On Dating, getting to know the guys...
By chiyochan
@chiyosan (30184)
Philippines
September 14, 2012 1:20pm CST
Okay so i am a bit thinking about this a whole lot of times lately, when i am not busy with work and stuffs, haha. I recently have had 3 people tell me and asking me out for a date, or a time to get to know each other, not to mention that my ex is still trying to win me back as well. Though i have already told my ex i am no longer interested and is really not into the idea of getting back with him as i no longer have trust in him.
I spend about a lot of time with one of them, him being an officemate. but i also talk to the other too usually via sms and calls. I have gone out with them too but it was basically just a simple dinner, hi and goodbyes.
I don't know if this is really something that i should be thinking about, or that i should just stop thinking and minding what will happen. Somehow though i feel i am being unfair to all three of them just because i have the option to choose whomever i would like. Is there really something i should be worrying about ? I do not want anyone to get hurt(if they are expecting), and i am just trying to keep my options open for the mean time and not date someone exclusively. Honestly, I love the attention I am getting from all of them, and its been a while since someone has tried to woo me (was in a relationship for 3 years!) Sounds a bit selfish perhaps but then... i do not want to rush into anything with anyone of them right away... afraid i am not going to choose the right one if i do...
Is this decision fair? I do not intend to play with anyone's heart in this scenario... i am just confused and careful myself.
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3 responses
@doccerz (46)
• Philippines
15 Sep 12
I think it's ok. It balances your psyche and you won't end up getting compulsive. And you also get to see their flaws than when you're just letting one person through. It's not unfair if you still draw a line for all of them.
And I think it's the same for me. I used to date different girls a lot. It doesn't mean I'm into them. I was just trying to get to know them well. And if you keep things friendly, and you sort of "guard" their hearts by not leading them on, then they'll act casually and take things as it is -- just friends hanging out.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
17 Sep 12
hi docz. thank you for your response. he he well i try to be fair as much as possible sometimes though as you know me, i am quite too friendly for the guys?! perhaps that could be sending out a mixed message, but then i am sure open about what i feel and let them know im not planning on anything to be final, not to any of them.. except one, as i already told him i could no longer accept him wanting us to be more than friends because he makes me feel uncomfortable, and i do not see myself being his gf and that i do not see him more than friends.
@riyauro (6421)
• India
14 Sep 12
I think it is okay that you are keeping your options open but be careful not to reveal it to any of them. they will not like it at all. There is no rush to get into any relationship. take your time and you will find the one which has the spark. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead. 
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@surekharathi (14146)
• India
17 Sep 12
I think we cant know properly anybody in whole life so how can judge only on the basis of date. Even after marriage both husband and wife not understand to each other whole life. Now live happy life is really difficult.
