Finally he emailed me.

I know I'm not in a position to be giving you any advice but, here's my opinion anyway. Always follow your heart. Maybe, you're just not listening enough to what your heart and mind are trying to tell you. I've been in a situation before where I had to give a lot of chances to a person, because I really love him, and at that time, we were still working things out. It turned out better. It's hard to really understand your situation especially if there are times that you're still as confused as what you're saying. But, confusion is pretty good in a way, 'cause it means that you are still thinking, that you are still trying to weigh things out and see how things should go, what's best for you and for the relationship. If you think it's still worth it, then fight for it, but if you think that you've given too many chances, then let go. Anyway, good luck and I hope you'll be enlightened as to what you're supposed to do.

Im glad that he emailed you back, and give you some peace. Im not in the position to tell you that give him another chance since you can only tell if he is sincere in his word. Maybe you can talk about this and solve the problems you have. It seems he is fooling arou d in your feelings after you loved him so much and when he wants to leave he will leave. Just be careful this time when you decide. And I hope you can decide for you and for your daughter.

Hi chicgale. I haven't responded in a while. I have been busy with building my own niche in this world. I have read your previous post related to this. Now it's time I share my opinion. You should sit back and ponder on a few things before drastically doing something. First ask yourself how well do you know him. Seven years is a lot of time to be together and I would say that in such a time you would have some sturdy bond together. Then ask yourself how well do you think he knows you. How far would both of you go to get each other back in a relationship again? Mind you, you would have to consider a few other factors that may be weighing you both down. Perhaps coping with our culture here in our country. How does this affect him and how far is he willing to push cultural differences in favor of a lasting relationship. I have a lot of western friends from all over the world and I have observed some of them to be very open with all the differences that divide us as a human race. Now I don't know exactly what he's being weighed down at all, but you have to find it within yourselves (that means both of you) to see this through. If both of you are one the same page, then there is definitely hope. You have both got to meet each other half way to make it work. It wouldn't be fair for any of you to consider the other over one's self. You must meet halfway and together you can get over this crisis. I hope this helps. Cheers.

You need to have a real good talk with him. Ask him what he really feels about you and why does he keep on doing the same things that hurt you over and over. Then assess your feelings after he has explained himself.

Actually it's only you who can really tell if you would accept him back or not. I have had a man broke my heart three times too. It was really frustrating and though he had made a promise that he wouldn't break my heart again, he had done it but came back to me again. He told me me he would do all things to make up for all the things he did for me in the past and so far he is doing well. All my friends told me I shouldn't go back to him because he would still end up hurting me. Though I wanted to listen to my friends, I chose my own decision because it's me who will be happy and be hurt in the end. Now they're all happy that I'm happy. So just listen to what your heart tells you. You would be able to tell if he's sincere or not if you still love him.

If you really love this man and you feel that he is really serious about you, then you should accept him. It's still up to you to decide. But make sure that it'll be worth it if you still accept him. But if not, you should let go. I know it won't be easy for you because you've been together for a long time. But hey, you should still consider your daughter. She needs a father, a whole family.

Hello chicgale, were you telling my history?? It happened very similar to me 17 years ago. But I had no daughter. It happened just the same to me. I was really very very depressed. Because I was in love of this guy for 7 years. And we were to marry, and he cheated me, and then I forgave him, and then he came, and then he ran away, and then he came back, and then ran away again, and then came back. It`s very stressing, confusing, and tired. The worst moments in my life. But we had no children. What I did, as I was tired of all this confusing and stressing coming and going. I decided to send him very far. I was tired I felt he was playing with my deep inner being. I cried as never in my life. I even thought the worst for my life without him. He was my whole life. But for me, ending with him was the best. Even now I think of him with regret because we both, didn´t find the way to God together, but I`ve been living in peace. I have not found the same love and the same happiness as I had with him, never. But finally I got my peace. I seattled with my best friend. We got married 15 years ago, and we have three children and a lot of financial problems. But he respects me, and this is gold for me. My husband gave me the peace that I needed. It hasn´t been easy at all but he is mature. I can tell you that from my bad experience I met God. When I was in the darkness I cried God for peace, mercy and grace. Since 17 years I have a church ministry, I attend mass, I pray the rosary, and have my familiy helping me follow Jesuchrist. They attend mass with me, they help me with my ministry, and my elder daughter has her ministry too, my kids, my daughter and my husband pray the rosary with me, we read the Gospel together some nights. I got peace. May God lighten you, so you can find that valuable peace that we all want in our hearts. Blessings chicgale!... dainy

were your relationship on and off? for how many times these happened? by considering these questions, you can decide what is right for you. by the way...here's my number...(kidding)

Hi there, Glad that he finally emailed you! But try to weight things out. What you're planning to do is just right. You must talk to him because it's no joke crying over and over again for the hurt he keeps giving you. If he's really sorry and you think it's worth giving him a chance then accept him.

I think nobody can actually tell what's the right decision for you; you're the only one who knows full well how he is as a boyfriend, I'm sure you also know the good, the bad and the ugly parts of him. You know deep in your guy what's good for you but maybe some old feelings and insecurity might be resurfacing because of his action to talk to you once more. I may not know you really well to give a very good advice but I know one thing though: whatever and wherever your relationship goes to, you need a proper closure. Proper closure to end it all if it comes to that once more. Or clOsure to all the bad things that happened in your relationship should you decide to give it another try. And also, pray. Good luck!

Try to talk to him formally, what is really going on with him? Then, let him do the talking. Since he was the on being inconsistent with the relationship. After which, you decide.

I'm sorry to hear your story. 7 years is a LONG time to be with someone.. Especially for your daughter to get attached to as well.. But to be honest, I would probably say no.. I could see the first time, maybe the second time..but a third?? No.. For one, has he given you a reason as to why he keeps breaking up with you? To be doing that three times is a bit much; either you wanna be with someone, or you don't. But don't keep breaking their heart by leaving them at a drop of a dime and then just showing up whenever you feel the need to. I feel like he's gonna keep doing that because he knows how much you love him and you will take him back. This time around, you need to show him you not just some rag doll he can pick up and put back down when he feels it necessary to. That's not right. However, at the end of the day, it is YOUR decision as to what you do. If you wanna make it work, then you two need to sit down and have a LONG, SERIOUS conversation.. Because this is not only affecting you, but it's affecting your daughter too. See where his head is at. And if things seem like they will be okay, just take it slow. Don't jump back into the relationship.. I wish you the best and if you ever need to talk, I am always willing to listen. (I'm currently going to school for music therapy lol. I'm used to listening to people talk and giving them advice so it's no biggie) :) Good luck!

ther is psyhcological problem with your friend.i think he feels some joy in hurting his close persons.you should just leave him.such a person will not give you any thing except sorrrows and pains.you shuld end up with him because such persons have no permanent passion and they usually lose in life.

I just know that mistake happens maybe 1 time or 2 times. But not 3 times. Then we can't say it a mistake, we say it a habit. So simply say NO to him if you want to stay in peace.

I think nobody can actually tell what's the right decision for you; you're the only one who knows full well how he is as a boyfriend, I'm sure you also know the good, the bad and the ugly parts of him. You know deep in your guy what's good for you but maybe some old feelings and insecurity might be resurfacing because of his action to talk to you once more. I may not know you really well to give a very good advice but I know one thing though: whatever and wherever your relationship goes to, you need a proper closure. Proper closure to end it all if it comes to that once more. Or clOsure to all the bad things that happened in your relationship should you decide to give it another try. And also, pray. Good luck!