Is it hard to be a parent or is it hard to be a child?
@angelkarah050182 (4980)
Philippines
August 31, 2012 5:39am CST
We already have a plan to go swimmming tomorrow. We are going to celebrate our son's 8th birthday in advance. His birthday falls on a weekday again this year so I can't be withhim on his birthday. I received a text message from my husband yesterday. He said our swimming is already cancelled. Our son got a low score in his test. He said my son's reason was he was in a hurry to answer. He didn't exert effort in understanding the questions carefully. I don't blame my son for that. He doesn't know where to place himself. When he's slow in doing his activities at school, he's being left behind by others because he's slow in writing and he talks a lot during class. LOL. My husband nags at him for that. Not only ones but many times already. So, maybe he thought that he needed to rush answering his test so that he wouldn't be the last one to leave the classroom. I sometimes pity my son. How I wish my husband won't that harsh on him. I just told my husband that grades aren't that important. I told him that we are still lucky because some intelligent children received a lot of medals but became sick and died young. What are those medals for? I want my son to learn from his mistakes. I want him to enjoy his life. Healthy, happy and satisfied with his life. Happy mylotting everyone.
6 responses
@fatlex06 (895)
• Philippines
31 Aug 12
Oh. I feel for your son. I hope he won't get hurry answering those questions just for him to be the first one to pass the testpapers. I hope there'll be no gap between your husband and your son. I think he must not be too rude to his boy, infact, he must understand him well because he became a boy once too. Being rude to a kid doesn't really help, I think. Just my own POV. But I hope your son will recover from his grades. Best luck to him. Tell him he can do it and just enjoy life. :)
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@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
31 Aug 12
He's always comparing himself to our son. I guess my son is pressured. My son still loves his father even he gets a lot of nagging from him. Thank you. Happy mylotting.
@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
31 Aug 12
LOL. My son is different. He still prefers my husband than me because I can't cook. LOL. I asked him to choose between me and his father and he chose his father. He said I can't even cook fried chicken. LOL.
@Shavkat (139786)
• Philippines
31 Aug 12
In my opinion, it is difficult on both sides. I am not saying that, I am against my parents guidance. But some people I know, they do hate their parents vis-a-vis. I think this is common in a broken family.
@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
31 Aug 12
Oh, yes. I agree with you. It's hard to be a parent and it's also hard to be a child. I don't want my family to be a broken family. I hope that my son will behave well so that he'll not receive a long sermon or lecture from his dad. Happy mylotting.
@happyfencer (4)
• United States
31 Aug 12
I think it is harder to be a parent. A parent has to deal with the child, but also financial issues, possibly work, a spouse (or ex-spouse(s), household chores, etc. My mother told me that being parent isn't easy and now that I'm nearly 21, I finally understand what she was talking about
@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
30 Nov 12
Yes, you're right. Parents has a lot of nonstop responsibilities. They can't say no to their duties. They work hard for the family and sometimes they even neglect their own needs and happiness. They're just working for their children's future. It's good to hear that you'll now realizing that it isn't easy to become a parent. Eventually, you'll have your own family. You'll also experience what your parents are experiencing now. Be good to your parents. Thanks for posting and sorry for the late reply. :)
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
31 Aug 12
I don't really think that either role is more difficult to have. As a child, it is difficult because they do get punished for doing things wrong when they know that they are making mistakes. However, as a parent, it really hurts us to punish our children for doing things that they know that they should not be doing.
In some ways I think that it is harder to be a parent because there are always going to be times that our children hate us, but I don't ever remember a time since I've been a parent that I've felt like I hated my children.
@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
30 Nov 12
Yes, you're right. Our children sometimes hated us but we never hated them. It's really hard to become a parent. I guess our children think that we don't encounter a lot of problems but they don't know how we struggle in our daily lives. I guess we should just do our best to become good parents to them so that they would also do their best to become good children to us. Thanks for posting and happy mylotting.
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
31 Aug 12
To answer the question on the subject line, I believe it's totally relative. It depends on how your parents were when you were a child. I believe I was a good child to my parents, and my parents were also very efficient in raising me, so I would say being the child to these parents was easy.
Now, that Im a parent, I'm having my own struggles, too. I am still learning to be a good parent and the learning doesn't end.
So, for me, I'd say its harder to be a parent.
@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
30 Nov 12
Yes, I agree with you. It's harder to become a good parent than to become a good child. You're right. Learning doesn't end. We learn each day of our lives. Thanks for posting and happy mylotting. Sorry for the late reply.
@BethelSophia (538)
• Philippines
31 Aug 12
Sorry to hear about your son, being a child is not easy as well as being a mom. Most people said to be a parent is not easy but how about being a child, as a child and as a mom we both feel the same. Base on what you've shared I really feel sorry about your son, I think you're son is trying his best to be appreciated by his father. I do hope that your husband would change his strategy in approaching your child. If he keeps on nagging at him it won't help a lot. It won't either build the confidence of your child. He must learn to accept your child's weakness or he must be gentle enough to encourage your son not harsh :(, there are times that we want our son to be always the first without knowing that our strategy is making them to be low.
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@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
31 Aug 12
You are right. I don't like his strategy. I guess he lacks guidance. He's the housekeeper so he does lots of things. However, when it's time to have a review, he always asks my son to review by himself. He's only 7 turning 8 a few days from now.I guess he can't concentrate in reviewing alone because he's thinking of playing games with his cousins or computer games. I need my husband to give his 100% support in his studies but he said my son needs to be independent. He's comparing him to the other children. I know my son is playful but he's very obedient. During his first year in studying, he ranked 4th in his class. The following year, he went to 17th. And now, I don't know if he'll get lower than 17th. I guess having a desktop computer and a Nintendo DSi XL with lots of games distracts both of them. They are both addicted in playing games. LOL. Happy mylotting.
@hubshaun (2)
• United States
31 Aug 12
I think that parenting comes with being a child. We learn from our mistakes as a child so that when we grow up and have children of our own then we can teach them,discipline them,and care for them in a way that we did not have as a child. I think that grades are important in school, without good grades you cannot have a scholarship to school and it gets you held behind in school to where other kids can pick on you. I believe all in all if we learn from our childhood then parenting will come naturally.
@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
30 Nov 12
Oh, I got your point. We can become a good parent if we became good children when we were younger. Yes, I agree with you. If we got disciplined enough then as parents, we also know how to discipline our children. We know how to handle problems. I guess we should not compare ourselves to them because we are in different ages. There's always a generation gap between us. We should try to understand what they need and what they want. It's just a matter of communicating with them. Both are easy and hard as well.
