What is the right thing to do?

Kenya
September 15, 2012 3:28am CST
Yesterday when I was in the bus going home, I was seated at the back with four other people. The conductor came to collect the fare and when he got to the lady seated next to me, he got distracted by another passenger asking for his change.When he resumed taking the fare, he bypassed the lady and collected my fare and went back to his seat. Some people alighted from the bus at the next stage and others came in. The lady put back the money in her purse and did not pay the fare. As I sat there, I debated with myself if it was my place to tell the lady to be honest and just pay the fare or should I have told the conductor that she had not paid? What would you have done?
10 responses
@Iriene88 (5343)
• Malaysia
15 Sep 12
In this unpredicted world, I would just be a 'bystander' and mind my own business. If the girl is not honest, if I approach her she might just answer me back rudely. I do not think I want to invite any trouble. Let her deal with her own conscience. Perhaps I am just being in the 'reality' of this world.
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@ARIES1973 (11426)
• Legaspi, Philippines
15 Sep 12
Besides being honest is a personal choice and we cannot compel anybody to be honest if they don't want to. Yes, she have her own conscience to dealt with.
• Kenya
17 Sep 12
Thanks Iriene, so many people have talked about minding own business which i did.
@richnai2 (104)
• Thailand
15 Sep 12
I think that as others have said just let it be. We never know how a small blessing like the lady received may have helped her. Perhaps she has a lot of money and perhaps she has none. If it really bothered you you could have softly asked the lady if she had money for her fare and if she did not you could have paid it for her. Someday it could come around and help you as well.
• Kenya
17 Sep 12
okay richnai I don't know about the blessing but she had got out her money and put it back when the conductor did not notice, if she did not have the money then that could have been something different.
@richnai2 (104)
• Thailand
17 Sep 12
I understand what you are saying...and is she was honest she should have given to her.
@richnai2 (104)
• Thailand
17 Sep 12
EDIT: to the conductor! btw, how much was the fare?
@challs12 (548)
• Malaysia
15 Sep 12
I also agree with Jessi and Irene, mind your own business. Nothing harm you. The lady has no mistake, the conductor careless. Hence, I will say to the lady, with laugh how lucky she is. That might create good feeling in the bus where you sit. Maybe conversation can start from that and you won't thinking of anything like you were thinking now. Maybe if the conductor comes again she will pay the fees.
@challs12 (548)
• Malaysia
17 Sep 12
In that case, she's the kind of person that taking advantage of others weaknesses. She's just respectable person and we cannot follow her attitude though it was not her fault.
@challs12 (548)
• Malaysia
17 Sep 12
Sorry my mistake. It was dishonored person not respectable person.
• Kenya
17 Sep 12
Yes Challs12 the minding my own business is what I did and no she did not pay the fare even after the conductor came back, she literally put it back in her pulse.
@ARIES1973 (11426)
• Legaspi, Philippines
15 Sep 12
Hi favouredmost! If I would be on your situation, I will just leave the situation as it is. I am in no position to tell the lady what to do because the fact that she knows that the conductor did not collected the fare from her, she should have called his attention immediately. But since she returned the money to her pocket already, it means she did it intentionally.
• Kenya
17 Sep 12
hi Aries Very true, that's the point she knowingly failed to pay.
• Canada
16 Sep 12
I think a lot of people would just have left it alone...It was not her fault that the conductor by passed her..But she was being dishonest for not paying the fare..She probably thought it wasn't that big of a deal and maybe thought that no one saw her and put the money back in her purse.. It may have been a test for you also as it is for her..We make choices in life all the time what we do is up to us...Just be sure we're making the right ones.. Vanessa..
• Kenya
17 Sep 12
Crimsonoses, very true making the right choice takes a lot of effort and its up to us at the end of the day.
• Indonesia
15 Sep 12
I would mind my own business and won't tell that lady. That lady was dishonest and the conducter was careless...If I were you, I wouldn't bother to tell them, mostly because I just don't want to create any trouble or making me look like a busybody
• Greece
15 Sep 12
I have witnessed the same thing. I've also seen an inspector get on the bus and catch a couple who had not bought tickets. This ticket evasion goes on a lot here and there is no point in speaking to a fare dodger. Those responsible for public transport need to organise a better way of catching fare dodgers. With so much unemployment I would have thought that a conductor would be the answer.
• Greece
15 Sep 12
PS there are no conductors on the short trip buses here so people just hop on and off as they please. It is most unlikely that an inspector will get on the bus and catch them so they think it is worth taking a chance.
@bird123 (10643)
• United States
16 Sep 12
I would have gotten up and told the lady: I know you must be short of money. Don't worry. I'll pay your fare. I would go pay the conductor her fare. After doing that, what do you suppose the lady would do??
@Akaimiko (15)
• United States
15 Sep 12
It seems pretty unanimous that the answer is to ignore it. If you weren't directly affected by it, leave it alone. Everybody could use a little stroke of luck these days, even if it's just getting out of paying the bus fare for the day. Be happy for the lady that she got a free pass, who knows if that made her day.
• India
15 Sep 12
You didn't asked her to pay and that was a right decision made by you because some people who actually do not want to pay or be honest do not want take any lecture or dialog on honesty and think all are just the same. Let it be the time teaching some lessons to them. But taking it with open minded or free approach there can be some other possibilities: Like the lady did not have any money with her and was no in no way capable of paying for the tickets and she has to travel many kilometers. In that case she made the mistake for good sake of her. I can not cover many kilometers on foot. And there are other possibilities also like she also forgot the thing like the conductor.
• Kenya
17 Sep 12
Prakashsahni, I get your point and that is why I did not ask her about it since i did not know her motive, and no she did not forget like the conductor as she put back the money in her pulse.
@ronyang (52)
• Philippines
15 Sep 12
If you ask me then I will not tell to the conductor. I will not mind if I see things like that. It is the conductors job to remember where he stopped issuing tickets. And it is not my job to tell the conductor that he skipped someone. The lady is lucky, good for her. It's up to her if she is dishonest. Or maybe she is thinking that the conductor really intended not to collect her fare.