that, it would be a different thing as i am married lol but probably i would just ignore it. I never really have any communication with my ex..

i think it depends on you.. if you feel you are wrong when you send message him, don`t do it.. but you must ensure, not you the first time send message, but you only replied what he do first..

for us to advise you you need to tell us what did he do to you in the past. that way we can say if we agree with your friends or not. maybe he realised that it was a mistake to be without you. but maybe he was just sad to be without a gf on valentine's day and decided to say sorry for hurting you in the past. he didnt want to feel lonely on that day. if he loves you then thats another thing. just wait that he contact you. if he wants you back he will fight for it. just dont show much of your feelings yet^^ unless you are sure he really loves you dont show it much so you wont get much hurt. if you feel in your heart that he really is sorry for what happened and will do anything to have you back then you can start trusting him. but let him show you how much he loves you first.

For it is no big deal since you said EX means nothing you move on already and face the reality that you are him/her are not mean to each other. So if no other intension of his/her call may just say hello and make a friend not problem.. Or else you still having feeling towards.

This actually happened to me and ended badly, but it was because he wanted us to be a couple again and I didn't. So I made him promise he wouldn't try to gain me back, he promised and then tried to force me to kiss him so I left him there alone and I didn't contact him anymore, he has written to me lots of letters and I don't even read them. Crazy!

If he said something special like coming back to you again then that would be great, love is sweeter the second time around and you also said you still love him....then Why not give a second chance if ever he will court you again.. Be Happy, everyone need love ,most of all follow your instinct and feeling... But if he is not giving any special meaning with each words or he is just dropping by to say hi and how are you just give a simple response to just to be formal...

After reading your discussion I think he has just said it like that. If he still loves you, he will say it and will want to carry on with you. but he did not say anything like that, so i think just be friends for time being and see what he has to say. Don't start expecting things because you can get hurt. I wish good for you. Have a wonderful day ahead.

Try to take it slow. Judging from how you talk about him, it seems that he is actually a nice guy. I am just hoping he never breaks your heart again. However, in love, there are no guarantees. It seems that you are still young. Just be friends with him again and just talk to us again about how it goes.

First I shall try to observe whether his habits have changed for which he was rejected. Secondly, I shall try to get as much information on him as possible. Thirdly, I will take at least one-year-time to let him realize my worth. Then, if I find him acceptable, and if he is really after me, I shall superficially accept him rather act as if accepted. Thereafter again 2/3 years observation period will continue to finally accept him. In short, I am not in favor of accepting the old boyfriend, because the diseases like doubt, disagreement, intolerance etc., never get completely cured in life. When availability of boyfriends is not at stake, why to take back the old one?

Saying sorry may mean a lot of things. He may be sorry but is not intending to back with you and just moving on with his life. Or he could mean sorry and wants you back in his life. So before you make a move for yourself I think you should clarify his real intentions why he did say that.

Maybe it depends on how we broke up. But definitely sure, I will ignore. :D

Yu should really follow your heart, a relationship is between two people. you and him only not including your friends. so if you two can back on track and it's truly what the both of you want, then by all means do it. I sent a text too my ex recently and I hope she feels atleast a little of what we had. Still hoping (: but do as your heart tells you and everything will fall in place.