married life...
By jelynbaxa
@jelynbaxa (52)
Philippines
September 15, 2012 11:29am CST
married life seems to be complicated as u see it.It has many factors to consider in marriage,just a year ago I married my love of my life and blessed with a baby boy name mikhail yosef xavier for now I'm happy coz we stick together as one and we jive together even though life brings us down. It is indeed a difficult life but if you cultivate such attitudes that will bring both of us joy and happiness you'll be a great inspiration to others. But how can one be continue to be happy?How will you face the challenges that life has to offer?
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11 responses
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
15 Sep 12
hi jelynbaxa you will face lifes challenges as a couole who love each other and their baby boy Mikhail. continue sticking together as one and you will always face life with happiness. love is the glue that holds marriages together no matter how hard you might have life. two heads solve problems easier than one. Partners stick up for each other and are always there for each other. Living like that is going to make your marriage very strong.
@jelynbaxa (52)
• Philippines
17 Sep 12
Thank you for you response.It is truly a great opportunity to have some people who has concern to me. I'll keep that in mind. Two is better than one. I hope we could make till the end.
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
17 Sep 12
If God gives the challanges then they gives the mind also for solve it. But you are right marriage life is really complicated and face lots of problem. But no option to live life without marriage.
@jelynbaxa (52)
• Philippines
17 Sep 12
Bible principles work for everyone. If we apply them, we too will come to know the secret of family happiness.
@prasanta (1948)
• India
16 Sep 12
Do we truly do anything to encounter the challenges of married life? Can such things be truly done? I am not sure. Unfortunately, I believe, there is some invisible force (call god or anything else as you like), which brings troubles in life, again that only takes us out.
So, I feel challenges of married life are the byproducts of married life. Either do marriage and pass through those, or do not do marriage and pass through the challenges of the unmarried life.
In any case, the choice is at the first instance -- Do or Don't. Then whatever is to come will come -- and will go away also automatically.
@jelynbaxa (52)
• Philippines
17 Sep 12
Constructing a building requires careful preparation.Before the foundation is laid, land must be acquired and plans drawn up.What is true of constructing a building also applies to constructing a successful marriage.While the bible speaks favorably of marriage, it also drawns attention to the challenges that marriage presents.Therefore,those contemplating marriage needs to have realistic view of both the blessings and the costs of being married.
@sizzle3000 (3036)
• United States
16 Sep 12
Marriage is never easy but if you have the right partner than it all works out in the end. I have been married to my husband for 26 years. We have one beutiful daughter that we almost never had because I was not able to carry to term. I had three miscarriages before she was born.We have had our ups and downs as well. We've been broke, we've had extra money here and there and then when my daughter came we had her do the typical mother against father game when she wanted something. Life is not always happieness as my daughter is now learning. She has been married to her husband for 2 years and they have been through ups and downs as well. They've been royally broke and at one point they were literally going hungry because with the bills they didn't make enough to buy food. Now that we all live in the same house again in Tennessee things have changed yet again. This time though things are changing for the better. We are now all happy even with the debt that we're in.
I guess my whole point is that you can be happy no matter what if you have something to be happy for.
@jelynbaxa (52)
• Philippines
17 Sep 12
Two keys to a lasting marriage, the first one is love and the second one is respect for each other. The loving husband will converse with his wife about her activities, her problems, her views on certain matters. A husband who takes the time to speak with his wife and really listens to what she says demonstrates his love and respect for her.The way wives and husbands communicate is important. By working hard to maintain good communication, both husband and wife will feel freeto make their needs known, and they can be sources of comfort and help to each other in times of disappointment or stress. Thank you for sharing your own personal experiences i ought to keep that in mind.thank you....
@leateagee (3667)
• China
16 Sep 12
Married or not life is not easy when you get older. You have to stand on your own and face challenges and the future as an adult. There are no excuses, just consequences.
I am also new in married life but my husband and I try to live a simple life. We always enjoy ourselves and make sure to care for each other. We both work, so during the night, we miss each other so much. We share funny stories and always have time to know each others day.
We don't cultivate pains or bad days. We only spend a few hours so we make sure to have a good laugh. We love to dream so we indulge ourselves in it while having ice cream or anything to eat.
@jelynbaxa (52)
• Philippines
17 Sep 12
Wedding lasts just one day , but marriage lasts a lifetime. Avoiding concentration too much on the act of getting married. Instead, look to Jehovah God for guidance, and plan ahead for a life of being married for preparation for a successful marriage.
@kheydia (882)
• Philippines
17 Sep 12
Just continue to be positive, and you strengthen each other, understand each other and be forgiving, and. Continued courtship, best of all always kneel down. To pray as individual and as a couple, and when your children grows up, pray as a family.. God is mindful of us and our circumstaces in life... Congratulations to you?.
@jelynbaxa (52)
• Philippines
17 Sep 12
Thank you!!!When we submit to Jehovah God's thinking, as revealed in the Bible, and base our relationship on principled love and respect, we can be confident that our marriage will be lasting and happy.
@grkelly (1206)
• Malta
16 Sep 12
Being united and remaining in love are the keys to marital success. Doing things together and spending a suitable amount of time together are crucial.
@jelynbaxa (52)
• Philippines
17 Sep 12
I'll just call it opposite attracts ..Hmmm. He's so silent and I am talkative but we jive together. We faces different challenges though sometimes feels like I'm going to give up but he makes me feel so strong and by the help of our family and friends and also God,I know we will make it.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
16 Sep 12
Everybody goes through life's trials. Certain situations may make you want to give up, but I think with the help of your husband, and having a positive outlook in life, every trial would not be as difficult.
@jelynbaxa (52)
• Philippines
17 Sep 12
Thank you for your comment.God is so good.He will not give a certain problem if we ourselves can't make it.
@Rohitt03011979 (249)
• India
16 Sep 12
Well i think for a happy and long relation honesty,respect for each other,understanding and overall love is very necessary.i havenot procured these words from books or giving lecture.i mean each and every word literally.if you support your partner and you are honest then you can come out of any difficulty.life will be wonderful for you.
@jelynbaxa (52)
• Philippines
17 Sep 12
Honesty is one of the factors that changes the outlook of married people. I hate liars everybody does. So we should be honest about what is happening be open to each other and no secrets trust me its a big no no.
@bknpk333 (37)
• Pakistan
15 Sep 12
Hi Jelynbaxa,
First of all congrats for having baby boy Mikhail Yosef. I wish him a very beautiful and successful life.
Now coming to the topic. Most of the new married couple are unaware of the importance of this relationship. In the start, it all looks good and beautiful. But as the time passes both have to adjust themeselves according to each other. By the passage of time, both the bride and the groom adjust themselves at such a level that their all habits before marriage are changed. They themselves have created an atmosphere that is acceptable to both of them and that is what we call HOME.
if a couple gets succeed in creating understanding among themselves. Then I must say they can face any challenges that life has to offer.
@jelynbaxa (52)
• Philippines
17 Sep 12
Thank you he is indeed a blessing for both of us. He's the one that keeping the joy and happiness in our family. Yeah we must give and take we love each other so we should appreciate each others differences.
@kokomo (1867)
• Philippines
17 Sep 12
Many are asking me why I'm not still getting married with my boyfriend. I just told them that in my situation now It's too hard to engaged into married life because of non stability of work although my boyfriend already has a stabel job. Im not still ready for it.Maybe im just afraid of the responsibility