Togetherness?

No, I don't think a couple has to spend every minute together. But it just seems that me and T are always together. Not a problem for me. She likes it that way. But I am also scared from the past when the evil ex would go with her friends, I did not mind and I thought it was healthy. But like I have said once before, hind site being 20/20, she was not being faithful. So that sort of stays with me these days. Trust is a hard thing to do for me these days.

Couples absolutely do nothave to spend every moment with one another. I think there's a good balance between being together and hanging out with other friends. I love my hubby, but I'd get tired of seeing him all the time if we were together that much lol! Time away from one another is extremely healthy for any relationship. I think I would go crazy if I had to do everything with my husband. There are plenty of things we enjoy doing together, but I think we appreciate one another more when we spend a little time apart. For instance, this past Wednesday night, I went to a jewelry party with some of my girlfriends. I honestly can't remember the last time I had that much fun. It was a blast! Thursday night (the day after my party), my husband went to a Lions football game with my dad and a couple of their friends. They had so much fun, and it was nice because I went out with my mom and a couple sisters during their "guy time." We both had a good time. After being apart two nights in a row, though, Friday night's date with dinner and then hanging out together again was refreshing!

Oh heavens no. If I had to spend every single minute with my boyfriend (and I am boyfriendless right now) I'd go nuts. I could not date a needy guy. I've got to have space. My dad, bless his heart, is experiencing this smother factor right now. My parents used to love spending time together. They weren't together every second because they worked and did other things. But now he can't get away from her. This isn't what you are talking about, it's next level. He goes to the kitchen, she follows him. He goes to the bathroom, she follows him. He gets on the computer, she stands behind him. She's like a puppy following along with her master. When he goes inside a store and I'm with him. I have to keep my finger on the lock button because she'll try to get out and follow him. She'll bang on the window, trying to get out. It's crazy! Like I said, I know you are talking about sane people, but this discussion made me think of it.

Togetherness is important - yes I say so! For two years of my life I love and sometimes the "fiction" resides between the two of us - as if we are just existing in a love story pocketbook... because we are not together. Right now, I want to spend my life with someone just beside me. I might find her one of these days because we all have the right to love again... and it does not mean every minute together, well I guess every couple must have a good schedule to bond together... Anyway, each one of us must spend sometime alone to think and muse... Have a great day my friend :)

No one should have to feel like they are binded literally in a relationship. Its okay for you to have common interest and feel the need to express your love. In our society most people work and have other obligations that allows couples the time apart any how. If you really enjoy someones company you might crave their presence. "Every flame needs a rekindle"

Even though you are a couple, still you are two different people who needs different things at times. It's not very healthy if you only get to spend all of your time with your partner only. You still have family, friends, neighbors, co-workers, etc. who might be needing your attention as well.

Absolutely not. I think that each member of a partnership needs some personal space, although how much will very from individual to individual.

There is such a thing as too much togetherness. I discovered that when my husband and I worked at the same job. We two were the only employees, unless we needed too hire a temporary helper for a particular job. For the most part, we two did everything, even the janitorial work. It was more than I could take, although we had a super boss, who usually only came in once a month to sign our pay checks. I quit and got a different kind of job where I was was away from my husband from 7am to 4:30 or 5pm 5 days a week. Our relationship improved.

I beleive one needs time for themselves. to have what they say space and friends in a right way as talk, shopping, a get together. etc. I think it helps the relationship and trust more one for another. then I also beleive in honesty as being truthful with each other so no problems arise and meet with friends together also.

I agree with you.Even though one has few social contacts,he /she may have a few friends or have some hobbies which are different from him/her partner,therefore there are neither need nor possibility for a couple to spend every minute together,much less those who live in two seperate places like many here.

Hi! No you don't have to spend every minute with your partner; you'll need some time for yourself so you can be happy as an individual. Do try some of the things he enjoys or perhaps you'll stumble across some hobbies over time. My husband and I did; from wedding shows to Restaurant Impossible and some japanese animation.

No I don't think two people need to spend every second or minute with each other. I think spending time a part is good for a relationship. I guess I'm lucky since I get stuck at home all day and hubby gets to go to work that by the end of the day we really miss each other and want to spend some time together although some times we just want to spend time alone which pans down to once little ones are a sleep and we don't want to watch the same things or want to do something else.

No , I don't , every one need some time to spend it with his family , friends , and his self , So as not to suffer boredom which makes their problems begin .

There are times that we also want to spend time with our family and friends. Being with your partner is a different thing. I think we also need time and space. If we are always together with our partner only, we become so much dependent with each other. For me that is not healthyin a relationship because the time might come that we can no longer do what we want to do without the help of your partner.

Hey Sarah... In the early stages of romance, it happens that a couple can't be without each other... They feel sad, while going to work or school/college... But that happens in the first two weeks or a month... When the 'new'ness of it gets over they require their personal spaces again... That one thing can keep a relationship stronger... Yes, everyone requires it.. It is not just in love; even in family life- a kid must have his personal space... Thats what is so good about America... Everyone's opinion matters in the family, in a classroom, or a sports team or in relationship... Personal Space is necessary to realize one's own self... :-)

I don't think you should be together all the time...it gets stiffeling...pretty soon you feel like you are crowded into a certain space. I need my own space once in a while.

I think it's a whole lot healthier to have friendships outside the relationship.

It would drive me crazy although I have to admit I once had a bf I spend day and night with (we even worked together) and it was no problem at all. If it would have last that way for years/forever I can't tell (his mom was too jealous of our close relationship so we ended up). I think everybody needs a life for his/her own. So not just men which is mostly the case. We all have different interests, need our own identity, and it's good to come back home and tell the other one something new.