What will you do?

Philippines
September 4, 2012 5:05am CST
I am not feeling well, it is not because I have illness or sickness. It is about some people who do not like the way I look when I am more comfortable to the look that I have right now. Well, I admit that I am conservative and yet open to change for good. However, this situation makes me confuse. I look boring. I know but I do not know if I should change when it is not my comfortable one. I am open but it makes me confuse when it comes to the clothes that I should wear, style of my hair, etc. That's why I came here to ask some of your suggestion. Thank you.
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10 responses
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
6 Sep 12
Why bother about the others? Let them think what they want to think. Be who you are, you are not condemned to live and please people around you. I don't like the idea that you should change your ways to please other people. Leave them- and go on your own. You are not troubling them anyway and they can't help you either. True friends are people who stays and accept you whoever you are.
@nupur123 (392)
• Hyderabad, India
10 Sep 12
Yes true friend r those who accept u as the way u r and not by ur physhical appearence. As outher appearence changes according to age and many other factor but u cannot change ur inner soul.
5 Sep 12
you just dont care.this world criticizes every man wheather he is right or wrong.if i were you then i would never have cared about this and done the things i like.if you think you are right then do as you want.satisfing the world is the world's most difficult task ever.you cant please every body.just be sure that your heart is satisfided.
@nupur123 (392)
• Hyderabad, India
10 Sep 12
Very true we shiuld always think about us and be least bordered about what other think . People have mouth to speak so they r doing there job . One should know how to ignore them and feel happy about whatever u do
@namiya (1718)
• Philippines
4 Sep 12
I see nothing wrong when you prefer to dress and live the way that makes you comfortable as long that this don't harm anyone. But if it is affecting you through the treatment you got from people who don't conform with what your're used to why don't you give it some attention. Maybe they only want to help too.
• Philippines
4 Sep 12
Do you think so? I wear slacks and some sort of top blouse. Just like that. I do not wear long skirt or even short skirt when I am at work. I do not know if there's a problem with that but as I see to some people around me they wear slacks, skirts, they have make ups but I do not have. Maybe it was my daily routine not to have make ups when at work but I do have make ups on some special occasions. They have their own good hairstyle and I thought I have mine too but they said my hair was not good. I am trying to see what help they are trying to give me. They just smiled and I just smiled. I put too much attention on it but it decreased my self-confidence. Thank you for your reply namiya because it is giving me some thoughts about it. I am hoping for your reply. Thank you.
@Shavkat (139933)
• Philippines
4 Sep 12
It is the person who can change for a better personality. If you think you are not comfortable for changes, then go for it. We can not force oneself if we don't like it. For me, I don't go to a trendy things, if I don't feel using it.
• Philippines
4 Sep 12
Yes, I was once change the way I look, well it felt so good however after months I felt not good enough having the look that I am not really into. It making me realize now that I should go for the things that I really want to do and the things that I really enjoy. Thank you for reminding me not to go in a trendy things when it is not needed by me. I'll just go being the real me. Thanks to you.
@fatlex06 (895)
• Philippines
4 Sep 12
I see. I think you should start dealing with some changes in your life, if there's any. You said that you look boring, so why don't you make yourself interesting, it doesn't necessarily mean that if you change yourself you won't be conservative anymore. Why not change the way you dress and present yourself but remain being conservative. I think you should watch some tv shows about transformation. We girls should always be beautiful not just in our eyes but also in other people's vision. Boost your confidence girl. It's not too late to change yourself. :)
• Philippines
4 Sep 12
There is a feeling of low self-confidence after that incidence. Yes, you are right I have to boost my confidence, but when I was trying to change the way I look, I had change my hairstyle, at first it really felt good and people gave compliments on me however after few months, maybe it was 1 and a half or 2 months, people around me started to say that my hair isn't good. They kept asking me if do I pony tail my hair? Or do I comb my hair? but at that moment, I really did. It was just felt that I was not good after they said it to me. I agree with you that we should always be beautiful not only in our eyes, I have to work for it girl. Thank you so much! I have to boost my confidence. :)
• Philippines
4 Sep 12
Do you know the show, "What Not to Wear" and " How Do I Look?" You might want to check this out and I am sure it will help you in terms of the way you dress. This show features women who refuse to accept change in the way they dress. But after the make over, they feel more confident and more beautiful. The hosts don't turn the participants into a totally different person instead they just improve,cover their liabilities , and let the participants embrace who they are. You might want to watch these links: What not to wear: www.youtube.com/watch?v=U8HDMaM5-RA&feature=relmfu
• Philippines
4 Sep 12
I like when you said that they just improve. Yeah, I think I have to improve. I do not really know those shows but since you have suggest it, I came to see online to know it and to watch the links that you have post. I really like it! Thank you so much! :)
@cefaz_21 (2596)
• Philippines
5 Sep 12
I go for comfort always. I don't dress to impress. As long as you do not look like out of this world and that you are pretty comfortable on what you wear go for it! never mind what other will think.
@sk66rc (4250)
• United States
4 Sep 12
I refuse to live my life based on other people's opinions & beliefs... While they have all the rights in the world to voice their opinions, I have same rights to live my life based on my beliefs & values... I know this may sound little over-kill for the topic but I believe it starts with something as trivial... There's an old saying, "If I can't trust you with something as little as a dollar, how do you expect me to trust you with something as big as a million dollars?". If you're open to changes & willing to change, do it because you believe it's for the better, not because somebody else told you so...
• India
4 Sep 12
I cant stop laughing on reading your post as just now i received an sms which was something like this - "If we start thinking what people think about us, then what will the people think. Live your own life." Just want to say do what you feel comfortable and enjoy your life. People will say something or the other on whatever you do, be it looks, work or anything else. Best wishes
• Philippines
4 Sep 12
Thank you for reminding me that. It was a long time ago since I heard it. Now, you are reminding me about it but it seems I almost forgot how to ignore what they think. I just can't get of it. It's just happened that it keeps me think what they say about me. BUT I will do it again to be more comfortable of being who I am. Thank you very much.
@nupur123 (392)
• Hyderabad, India
10 Sep 12
In that case if u need help u should go to some good make over deals . Like loreal or lakme or any other which u can afford . By doing this u will feel confident and it will boost up ur enery . If a person has these things then whatever u wear u will be able to handle it properly.