Why you still have no boyfriend or girlfriend?
By flower21
@flower21 (765)
Philippines
September 11, 2012 10:04pm CST
Did you happen, somebody ask you this and you could not reply immediately. The way it is ask includes a little bit of teasing and in worst situation mix with insulting remarks. Some could reply to it with ease and some would not even bother to reply. This become a common scenario when attending parties and some older relatives came y to ask the age and then follow with question like this, f ever have a boyfriend or need to hurry up to have a boyfriend or girlfriend. This become annoying topics but need to reply with lot of defenses. What you usually reason out?
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11 responses
@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
12 Sep 12
Oh,I'm glad nobody asked me this question before. I just asked this to myself almost eleven years ago.LOL.I had my first and last serious relatinship 10 years ago.Before that,I wondered why I didn't have any boyfriend.I just guessed boys were scared of my dad because he was known as a terror teacher.That's why nobody dared to court me.LOL.Then,my husband transferred to our neighborhood from another city.He didn't listen to his relatives' thoughts about my dad or my family.I'm so lucky he came into my life.
@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
12 Sep 12
I guess, we should not hurry in finding or having a boyfriend or a girlfriend. Time will come that we'll have one. For the mean time, you have to enjoy your single life to the fullest. It's going to be different if you are already committed. Your freedom will not be that 100% anymore. LOL. There are things that we can't do anymore. There are restrictions, etc. Enjoy being single at the moment. It's great to be single. Less worries, less problems. Pamper yourself. Thanks for sharing and happy mylotting. :)
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@flower21 (765)
• Philippines
13 Sep 12
yes, that true, being single have lot of advantages while to think if having a boyfriend requires commitment. a couple have less freedom where you need to think if there partner as a property. time spend with other things become limited because there are someone who keep asking your whereabouts. and of course there would be less time to spend with friend as some boyfriend and girlfriend require their partner to spend almost 80% of their time as there companion. the benefit of single are great as i could go out whatever time like and whatever place i like to see and there is no need to take other permission.
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
12 Sep 12
Well, no one asks me that question yet, and if someone asks me that type of question, i may answer it is not your business...i don't like to share my private things when i have no mood to share about it or with strange people...and for sure i don't like any personal questions, i have a bf or not, i know, i don't need the others caring about it..
@flower21 (765)
• Philippines
13 Sep 12
well, that good your just being honest. when in fact you would have the right to your privacy so it is none of their business. t is your life that at risk so such a captain of a ship you the only one who have control and not them to control your mind. this type of people are jerks and have nothing to talk that is why asking the same question to me sometimes is very irritating and annoying.
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
12 Sep 12
Nice response I like it and same answer like me. No one can ask such personal question.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
12 Sep 12
haha it isn't a topic i am concerned about, i do not have a boyfriend yet but i know in time i will have one but there is no need to rush because i already no it will be happening and it will make me happy and i will have a partner for myself. when finding someone to love, we should be careful so we could also protect our hearts too often.
@fantasticbabe (981)
• Philippines
12 Sep 12
i already have along distance relationship so physically have no boyfriend at the moment to show to the world. but we have constant communication in the internet. u see lovers pass me daily i places where you suppose are not to be alone. could not help but get envy since they have someone in there side. when somebody who known me for a long time ask me that question. i tell them the truth, could not just jump an a first available male to snug with just to proclaim to the world have a boyfriend. is till value my privacy and i love the way it is.
@enjoythejourney (524)
• United States
13 Sep 12
I think I would say something I am still looking for Mr. or Ms. Right and so far no quality candidates have passed the test. I would say something like I have many friends and I hate to just pick one when I know it will lead nowhere because that person is not the right one for me. There is nothing more sexy than a confident man or woman!
@Lingling89 (88)
• Philippines
13 Sep 12
One would depend how to handle answering this question. I think it also depends on the tone of how this question is delivered to a person. It could be in a kind and curious way or it could be somewhat like threatening and insulting one. There may be alot of reasons why one don't still have a boyfriend or a girlfriend. Maybe due to family strictness, priorities, studies, choosy, or even those who are not ready and haven't found the right guy or girl to love. We cannot judge one person because of that. Having a relationship isn't really a necessity to live, it is just like a dessert to keep you going for another meal. It is an inspiration. Anyways, I haven't encountered to be questioned with that though. I have a boyfriend now just recently. Before, no one bother asked me that cause most people around me know me why I haven't dived into relationships yet. If I was asked, maybe I could say that God has something good for me coming yet. Stay happy and inlove! :)
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
12 Sep 12
Ours is not about having a boyfriend/girlfriend, but more of "when to get married". I have been asked this over a hundred times on different occasions, what's worst is the fact that they'd assume that I am the one who didn't want to settle down and get married.
Often times, I actually feel depressed after a series of remarks like those. But somehow, I shouldn't be depressed because I have a wonderful guy who loves me and who's doing everything he can to be stable (at least a little bit stable - he just started his new job) so that when we're finally settled, we wouldn't have too much problems on the financial side. I do understand him, but it's really different on the point-of-view of those who are not in this relationship.
I usually just say "ask him, not me" or "are you sure we're not hitched?" hahaha.. that certainly makes them think even more.
Have a great mylot experience ahead!
@almond24 (1248)
• Hungary
12 Sep 12
It is a very annoying question, whether about why not having a boyfriend/girlfriend, or about getting married... I used to say that I'm happy being a single right now. It's really not anybody else's business, especially not people's who are not even close friends.
@Shavkat (139937)
• Philippines
12 Sep 12
I just haven't find the right person yet. It will come unexpectedly.
@chuchaibugoy (79)
•
12 Sep 12
I offend encountered this question why my kids still have no boyfriend or girlfriend every time we have gatherings with my friends, and relatives. Modesty aside my kids are good looking, professional but with their age they still don't care if they have no boyfriend or girlfriend. According to them they are happy having us and besides they didn't find their lifetime partner yet. who is God given to them. They are looking anyone who is responsible and worthy to be love. These were also my answer to anyone who asked me regarding this matter and besides I respect all their decisions and plans in life.
@prakashsahni (185)
• India
12 Sep 12
Yes it happened to many times. But I do not cook up any story or anything instead I tell them that it was military that send two w*ores at different point of my life. I tell them straight that I have been punked and dodged twice by military.The set up everything and controlled thousands of people to be involved in this f**king game. They have everything like resources and all. But I am not a simple or common man I will try hard to defeat them next time but the issue would not be any girl but something serious. whatever! I told them they need to keep away from me or else they would be guillotined.
