Trying to figure out why I am being congratulated for my daughters engagement

Guess they are just trying to be nice to u.I'm glad you like the men. It's bad when u don't like your in-laws, lol.

Congrats! I hope both will be very happy! You answered you own question. Both grew up to be well educated, employed, happy, and now married women. do you think they did that All on their own? You and Hubby were there to support them. And the fact that they Knew what they wanted and had the guts to look And find it is why you should be congratulated! So don't look at it as getting rid of them but as producing some great people!

well, its the idea that you've raised 2 successful girls and maybe will be a grandmother soon... and you got rid of them...

Well, I think the reason people congratulate the parents is because when their children get married that get a new son or daughter in law. I guess congratulations might be reserved until people know if you actually like your new son or daughter in law. . Also too because you just passed another one of life's milestones.

Don't you like it when people treat you nicely and congratulate you for things that you do. You have a daughter I am sure you are proud of. THese people are congratulating you because something nice has happened in your family. A big event. Your daughter is making a new life for herself. Aren't you excited for her?

I think that people generally congratulate the parents because they are happy for them. I don't think it would necessarily be because they feel the family of the bride is fortunate to have him. I feel it's usually because friends and family member are happy for those who are involved.

I think it is really funny. Maybe people want to be kind and express thair good wishes. Or is it an American custom? Or is it that people do not know proper etiquette? I think what counts here are the intensions that are good. So take it in stride and be gracious and smile.

haha i guess that is right. =) the men should be congratulated... but then maybe it also comes with how people are with everything... because you raised a good daughter and she is now on her own and its congratulatory meant for you is that you are now fulfilled much with how you have done a good job with the daughter? :D

Your job as a mother is done and your daughter's life as a wife begins. It is considered a celebratory time more so for the parents than the child. All the parents work for with their children, preparing them to be on their own, is epitomized by giving that child in marriage. Your husband is correct, you are getting rid of her so congratulations again.

Giving you a congratulatory remark is like telling you that your daughter is about to begin a new life and that as a mother, it is a pat on the back for having raised a wonderful daughter who is now ready to take new challenges as a more matured person. So let me congratulate you , too!

Maybe because you brought them up well enough for them to value marriage sufficiently enough to go into it?

I would expect not just the men, but also your daughters to be congratulated. I'm not sure why you would be congratulated. Maybe they mean good job raising daughters who men want to marry...? Maybe "congratulations" just sounded like the right thing to say. I probably would have said "That's wonderful" or maybe even "Tell your daughter I said congratulations".

Because it's nice to say congratulations to people for a happy thing. People will say congratulations to you when you have grad kids too.

Congratulations! Most of the greeting you receive may be based on the assumption that you have succeeded in raising and caring for your children properly. Some congratulated you as a form of saying "welcome" to the world of becoming "grandparents"

I offer congratulations for you'll be enlarging your family with new members (both young men). Whenever there is something good happening, I try to offer kind words to all parties involved. So I'd be congratulating those young men, as well as your daughters AND their parents since all parents raised wonderful adults!

hi stary1 I think its just that people get excited when someone marries so they just start congratulating anyone involved I imagine. they just get carried away a bit is all.But accept it as its a nice gesture not a put down

Many people congratulate the parents because they now have a new member coming into the family. Others may say it because you will soon be empty nesters. You might be congratulated because they know your child found a very special partner. Maybe because you have a great relationship with the intended. I am sure that both your daughters were congratulated many times as well as their partners for finding the love of their lives. Congratulations!

Hi stary1, I think they congratulated you because you raised them well and they very happy for your daughter to have a good mother like you. Also those young men who's love by your daughter are very lucky too because both of your daughters are well-educated, has a good job and can able to manage their own family too.

That is funny ;-) (I'm too new to use 'emoticons' - otherwise I'd be laughing)! Anyway, some people think they have to say congratulations, thank you, good luck, best wishes, or SOMETHING for everything. People are just trying to be nice. I'm not one of them. I'd be asking you your thoughts on these men your daughter picked or are you going to have to pay for a big wedding? I'd say congratulations - but now I know how stupid that sounds ;-)