Your friend is shoplifting

You cannot go and confront her because you were not there when it happened. The friend who saw her is the proper person to talk to her. You can be there too as a friend by listening to her explanation. You see of you consider her a really good friend of yours, you should try your best to correct the wrong things she's been doing. Just be a good listener and be there as a really good friend.

Maybe you should talk to her in a nice way that she won't be offended. Don't mention your common friend's name as someone who saw her do it. You can just invent other people who saw her and accidentally mentioned it to you since it was known that she is your friend. Try to dissuade her in doing it again , lest she will get into trouble with the law.

This is an awkward situation. I've heard of people shoplifting for the thrill of it, and it's possible that your friend is in desperate financial trouble, but any way you look at it, it's not a good thing for your friend to be doing. I don't know what I would do if I were in your position.

I think she'll never admit to it because she thought nobody saw her. I don't think that you can do anything about it directly. But perhaps you could try to talk to her basing on another person. Like, what if you suddenly talked to her about some friend (even if it's made up) being beaten by the cops and the community because of being caught shoplifting. Perhaps it could open her mind and perhaps she would realize it's wrong and bad things may happen. Then you could ask her "what do you think is wrong with these types of people? Should they seek help?" ask her opinion on it and perhaps she would think about asking for help. But never accuse her, you wouldn't want to break the friendship. Have a great mylot experience ahead!

I think as a real and true friend for her, you must talk to her in a nice sensible way, if this only happens for the first time, I think she's into something, financial problem perhaps. Remind her that it is not a good deed and she can get caught anytime and it could ruin her name and life.

She's pretty, she has the brain she was in a prestigious education where she finished her education and sure her parents can support all her needs. But, sad to say she has this bad habit and thrill of shoplifting which she excitedly would tell me every time she had done it. I was really surprised i did not expect she could do it with her personality i thought she's this kind of a pretty lady with pleasing personality and of good moral character . Since I personally heard all what all her wrongdoings which she herself had told me I tried to keep away from her, ashamed of what all she did specially some of our roommates were complaining of their missing valuable things which i knew she got it.

first of all the friend who told you had a responsibility to go up and let your other friend know what she thought she perceived and try and get her to return or pay for the items she allegedly shop lifted. By not doing so she is an accessory to the crime if one occurred. Second she was not a true friend letting the other person leave without confronting her and in telling you which is gossip. As to your confronting your friend who allgedly shop lifted items. Do talk to her, and lead into so and so saw you the other day in XX store or someone who looked like you. Are you having a hard time with finances or making ends meet. If she asks why tell her the other friend saw her take items, leave the store and not pay for them. Or thought she saw that. If she denies it leave it. If she says she did ask her why she stole things. She might need counseling or help. She might decided your nosy and unfriend you if that is the case then let her go she is not a true friend.

i will really scold him in first place and ask him why he did that and give him the proper advice we should not do it again for sure

Oh wow that can't be good. U should ask ur friend what up with that. I'm not going to tell u what u shoud and shouldnt do. But shoplifting is a crime and one way or the other she is going to get caught and my the next time she gets caught it will be by the ppl in uniform. What r friends for? Tell her the truth and if she is a good and true friend shell stop or she won't be ur friend anymore. That will be a heartbreaker. Or u could find out what's going on. That's what I would do before I say or do anything else. I would say u know what I saw....and if she looks guilty then I would say 'r u having problems wit money' and I would offer to buy her whatever she needs. But don't judge her. Shes ur friend and as such, be there for her!

First of all if she really did it , even if you ask you'll never have a strait answer. But than if you tell her that someone saw her doing it, if she is really one of your good friend well she has to be able to say the truth, if she really did do it, don't stay around that friend anymore to not become part of her game.

I agree with you, we should not asked it directly. It can be better if you talked to her personally, we should be at the middle of the situation. We need to be careful being a mediator, listening to both sides of the story.

If I were you, I won't start a conversation about this on purpose. I will say something about shoplifting at random, and express my view about this behavior to let her know that shoplifting is totally wrong and I won't make friends with the people like that.

I suggest you talk to your friend first before thinking anything else and putting judgment on her. Talk to her in person and not through phone.

maybe you don't know her that well and she did it but its still your responsibility as a friend to talk to her and clear things out

If this is really a good friend go over and try to find out the reason for shoplifting. Is it boredom, the excitement or money need. A good friend should tell you. Otherwise it's not a good friend and I would not like to be close to such a person. Since the shoplifting will continue and stealing from other people as well (not trapped means it will go on). Also ... since you know and your other friend knows too, you both are wrong and breaking the law as well!

i think you should call and tell your friend about what your other friend saw in the supermarket that she shoplifted..and if she confirm it herself it is better that you adviced her not to do it again because if the first time she wasn't caught then maybe the next time around she will already be caught and it is such an embarassment and not a good thing for her...or maybe your friend really want something that bad and she didn't have the money to buy for it so she just shoplifted or we don't know she could be a kleptomaniac wherein someone cannot help themselves to steal something. this is just all i can say.

Oh my, well there's really no good way to go about it, even if you try to come up with it in the nicest way.. because you weren't there you didn't actually see it. Your friend (the one that seen the common friend shoplifting) would need to be the one to say something since she was the one who actually seen her. Really if she was going to say something she should have said it then and there. But more than likely the common friend will deny it and cause problems with your friendship. But maybe I'm wrong. I mean everybody or most people have shoplifited once in their life as an adult or as a kid its still shoplifting. So maybe you could start the conversation kind of like that ya know like bring up that you seen somebody shoplifting the other day and thought back to maybe when you did it once as a kid and how you were thinking how much trouble they could get into and serve jail time over something so little. You know kind of like drop the hint of how serious of a crime it can turn into.. maybe that will discourage her from doing it in the future. That's my best advice on how to go about it. So hopefully this helps. I hope you and your friend can remain friends, but don't fight for something that isn't worth keeping. That's what I've always been told.

Hi friend, sad to hear about this, it is really hard to believe this kind of incidents, but the person whoever told this incident to you is also your friend, so you must believe this real fact, there is nothing wrong in asking about this to her, but tell your friend to ask this to her, as she was the person whoever saw this incident

You should talk to your friend who told you about your close friend first and inquire whether your close friend was the one whom she saw shoplifting. After getting confirmed as if your close friend was the only person she saw shoplifting then you must talk to your friend about it. Don't talk it loudly among your other friends and also tell that friend who has seen your close friend shoplifting, not to pass this around to others. after this you should approach your close friend for a one to one conversation. You should go to a remote place or a place where no one is able to listen anything and ask her if she likes to do this kind of activities. On her reply you can have an idea as if she is doing it for fun or what. After that don't go into more detail but rather give her the consequences of being caught and how one could face a lot of embarrassment. I think after your explanation she might try to understand or she takes your discussion lightly then you can scold her in a more heavier way and should make her understand more and also warn her that she can even lose her friends if she continues to get involved with these activities.

If I were in your situation, I would talk to your friend first in person. ( I was referring to your friend who saw the other friend of your shoplifting.) And then after that, I would have a coffee with my other friend and try to observe first. If you think your friend has a problem about being a shoplifter, I think you should calm yourself and help her overcomes it. She must be lucky at first because she wasn't caught by the police or any cctv, but we might not know in the future if ever it'll happen. If you are a good friend, you could talk to her about it and ask what's wrong. I hope she can get rid of it if it's been a hobby. God bless. Best of luck to you and your friends. :)