My friend was rejected by her date after their first phone conversation

Honesty is best so that is good they at least were. I dated enough meeting people online and wished many times people would just be honest and not waste one anothers time.

Well, he must be a decent guy. Most guys would have seen a drunk girl as a golden opportunity. I wouldn't want a guy who smoked at all or drank excessively. My boyfriend is pretty much a teetotaler (and teasingly refers to me as a "lush," since I do sometimes enjoy one or two drinks). I knew that going in, just as he knew that I like the occasional drink. If your friend wants to go out and party, she shouldn't be looking to guys who are wanting to have a serious, long-term relationship. The party girl lifestyle doesn't mesh well with being in a serious relationship.

Wow that guy must be grown in a religion family. I believe he must be very religious or maybe have intention for a long relationship that's why he is really choosy be friend to a girl. He must have reason that he think better for him. In my opinion, there's nothing wrong to make friend with people or girl in case eventhough she has bad habit like drinking or something else (but not the one who like to suck blood). Just be a friend and not more than that or maybe can be extended like in the Friend with benefits movie :). But for marriage reason, still depends, if you also drink, then why not. But if you don't drink, then think yourself can you handle her when she drunk? For myself, I think I have no problem to make friend though she drinks. But for marriage, I don't think so cause I can't carry heavy stuff. :)

First impressions are really important. Maybe the guy just was turned off with women drinking that much. I mean, it is okay to drink but if your friend was obviously drunk when the guy called, it really made the guy back off from pursuing her.

I was never in a similar situation and to be honest the possibility that things like this may happen is why I prefer to have relations only with people who I meet in flesh and bones. I never try to meet people on line. On face book I have on my list only people who I know from real life, and never chat with strangers. Whenever I want to meet someone I prefer to go out. People who believe that on line is safer should go to a pub or park. They will be surprised how many available, lonely people are out there. The on line world is tricky. A friend of mine had a 6 months relation on the INTERNET, and finally the girl proved to be a boy. I like what I see.

I have been in that situation years ago. I had a date back then who was visiting me from the U.S. She is 5 older than me and it was our first time to meet in person. We were introduce through the web. I can say that we complement and interacted well for the first few days. But one piece of information has changed our relationship forever, I told her that - "I'm still studying and need work right now" I believe that's the exact words. And with unknown reason, she immediately tells me to leave and ask me to stop seeing her because her parents prefers someone who has a job and not a student. That event made me push myself to finish my studies, graduate and have a good job. Right now, if I look back on that event, I usually smile and glad that this happen that it really an eye-opener. Thanks

I bet that it hurt to be rejected like that, at the same time I respect this man for being honest and not taking it any further when he knew that he couldn't accept such behavior. I've never been rejected for an action, as I only get into a relationship with someone after knowing their lifestyle and personality that way I can try to avoid unnecessary surprises later on.

Everyones has a choice.If someone is not comfortable with something in your partner than one should be frank enough to speak ones thoughts out.There is no need to enter a relationship if u r not happy or comfortable about something.Many a times we hope that with time things will xchange but that rarely happens.So prevention is better than cure so sooner you set terms out in a relationship the better.Live and let live pal.And always remember there are many fishes in the ocean.Your friend will find someone soon.

I felt sorry for your friend ... she is honest. I personally think that her online friend should give her the chance to meet up. Things could be totally different. What to do, some people is like that. It is good taht she knows him now rather than his true color appears later when hopes are higher.

She should not be sad. It is good that things were over before they even started. It could have been more painful if he rejected her after couple of dates. But yes, he should have written in his profile at the dating site that he did not want his woman to drink. Yes, I did lose interest in a man long time ago. But there was legitimate reason behind this and I am sure after hearing him any other woman would have done what I did. He was always talking about other women. Now can any girl stand that? No, right? I swear this is very disappointing. A man who is always thinking of multiple girls should be a big no for his dates.

I've never experienced that and good thing about it. But then I could say it honestly that is one of disadvantage when people are just looking for date for the sake of having a partner, it is because some people are desperate to have boyfriend or girlfriend. Most likely if you are just searching someone for date it is like you are planning to buy an object that you have to check the specs if that is perfect for you. But then if you were just falling in love like it came on the time and it is because you have known that person, you will easily accept the person's imperfection inside and out. Take note you would even encounter the flaws that you can't even accept. In my case I don't like when a person smokes so just like my boyfriend he smokes but because of the love I still accept him for who he is. All I can do is to help him prevent in smoking on how to lesser that little by little. In your friend's case maybe that man has bad experience to the girls who are being drunk. He may have the reason why that man doesn't want to date a girl who is drunk. Because there are some girls who are doing something crazy when they are drunk. Good thing I've inherited my behavior from my father when he is drunk. We are both behave and acting like Angel when we are drunk. Sometimes I can ask money if my father is drunk.

maybe the guy was looking for a girl that can be his life partner and are looking for good qualities so as early as now the guy would want to know if the girl is right for him. If i have been rejected like that then it would be okay with me because I have not invested much time for him and so I can find other men and I would move on because he cannot accept me as I am.

It is obvious. As the people take up only those people as their dates those who are similar to themselves or having same sort of ideas and attitude towards something. If I were be there at the man's place I would have done same and hanged up the phone. It is only we start liking somebody when we find them similar or a sense of reciprocity is there between. I was once rejected just because I have a very negative image with some people or you may call it a prefixed plan that happened to me. People set this up and I never noticed it then. They make a really nice plan as I used to di favor my friends by solving all the puzzles they have. The hyper geniusly programmed trap was extraordinarily dominated me and my image.

i think your friend shouldn't get sad for what happened, because people who cannot accept us on our worst doesn't deserve us at our Best.

I think that guy was not there for fun and when he said he didn't like girls who drink, he meant it. He should have posted that on his page or talked about that while they were talking through emails, but yeah, I guess he was pretty stiff for her anyway. Come to think of it, I am the one who reject people online or people offline. I don't come on to guys in any way and I just wait until a guy notices me before I notice them. I have rejected guys because I didn't feel that there would be something. I know I sound harsh but it's usually logical - why waste their time if I don't think there's "something" between us in the first place? (and I'm usually right). At one time, there was this guy who I thought was just really whiny. He whines a lot about everything and I didn't like guys like that. So when he asked me if we could have coffee or something, I told him I'm not a coffee-person (which I really am not) and then told him straight flat that I don't think that there's something between us apart from friendship. Then there was this other guy who kept on calling me every night. Well, there wasn't really anything special about the conversation, except that he would boast that he was calling me and spending alot for the calls (we were different networks) and when asked how I felt bout him calling, I told him "a lot of people call me, there's no fuss about it". Then he kept quiet. Then when he opened up the topic about dating, I told him I don't like people who have checklists and needed to tell the date about the things he did for her. That was the end of the conversation. Hehe.. I think your friend is lucky that she didn't need to go through a lot for this guy. He is stiff and he obviously has strong principles in his life that she might just end up working too hard to please him. So, let's do some sour-graping and forget about that guy. Have a great mylot experience ahead!

Porco, it is pity to hear that your friend had loss her date while chatting on the phone. Since when your friend know how to drink? Seems like, her date don't like girls that know to drink as well. In our Asian culture here, most parents don't like their children to learn drinking or smoking, same goes for my parents. Even my parents, also don't like my date be a drinker or a smoker. I am lucky that my date, boyfriend and now my hubby is not a smoker and drinker as well. Because they believe that those who like to drink or smoke like to waste their money. Hope your friend will be able to change for a good future. Good luck to her...

that didnt happen to me i guess. but i feel sorry for your friend. i mean she drank that day. the guy was very stupid judging her without knowing her yet. i dont drink bcs i dont go out at night with my friends. but almost everyone goes out with their friends at night and drink sometimes. its a normal thing. it doesnt mean that the person is a drunk or something. your friend shouldnt be sad cause that was the guy's loss. he judged her without even giving her a chance to meet her properly. she lost nothing and for sure she can still find a guy that will accept her as she is.

Your friend should not believed on online friends because most of the online member is fake. Not provides their own identity. How can people trust on unknown person without seeing to each other. Say thanks to God not accept the request otherwise your friend will face big problem because now your friend is safe.

Yes. the best thing has happened. it is good of that man to say no at the beginning itself.

She messed it up real bad :/