What will you do when the person you trusted a lot is the one who put you down?

Do you know the reason why she is doing it? May be she is doing it because she has to. Always think of the best and try to find new friends.

Hi Ynrhea! Although the discussion was not very clear as to the situation and person involved, allow me to give my opinion on this. The truth, it is really hard to give our trust to anybody especially now that there are people who would only take advantage of others. But it seems that the person you are talking about is an opposite gender and you are in a relationship. Correct me if I’m wrong. Well, in this case, it is better that you know her this early. There are better person around who are more deserving of your love. Cheer up! It’s not the end of the world. Have a nice day!

I once was also put down by someone I trusted a lot. I cried so much when that happened, talking about it didn't help either at least that's what happened on my part but as time went by the hurt I felt slowly lessened and what I felt before just feel vague now. Time really can help me in forgetting what happened.

6 years ago i was betrayed by a friend whom i trusted much. She snatched away my boyfriend, she destroyed me to all the people by sending them text messages using my phone. yES i trusted her a lot that I let her used my phone, unknowingly she was executing her plans to destroy me. What hurted me most was not the snatching of boyfriend thing but the fact that she was not really a friend. She never see me as a friend but an enemy. I doesn't know that there was a competition going on between us. A competition wherein she wants to be the winner, to think that she was the only one who's fighting. Until now she is bugging me. I didn't sue her before and I am not suing her now because I find her pathetic and pitiful. She needs a professional help.I am no saint. I am mad at her. i am saying that I can forgive but I can never forget. I hope that she will just realize what she had just let go. For you Ynrhea go move on. Find people who is more deserving of you and your precious time.

That's hard, but me, in myself I forget him/her and then forgive and lastly time to move on.

That's really hard. Maybe I need some space to freshen up, but I believe our relation will still be the same after all if he or she is really sorry about what happened.

It is hard, yes that is true but then we can never really do something about other people's actions and behavior. The things is we will always be put to the same spot, when we trust someone, we would always have that little bit of doubt that they could hurt us, betray us.. but let us put about a few more of percentage with faith in them.

It's really hard to be in that situation. It's difficult to move on at this time. Just try to keep yourself busy: hang out with your other friends or meet new friends, focus on your work, go to the gym or anything that would not keep you idle. The more you think about her the more you get hurt. In due time, you would get over the pain and forgive that person.

Actually that's one of the most painful truth in our lives when someone we trusted much is the one whose trying to put us down secretly. I am not in any position to tell you the right thing, but I guess you have to accept the fact that in this life, it's hard to trust people- sometimes,even our own family can betray us. Try to move on and forget the person. FORGIVING is not easy, but through time, it will come naturally.

I really can't imagine how i'm gonna react through such situation. For i will not blame that person, it is because i'm not trusting the right people so to lead this. Only we can do is to have better attitude life and it's still a long journey.

Isn't that in most situations the case? You give trust and people stab you in the back! What you have to do is learn from it. Ask yourself if this relationship was mainly from your side, if a person would treat you the same as you are treating that person, if that person would do the same for you if it comes to, as you do/did for that person. I am afraid in most cases it's a big NO. Relationships are seldom equal if it comes to that but we are too blind to say/recognize, so happy we have a friend/relationship. So learn your lesson (if this happens it means you have to learn a lesson), go on with your life and take care of yourself first. And ask yourself if the broke trust/disappointment is worth your attention/energy/fighting about. There are plenty of times we think we gave trust but we did not, or we pushed away someone with our own behaviour (already showing we do not trust that person at all. There is a big difference between saying we trust someone and honestly behaving like that).

Hi Ynrhea! Welcome to mylot! I see that in one of your comments you stated that this friend does not want you to be friends with another of your good friends. I was in a similar situation when I was your age - except the 2 friends hated each other but neither objected to my being friends with the other. In your case I would say the friend who wants you to stop being with the other one is not your friend. She is a trouble maker. If she was a real friend she would not try to separate you from your other friend. People who really care for you don't do these kinds of things. Forget about her. Move on. It's time. You do not need someone like her in your life. She is not someone who knows how to be a friend. It's painful at first but you'll get over it. You have to. And you have other, truer friends to spend your time with. Occupy yourself with other things. Keep busy. You have to face the cold reality of truth - you may respect her, you may love her - but she is NOT YOUR FRIEND. You can and will move on. Do you see the support you're getting here in mylot? This will help you to do it. As time goes on it will be easier. You'll see. We have all been there at one time or another. And we are all fine and happy. Learn from this experience. Take a deep breath and start to live your life minus this person. Smile. You're young. This is a time to be happy and not be around anyone who makes you unhappy. You can do it! Good Luck!

I think for me it's betrayal. For me losing my trust for a person is like a sticker once it was detached from the wall it will not eventually stick like the first time you stick the sticker. You can put adhesive to it but as time passes it still fall off the wall. In short when someone or somebody who does betrayal to me I assure that person that even if "time heals wounds" but the scar that he/she have caused me will still be there. May or may not it still plays back into the back of my mind. There was once in my life that there's this one person that really lose my trust because of all the people why he does that to me. I don't understand at first but as time passes by and through our Almighty God it came into my mind that there's a reason why that thing happened. I think it's for our own good to be on our own now.

Moving on takes time, especially that you love the person. Loving someone who puts you down is a difficult thing. Maybe it's time to forget about that person and try to create value for yourself. Forgive that person, accept the fact that she's not worth to keep and then finally you'll move on. Easier said than done, but that's reality- it bites.