Why do we share such story?

I never tell a family matter to others, even to friends. I think what happens in the family should be a family matter only. If I must tell others about the problems I had in the family, I would just tell it briefly.

There are really people who are like that. They seem to be tactless that they shared almost everything about their lives regardless of their relationship towards the person who receive the message. To share about family matters to some of your closest friend or best friend is okay but make sure that the person you're sharing with can be trusted. But, sometimes in life I think this distant relative of yours is not sharing about what's happening to his family but he wants to make some story. A gossip and sharing is totally different. Yet, our reason of sharing will be identified with our motives.

I think we should keep a healthy relationship with our relatives and siblings. There are people never be plased to keep in touch with many of them due to various matters. However, as we all are having our own problems and issues, and we need to evaluate whether it is to be shared with others other than family and if we feel that we should keep confidentiality on the matters, no need to share with third parties as such matters are quite exclusive.

Well, dear friend Toniganzon. What you have written, seem pearls of wisdom. I can only compare your case to mine. Unfortunately you need to know (and this I have mentioned in many threads), that our family relationships, in recent years, they are very "breaking". That is, there is no dialogue, in my house we no longer speak! this is really bad! I, with my problems, when I want to talk about it, I only have three people who are listening to me. One is my psychologist practitioner, while the other two are two of my dearest friends. Now look at you a little if I am forced to speak with strangers to the family, because inside it there is no longer a form of dialogue!

I don't talk about any of my problems with anyone. I think it is good to talk and I would talk to my partner, or sister. but anyone else I do not tell them my private business!

I always share my family problems to those friends who seems to be my siblings also. However there are times that i don't want to tell them rather than posting it here in mylot so that i can come up a good decision.I can't avoid to think that there are some biases that might going to happen.And others really lie their true opinion for the sake of comforting your feelings.It's advantage posting here because their are really frank mylotters that never hesitates to give their true and sensible comments.But at the end of the day, the decisions that's going to prevail is our own.

Like you, I am not comfortable talking about siblings rift also even with close friends. There is this cousin of mine who I always turn to when I need someone to talk to about family problems but not to close friends. I don;t know why buy I ma just nor comfortable with it.

I am ashamed to tell any story about my siblings to people who are not close to me. You know why? There's a possibility that the things you told them will be added if somebody will spread the words to others. I will make sure that the person I am telling my secrets I can trust him/her and will never do things that will make a simple problem into worst.

The distant relative was probably seeking sympathy, but your brother was wise in refraining from asking for details.

I would rather talk to people on the internet without a face rather wit some friends about certain problems . I normally never discuss my problem online thats not my style .

Distant relatives are still our relatives. Though we haven't seen each other for so many years, I guess we are still comfortable in sharing our problems to them because they are our relatives and we are sure that they won't share our problems to others. Maybe, that relative of yours doesn't have anybody to listen to him and that's why he told your brother about it. He trusted your brother that much. I just hope he'll overcome their problems soon. It's good to have a peaceful life. Happy mylotting.

What we say about our family will reflect who we are. If there are any trouble within your family and you let others know about it (even with you closest friend), it will have a great impact on how others will look about you... So you should be careful of these things. If there you have any troubles to anyone on your family, I think it is better to tell him.her about your troubles or concerns rather than rant about it to others. Doing this will help you develop your relationship with your family.

I don't share with anybody some of the problems within the family. I also believe that any trouble in the family should be solved within. So far I haven't meet such problem. I really hope I won't.

I only discuss issues with my brothers to my husband and parents. I think some people are more willing to talk about their problems with others because they want that person to side with them. It is a way of for that person to get someone to say they are right to feel the way they do. Or maybe they just like drama like one of my friends do.

I should admit that I often do that. I told to my friends about my family problems especially about my relation with my siblings in law. Just for your information that I live with my parents in law. In common times I almost have no problems with my parents in law but sometimes problems occur when my sisters in law visit my house, by mean that it is their parents house. They visit them on holiday. And sometimes problems occurs among us. If I seem to have problems with them I like to share with friends to relieve my stress. And it usually works. Sometimes I only tell my problem but sometimes I ask them to give me advice. I know that it is not good attitide cos the problems are like something secret. So we should keep them not telling them to others cos friends sometimes are unfaithful. But if we really want to share the problems with others we should choose our best friend to talk to.

insecurities darling. Insecurities. That's why. And I know a lot of families broken up by that.

hi, there are some people who are talkative that is why even the information is very confidential they still open it to his/her family,but in our family even we heard something news about some relatives we never speak to other people because its not our habit and aside from that that problem is problem of there family.we don't care.

Well, it's natural for people to have the feeling of sharing things, thoughts and some life experiences. Some may not be comfortable to talk about something which is considered personal to others that they barely know. While some just need someone to be there and listen to what they have to say. Yet, we have to make sure if the person is willing to listen to our stories. better yet, will the person keep our stories secret from others. So think carefully before acting.

i had been through that with my sister. i confided it with my other sister and of my boyfriend. why share it? i was seeking some advices to someone who could understand me and comfort me. for me, confiding it does not mean i let others interlude with the problem if have to be said with other who are not related with us by blood or kin. i probably do it to lessen the burden i felt inside. somehow confiding it would be likely soliciting advices on what to do to make the relationship back to normal again ;)

Your brother probably feels that he will get even by letting others know about the rift. It's his channel in letting out how he feels. But it won't ever resolve anything as he even made matters worse. Talking troubles among yourselves is better than having other people know about it.