Not meant to be together!

We have matured in our relationship. Finally.

That is so true D. To make the marriage work though you must admit there's more than just love to consider. We can't live harmoniously on love alone. When we got married, during the first few years we must adjust and get to know our spouse. That's the most difficult part. We must be lucky to have survived that, or we just know how to compromise.

Compromise, that the right word Toni. Besides, through the years we have already known what are the things to avoid in order not to have a misunderstanding with our hubbies.

Haven't had any kind of relationship that lasted long but knowing how hard and expensive having relationships can be, maybe i don't want to get married too

My friend had his heart broken 8 years ago. He's 41 now and still single. He told me he's pretty sure he'll never get married. It's so sad that he's still in love with his ex and couldn't seem to get over her when he knew exactly he could never have her back.

Like you, I have faced a lot of bad things in life. Even worse. That's how i came to accept the realities in life.

Of course we should treasure good memories. After all that's all we have left with that person who wasn't meant for us. But there are cases when people fall for each other but can't be together because they are both committed to others. That one is a really difficult thing to handle.

Experiences that we had when we were young are what makes us see the truth and reality of life.

Sometimes we need to face reality so we could go on with life.

Lovers are blind! Most young couple believe they could survive life with just love alone. Thus, when reality strikes, they find it hard to survive and they crumble.

toniganzon I was married for 33 year and yes we loved each other but also we trusted each other and res pected each other wihout th o se two things love alone will not wo rk. bu t you sound so cold with this reality thing. I feel modern people enter into marriage with t he idea that the first little irritation is it ahd they divorce just like its as normal as eating a piece of pie,if you do not have respect and tru st first with marriage then having kids w ell just help to break it apart.. I would never have married a man whom I did not trust and respect they c ome first.

I know love comes with a responsibility like all good things in life . What we should remember that love is kind , forgiving, caring also comes with respect and trust . If those are not there its not love and it will break apart . If you really love the person they will grow on you and you will see things also through their eyes . Love dont take away your normal trait it reinforce them by 2 . Eg, a mother Lion get more aggressive to protect her children because she love them , it give us more determination and drive to be a better provider and all that because that also her responsibility but its worth it . Hately I agree with you about a lot of people now enter into marriage to have that big day but if they get irritated they are out the door immediately. Toniganzon good post by the way , its a nice debatable discussion

With love comes responsibility. When you get married and have kids, you will realize it's more than just that to survive. You need more than just love. You may lose respect due to some problems and you will later on realise that you are losing love. That's reality.

But isn't it worth it to get through those thorn with the one you love at your side? I would rather not marry if I dont love the person.

That's the reality of life. Learned that a long time ago. Love alone isn't always a bed of roses. Roses come with thorns. We just have to learn how to get through those thorns.

As we grow older, lives get more complicated. That's how we become a realist from being an idealist.

That is very true! And that really hurts the most!

It's also possible that you're already married then met someone you fell in love with but you can never be together because you have already committed yourself to another. Sad, but that's the truth.

I totally agree with you: Not all relationships are meant to last, most of them will just be your teacher- for you to learn things... i am waiting my right man coming...

Patience is a virtue. But some people are meant to grow old alone.

I have married the first man that i loved. We're still together though, but I realized that we were able to survive this marriage because we made compromises in life.

Like you said there are other factors to consider. If both are married already with other people but they fell in love for each other, they just can't end their marriage and give it up easily.

It's sad that the modern world has somehow affected young people to believe that marriage is just a piece of paper they could sign and just tear up when the relationship won't work.

True. My past experiences in life when I was young has moulded me into a person who takes life's real situation.

It really is sad, especially if the person you fell in love with could never be yours because he already belongs to someone else.

When we were young we are always full of hope and inspiration. But as we age, life gets more complicated and we see life as it is and not just a dream.

If you're meant to be with some, you will always end up with that person even if you don't try hard. And there are situation that you don't even have to do anything at all, because doing so would only destroy your life. Take the situation of two people who fell in love with each other but are already committed with others, bonded by marriage? In that case, you need to let go of that.