Helping People

You are a friendly guy. In china, there are many professional cadgers in the street, subway, or other many public place. About ten or fifteen years ago, almost all citizens try to help them and give little cash to them, but today, only little citizens would like to give cash to them, there are too many cadgers. Sometimes when you give cash to one cadger, this cadger would abuse you are stupid.

Stoutjodee: Once when I was very happy - returning after visiting the temple --I gave an old lady who was walking on the road Rs.100 ($2). I did not check up about what she was doing with the money. Probably I have seen her again many times on the road -- she doesn't recollect--it was because i gave of my own. I use to help people for education-- through the amount received from my children--I have not helped like you -- helping strangers -- that is rare--- yes yes-- now and then when i meet the gentleman known to me for over 30 years -- it was 1980s i was manager in a bank. I gave a loan of Rs.600 ($12 now roughly). It was a big sum in those days. he suggested my bringing the money to home and he will collect from my home. I gave the money to my wife. My wife kept the money. later when his wife came my wife gave the amount Rs.100 x 6 notes. The wife of that gentleman took the money -- they had an infant at that time. His wife returned after an hour and told my wife "only Rs.500 is there" and she showed the amount to my wife. Later with a lot of regret I gave Rs.100 more to that lady. she took it. She returned the next day and returned that Rs.100 stating that one hundred rupee note had fallen down below the swing of the infant. I appreciated the straight-forwardness of that lady. So whenever I meet her husband on the road on sunday mornings -- I use to give $1(R.50) to him without his asking. Before the God all of us are very small-- we are lucky to have been placed in this stage thanks to him. So we must consider it our duty to spend at least 1% on charity every month. If all of us do like this then all the people will be happy. Regarding misuse of help -- we have a saying in tamil language--we have a right to give but no right to check how it is is being used.

I have help people that I dont know a lot of time , my fiance say they taking advantage of me because he will not give them so they come around him and ask me . I am now learning to say no to people I see homeless but I cant say no to children once I have money on me .

Yes there are people like, they use their wives, children or whoever just to ask for money from anybody. But I had a great experience when I was at a food court at a mall, I happened to set in a table near the table where a woman with 2 very little children were seated. The children asked food from their mom however their mom pacified them telling them she had no money. I pitied the children so I gave the woman money to buy food for them. I felt a feeling of satisfaction when I saw them eating the food that they bought. I gave them extra cash before I left the mall.

I just recently helped out a friend, although i didn't have the money to give. I really didn't know whether they would actually get the money back to me to be honest. I had forgotten that i had given this person the money a few months back. They then came to me and said they owed me and gave the money back to me. I was surprised because I really needed that money I had loaned them on good faith. You have to be very careful when loaning money to certain people because not everyone is out for you as much as they are about themselves to be honest. Some peoples vices are more important than friendship and family.

There are many beggers who fool us for there unnecessary needs. Actually begging is one of the successful business without investment. Thats why i only help those who are unable to take care of themself.

Sometimes we learn the hard way, it's too bad that your kind deed was abused like that. I've never actually helped a person one on one with food or money, however I have put in my time volunteering at shelters before and it's a good feeling at the end of the day.

I haven't been caught like this.....I am not too generous when it comes to handing out money but do other things to help out...like actually give them food. I guess I have heard this story more then once so it makes me hessitant to actually hand someone money.

People like this guy makes u leary of helping people & that's a shame.It's a shame that people will take advantage of someone's niceness.

You learned your lesson well.

I was a phone counselor a few years back and I had to deal with a lot of people...at the end you learn to know who is in real distress and who is not! I did drive to some places when their plead was genuine! but those who just wanted money at the end of the day? and not food? well then we would make an appointment for the person to come and see us...most of them never showed up!

I help people as I can , there are many poor people in my country . About the man who take your money , don't give him money again . he is a liar

Going with the or go get it for them. Sorry to say people are not honest. But some times you want to help someone less fortunate than your self. for instance if the church had given the money instead of the room they would never have rented the room. We want to believe in people but sometimes you just can't. its a sad world we live in.

Once I was going out of station by train , there I found a girl who was in real had position and was crying a lot . I just asked her why u r crying and what is the problem . She states crying more loudly , I got a bit worried about it and called the police . Then we came to know that some one has stollen all her money and luggage . Police file the complain and left her but she was still crying , so I asked her what is our problem ?she said that she has to go to her hometown but has no money , so I gave her a little money to help her . By doing this I felt really happy .

I did do charity mission, not only spending my allowance and I served with full service of my expertise. It was a mission to an outbreak situation, the placement needs my assistance funded by international NGO. It was worth of experience in transferring my skills to the locals. You can check my blog, it is still on process of putting all up the experience I had there.

This is why I'm kind of hesitant about giving money out to strangers. I don't know what they're going to use it for. This is like a show I watched called "What would you do?" They did an experiment where they faked a person who had not enough money to pay for his groceries. Everyone, I mean literally everyone, was reaching money out of their pockets to pay for this person. I know people are generous at heart, but they need to know that they're not being scammed.

It's so kind of you. Very often now people want to help those who are poor or need help, but they just don't know if they are cheaters or if the money can be given to them. There are many cheating. Moreover, some who have got money from others don't have a grateful heart, which make people feel hurt. They just think it as a matter of course that people help them. And it is also absurd that sometimes you help someone, but he says it is you who hurt him instead. Such phenomenon often appears on the web now. How sad it is! We just want to be helpful, but we must be clever enough not to be cheated or hurt. Again, i like this kind of people like you, because it is just because of you and other helpful people that the world becomes so human.