How to Make a Good Speech?
By tsingorchid
@tsingorchid (39)
China
August 30, 2012 6:36am CST
I'm always upset with my awful performance in formal occassions. However hard I practice myself, once standing before people, there's only little thing left in my mind, as a consequiece I just could say something incoherently.My poor behavior dispressed others, which hinders my work improvement and decreases the trust on me. Someone said that practice makes perfect, in which maybe I'm an exception. Having been the monitor during my senior high school for three years, during which time I have had so many occassions to speak in public, however, I still cannot accomplish my speech fluently. Or ther, perhaps I have to suspect my ability of logic thinking, or whether I'm familiar with my ongoing job. How do you thingk about this?May is there other possible reasons?
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12 responses
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
30 Aug 12
hi there
may i ask what kind of difficulties that would be your major problem when you are facing the people.
is it your speech ability - where you cannot pronounce the word well?
is it the stage freight? you will feel nervous when many people are watching you?
so what are your other disabilities in your performance that hinders you from excelling in speech performance?
know your disabilities first before curing them so that the corresponding person who will help you from your weaknesses know how to hit it and would make techniques to cover up or to cure it. because as far as i know, there are lots of factors why a certain person might have disabilities pertaining to speech power in public, as you say. thanks for the given opportunity to let us post back in your wonderful topic :)
@tsingorchid (39)
• China
31 Aug 12
What you questioned awake me, after thinking clearly, I arrest the key problem of me. I always persue of perfect myself, as a consequece, I am often dissatisfied with my work, which,I think, make me feel inconfident with my preparation everytime. The self-abased feeling and anxiety wear my spirit down, decreasing my words grantually. I will take some measures to come it over. Thanks for you reminding. Wish you a good luck!
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
31 Aug 12
hi there - thanks for answering back...
glad that somehow my post made sense and happy for that more if can find it helpful to you in facing your fears and weaknesses in public speech.
am i right that it is your nervousness eats you that is why cannot pronounce the word well or cannot perform well? so, may i suggest that as you practice let your classmates be your audience if you are still a student or your officemates if you are working already. so if you are at home, let your home buddies be your critic until you can get used to it facing with audiences. or at school, invite your teachers to be your guide, audience and mentor for the activity you are going to do. ask for help with them for sure they will be of a great help. focus on your disability and see if it is working. you are the one who have all the time to conquer your fear. like what you said, practice makes one perfect. maybe you need more of it to be used to it and will give you confidence. try to hold your fear and control it. do not let it control you. try to join activities where can expose yourself. i guess, this one would might help you in facing the public audiences.
i hope i get it right or if i am wrong, you can ignore or correct me for that.
thanks for this wonderful conversation :)
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
30 Aug 12
Well, even though in my life, I did not right now had no opportunity to speak openly in public, I believe that if I prepare myself a speech (perhaps originally written, read and re-read), I should not have big problems.
Infuse there is no reason that I can embarrass having to speak in front of many people.
In this respect, it was also made a film, which had a lot of popularity, it is titled: "The King's Speech" I suggest you look at it, if you have not already seen.
So strength and courage, friend! You can find the strength to make a beautiful speech!
@tsingorchid (39)
• China
31 Aug 12
Thank you for your sincere encouragement. In the following, I will watch the movie "The King's Speech", which may be helpful to me. Thanks again, excellent man!
@SusanLee (1920)
• United States
30 Aug 12
I remember when I was in the sixth grade we were given an assignment which required us to get up in front of the class and speak.
I thought I was going to die. I couldn't sleep, I couldn't concentrate, I just wanted to crawl in a hole somewhere and disappear. Mr. Severson, my teacher, helped us throughout the week to prepare for this assignment.
He gave us many tips but the only one I remember was 'stare them down'. If you're a shy person you need to take control.
A few things to remember is that the crowd doesn't see you any different then you see the speaker when your in the audience. Most of the time we're bored or distracted and really not paying that much attention to the speaker, especially if there is more than one.
I learned that when you first come to the podium, pause, take a few breaths and look at your audience. Make eye contact, you'll notice that they will look away first if you hold the stare long enough.
Anyway, as a little girl I walked in front of my class, paused and just looked at everyone. I guess they thought I was waiting for their full attention because whispering stopped, wiggling in their seats stopped and they wouldn't hold eye contact with me. They had become somewhat uncomfortable and it made me feel empowered.
It was great, I took control of the class and myself and I got praise from my teacher.
Those kids had no idea I thought I was going to faint when I was walking up there.
I've had to stand in font of people throughout my life and I always remember that tip my teacher gave us and it has never let me down.
@tsingorchid (39)
• China
31 Aug 12
I'm appreciated that you spare your own experience with me. Indeed, I once had the similar problem with you, improving it later, which I think may be never solved thoroughly. I get a appropriate method by your story, in which I treat myself as the one to help others even the only body who can control the all. The attitude or imagination of being in power may provoke me to be brave and self-confident. Thanks and good lock!
@Cutie18f (9546)
• Philippines
7 Feb 13
What you feel is normal. With constant practice, that means a lot of those bad experiences, you will soon gain enough confidence and master your feelings to deliver a perfect speech. Just keep on practicing. Then, to make sense and to be able to say something of importance, you need also to read everyday.
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
13 Mar 13
Hi,
Important thing for good speech is the confidence. You should have trust on yourself. Your preparation should be perfect. You should have command on your topic of the speech. You should not by heart the speech but the concepts of topic should be clear in your mind and the speech should come from within your heart.
@tassantos7 (70)
• Philippines
22 Dec 12
Hello tsingorchid!
I hope I can help. But before I can start giving anything I hope I can help, I wanted ask one thing. You said that once standing before people there's only a little thing left in your mind. What is it? Is it fear? If yes, fear of what? I think the key to solving your problem lies in that.
@Cutie18f (9546)
• Philippines
30 Aug 12
Preparation is the best way to gain confidence. You have to know everything by doing research and thorough reading. Do not depend on what you know but consult experts and specialists on the subject. Read aloud everyday in order to get used to saying words correctly.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
30 Aug 12
I think you should learn to have confidence in yourself. Do not be afraid to talk in front of people. Think about this....put in mind that you have something important to say that you need to relay to others so that you could help them. Wouldn't that be a great move to become such an important person for others? Just practice more and before you know it, you have become a very good speaker.
@happyblack123 (17)
• China
30 Aug 12
if you want to make a good speech,you'd better prepare enough for it.first,be famaliar with the topic,so you must look for relative material,then organize them in order,at last make a passage.this is just a small step.what you do next is to practise it more and more,first you must recite the passage,and speak it loudly by yourself.then you can ask somebody to listen to it and give you their advice.everything is ready,you must believe in yourself,you can do it.
@vipline (134)
• Greece
30 Aug 12
Hello there!I see you dont believe in your self do you?To accomplish your goal and make a successfull speech you need to be confident and think that everything will turn out great.Also try not to think about it at all think that you are speaking to a familliar person.There is nothing to be afraid of!I had this problem when i was young as well and I did the things above and it worked out pretty great!Try it out!
@chandni001 (7)
•
30 Aug 12
For a good n best speech it is necessary that u should have a good public speaking,if u r good at public speaking than u would never have any kind of problem in any kind of speech anywhere if u r fully confident on urself....u would b the winner n u would b proud of ur self but v just need to have full confidence on ur self n never loose it....!!!!!