A friend in need...
By Toni
@toniganzon (72281)
Philippines
September 4, 2012 9:05am CST
My friend is coming to my city to go to a government office to process something. Her father died about three weeks ago and she only came home for the funeral. She works in another country. Every time she's here for a visit we would usually see each other even just for a day.
During her father's funeral I wasn't able to be with her because I was caught up with work. I felt so sad not being able to be there when she needed someone, but I was pretty sure she had lots of friends and relatives who stayed with her that day.
So when she sent me a message today, I didn't hesitate to let her know that I'm going to meet her. I'm going to have a lunch party that day, but meeting her is as much or even more important to me. I know she needs me.
Would you be with a friend even if you have other important things to do?
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12 responses
@koopharper (7601)
• Canada
5 Sep 12
Being with a good friend at times like that is important to me. It would rank pretty high on my priority list. It is sad that life moves quickly and often gets in the way. I had a friend from Japan coming to my home area of Niagara Falls to do some sightseeing back when I was living not too far from there. I got the letter announcing her visit the same day as she visited. I was stuck in Toronto with no way to contact her and make arrangements to meet. Had I known earlier I probably would have been able to take the day off and go see her.
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@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
5 Sep 12
Yes it's nice to be appreciated when you've done something for a friend, even though it's just your mere presence.
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@kassych (16)
• Kenya
4 Sep 12
Yes, for a friend I will drop everything. My equation goes something like family then friends then what I do, especially when I need to be there for them. Human relationships are far much important than the things we do and if you have a history with someone, its far much better to invesdt time on them.
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
5 Sep 12
Yes you are right. Human relations is really important. I know she would do the same for me. It really helps alleviate the pain when you have someone you can share it with.
Have a nice day. 
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@nelly5 (1424)
• United States
5 Sep 12
Of course, I would be with my friend. It isn't like she lives just down the street or just across town where you could visit her any given day. She is working in another country, therefore it is obvious that your time together is very limited. The other people you had already made plans with will just have to understand. Good luck and enjoy your time with your friend (:
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@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
5 Sep 12
I am actually going to attend my husband's grandfather's birthday party and squeeze my time to be with her.
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
6 Sep 12
The other day one of my dear friend also lost her father.
She works here in metro city and her father lives back to her hometown.
She give us a message that she's going home after she's done with her papers (emergency leave)
On that very same day I also have a weekly meeting, but I never give a second thought of meeting my friend.
She need us (friends) and it's not everyday that she will be needing us at time like this.
Friends matters most.
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
6 Sep 12
Yes indeed. They do matter most especially at a time like this.
@BethelSophia (538)
• Philippines
5 Sep 12
There are important things in life that we must do, but in this important things we have priorities to consider. According to what you've shared you have a lunch party that day and I think it's a work related thing, yet that lunch party even if how important it is could not be your priority that day for your friends favor is more important than that. If my friend just wanted to meet me and have some lunch or dinner then I already have an appointment, I will tell my friend to meet me next time but if she needs me badly I mean we can't postpone that day to me then I have to sacrifice my prior appointment for the sake of my friend.
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@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
6 Sep 12
The lunch party is not office related. It's a family event. My husband's grandfather's birthday. But I only get this chance to see my friend as well. So I am going to be at the lunch party and at the same time will go and meet her before or after that party.
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
6 Sep 12
I did, but she cancelled and would be meeting me on Monday instead.
@BethelSophia (538)
• Philippines
6 Sep 12
Aha, if that's the case then your decision is indeed good you have to make those appointments. I think you don't need to sacrifice your grandfather in law's birthday party for you can attend his birthday and meet your friend afterwards. You can also invite your friend if your grandfather in law will allow you to do that. :)
@lovellehanna (39)
• Philippines
6 Sep 12
Of course!!!I had been always like that to my friends.. before I got married!!!Everything's changed once you get married. oh gosh! I just so missed my best friends...I was just one call away... but when my husband and I got together, I had to focus my time on him and the family. But even so, I still find time to be with them...
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@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
7 Sep 12
Hello Han! It's nice that you really spend time to be with your friends and of course your husband.
Anyway, that friend cancelled. She will be meeting me on Monday instead.
Have a great weekend and hope to see you here more often. Good day.
@julyteen (13252)
• Davao, Philippines
5 Sep 12
All my friends can say something how I treat them all when they say that they want to visit me on my place. Can't say that I made the best because I am the host of every visit.
Based on the feedback I got from some of our friends, they wanted to visit me also because of the hospitality I showed to all of them.
That is normal traits for us Filipinos to cancelled some of our important events because of a friend.
Based on the feedback I got from some of our friends, they wanted to visit me also because of the hospitality I showed to all of them.
That is normal traits for us Filipinos to cancelled some of our important events because of a friend.
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
5 Sep 12
Being useful and needed is what makes us cling to our friends.
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
4 Sep 12
yes sure i would^^ friends are very important^^ friends are first in our lives. i think that she misses you a lot cause like you say she goes there only one time per year^^ so is a good way for you to spend time with her^^ im glad you left important things you had to do to second place. im sure she will be happy that you be there for her. for me friends are first than anything. friends and family^^ we can lose job and find another but if we lose a friend its very sad.
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@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
5 Sep 12
I will be with her soon too and be staying with her in that foreign country for a month. We would be roommates and i'm looking forward to that as well. I would be glad I could be with her especially now that she needs me.
Thanks for sharing. Happy mylotting!
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@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
5 Sep 12
Not every instance am I able to be with my friends. And yes, sometimes we are so busy that we regret not being able to be with them. But on certain instances that my presence is of importance, I really make my way to be there...to be a friend.
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
5 Sep 12
Well good for you jenny.
There are times when my family are more important to me than friends. But i know getting my way out to lend a shoulder to a friend will be very much appreciated.
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@keichan1412 (247)
• United States
4 Sep 12
of course I'll be to the rescue :) I'll help my friend no matter what!!! X)
@Pale_moon (98)
•
4 Sep 12
What a pity I don't have such a bosom friend,though,I have many friends but there is no one who we have knew each other for many years and I will my best to help him.
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@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
5 Sep 12
I met her about four years ago and we became close at work when I saw her crying one time and I covered up for her work, wen to console her after that. Then after a few months she went to another country.
I know how it feels to lose a parent. I lose both of mine at the same time and I think I could relate to her pain. That's why I couldn't let her be alone.
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